The continuing adventures of some amazing dude.

[somedude81]

From now on I'll be keeping all my posts about this girl in this thread since our relationship has shifted a bit.

 

At this point we are now "dating" but don't have any titles as it's still really soon.

 

Yesterday was a blast. I found out that she's liked me since around April. I'm not sure, but I may have been a factor in her breaking up with her ex. She came over around 3:30 and we talked about random stuff for an hour. We then did our shopping came back then started to cook. While we waited for the water to boil I went in for a kiss and it turned into a make out.

 

We cooked, ate, she changed into a dress then we got to the club at 8. We had a blast and left a little past 11. Back at my place, we had to go back inside to get her stuff but I could tell she was in no hurry to leave. We talked more, I told her that I wanted her to stay and it was a long drive back. At around 12 she texted her mom to tell her where she was and they had a short back and forth.

 

So it was decided she was staying over, she asked me where she was sleeping. Not sure about the mood I asked her where she would be most comfortable, my bed or the couch, she didn't care either way, so of course I suggested my bed. She asks to borrow a t-shirt and changes in the bathroom. At this point I'm a little confused but I play along. We go to my bed, within seconds start making out. I caress her almost everywhere, go to take off her shirt and then she stops me. OK? She says something like "Nope. I don't know what you were expecting." I say it's fine we kiss, and then she wants to spoon and sleep that way. That was really hot but super uncomfortable. Extremely long night. First time I've ever slept on the same bed wit a girl.

 

We wake up, more making out and heavy petting. Lots of closeness. I finally get her shirt off, we joke a bit because I have a thing for boobs. She lets me touch them basically as much as I want. I bring my face close to them and she tells me that it's going too far and that I have to be patient. More making out and stuff for a bit longer but no sex, and both of us keep our bottoms on. There were a few times where we talked about sex but she kept mentioning patience and her willpower.

 

Finally we get out of bed. She cooks eggs. We talk more. Good bye kiss and she takes off. And now she'll be gone for two weeks as she's visiting family out of state.

 

So everything went much better than I expected and stopped a bit short of amazing. At this point I know we're going to have sex, but I have no idea how long she is going to want me to wait. Right now she is the best thing to ever happen to me and I don't want to screw it up. Though it's definitely going to be a major pain if we have more experiences similar to what just happened. This is the furthest I've ever gone with a "real" girl and the closest I've ever been to having a relationship.

 

And now I have to wait a few weeks to see her again, ugh.

[fortyninethousand322]

In every thread you've posted on this I've had to double check to make sure it wasn't April 1st or Opposite Day or some variation thereof.

 

It's been a long time coming. Hopefully your ship has finally arrived, and it's not one of those cruise lines where you get thrown overboard and lost at sea, or crash into the shore because of a negligent captain. Well, you get the point.

 

I guess, stay cool. Things sound pretty good...

[Star Gazer]

Hey man! Don't cut yourself short and say it "stopped short of amazing." That is AWESOME! And hey, it's only been three dates. The pacing is PERFECT.

 

So happy to hear!!

[ThaWholigan]

This went as well as it could have went. It's at the right pace (you yourself acknowledged that you weren't quite ready to have sex yet) and you will slowly start to become even more comfortable and come out of yourself. This could really be a period of self-discovery for you.

 

I'm happy to hear that everything was good yesterday . Keep an even keel and everything will be OK.

[Phantom888]

That's really great. This girl is very sensible, so she is definitely a keeper. My guess is you'll have sex next time you see her.

[Xinreeki]

Congratulations!! This is all AWESOME news SD!!!

 

 

Right now she is the best thing to ever happen to me and I don't want to screw it up.

 

Though it's definitely going to be a major pain if we have more experiences similar to what just happened.

 

Just one thing... why are these 2 sentences conflicting? Don't let that negativity creep back in and reconquer you!

 

You need to take things at a pace you are both comfortable with. This is the beginning of compromise and the starting point for figuring out your compatible-ness... ...which is what a relationship is all about.. and so far you're doing a great job it sounds like! So nice going!

 

Otherwise awesome news! And I hope things continue to go awesomely for you!

[KungFuJoe]

Sounds like everything went about as well as could be expected. In your case, not having sex actually works out better because it will let you build up to it...but damn...2 weeks she's gone, huh?

 

This will be the longest 2 weeks of your life!

[somedude81]

This went as well as it could have went. It's at the right pace (you yourself acknowledged that you weren't quite ready to have sex yet) and you will slowly start to become even more comfortable and come out of yourself. This could really be a period of self-discovery for you.

 

I'm happy to hear that everything was good yesterday . Keep an even keel and everything will be OK.

Hah! I was certainly ready this morning!

 

But I'm fine with this pace. And it is faster than I expected. But once we were going and then sudden stop. That was hard.

Congratulations!! This is all AWESOME news SD!!!

 

 

 

Just one thing... why are these 2 sentences conflicting? Don't let that negativity creep back in and reconquer you!

 

You need to take things at a pace you are both comfortable with. This is the beginning of compromise and the starting point for figuring out your compatible-ness... ...which is what a relationship is all about.. and so far you're doing a great job it sounds like! So nice going!

 

Otherwise awesome news! And I hope things continue to go awesomely for you!

Hah, so many smilies.

 

No they aren't conflicting.

 

I really wanted to have sex with her, and we were so close for a while. If we keep having experiences of almost having sex but not, I'm going to go insane.

 

As for figuring out if we're compatible, there's no question on my end. Though I'm sure she needs to figure out more stuff, and she just got of a long relationship. I also know that sex means different things to women so she probably wants to protect herself for now.

[MrCastle]

Glad to hear about your recent success. If anyone on the site deserves it, it's you.

 

All I would advise is that you leave the site, or, if not leave, keep what you say about your situation mum.

 

Don't make this a spectacle for people to read about. That added pressure is not necessary.

 

You like her, she likes you, enjoy your situation and handle it naturally.

 

I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate you spilling out every little detail about your dating life on here and if there was ever a situation where she found out (it's been known to happen) it's probably curtains for you.

 

Plus, the conflicting advice from different people may be overload and you'll start overthinking stuff.

 

Just enjoy her company, and move at a pace that works for the both of you. Don't listen to anybody else here, and definitely don't give us the play by play.

 

I know I wasn't the only one saying this.

 

Anyways, good luck friend.

[somedude81]

Sounds like everything went about as well as could be expected. In your case, not having sex actually works out better because it will let you build up to it...but damn...2 weeks she's gone, huh?

 

This will be the longest 2 weeks of your life!

Yeah it's going to suck waiting.

 

But I'm also afraid that she might change her mind and end things before we have sex. It's probably an irrational fear, but crazy stupid things have happened to me. This is the closest I've ever been to having sex with a girl I like and having it go away before I get there would be horrible.

[Star Gazer]

Castle, you say "don't listen to anyone here," but that would include you, right?

 

SD is doing great, and he's acknowledged that but for the advice he received on LS, he wouldn't have made it this far. Let him decide what works for him and what doesn't. So far, it's working!

[Anela]

Hah! I was certainly ready this morning!

 

But I'm fine with this pace. And it is faster than I expected. But once we were going and then sudden stop. That was hard.

 

Hah, so many smilies.

 

No they aren't conflicting.

 

I really wanted to have sex with her, and we were so close for a while. If we keep having experiences of almost having sex but not, I'm going to go insane.

 

As for figuring out if we're compatible, there's no question on my end. Though I'm sure she needs to figure out more stuff, and she just got of a long relationship. I also know that sex means different things to women so she probably wants to protect herself for now.

 

Happy for you.

 

She's just getting more comfortable with you, so it makes sense to me; and as you said, she's just out of a long relationship.

[ThaWholigan]

Hah! I was certainly ready this morning!

 

But I'm fine with this pace. And it is faster than I expected. But once we were going and then sudden stop. That was hard.

 

Welcome to sexual tension - that's gonna happen. Sometimes at inopportune times. I inadvertently did this when I bailed on the night I could have lost my virginity to the girl I eventually lost it to.

 

You gotta get used to that sudden stop. Sometimes, you have to stop yourself! Don't get too carried away. Just keep the pace even. Don't overthink, don't marinade too much on the advice. Just do what you're doing and enjoy being around her.

[MrCastle]

Castle, you say "don't listen to anyone here," but that would include you, right?

 

SD is doing great, and he's acknowledged that but for the advice he received on LS, he wouldn't have made it this far. Let him decide what works for him and what doesn't. So far, it's working!

 

Oh how I've missed your snarkiness.

 

I think Somedude needs to unplug from this site and play things out naturally.

 

Making this into a spectacle is not a wise move in my estimation.

 

He should enjoy the ride, for however long it is, and not analyze every move and post about it for our entertainment.

 

The relationship would be healthier in my opinion if he didn't have LS in the back of his mind every time he made a move.

[fortyninethousand322]

Castle's pretty spot on. I'd temper my posting if I were you, just to not overthink things. Guys like us tend to do that a lot. You can probably turn your brain off too, or at least put it on low power screen saver mode or something. Again, to make sure you don't think too much. That's death for us.

 

And again, good luck and Godspeed.

[somedude81]

Yes having her find out would suck and I doubt she would be understanding.

 

Some of the advice here has been extremely helpful.

 

Once we get to the sex part, my postings will slow down and I'll just trust my gut from then on, unless some off the wall issue pops up.

 

And no, I don't think about LS at all when I'm with her.

[Imajerk17]

I think Mr Castle is spot-on.

 

SD we are happy for you but your worth as a man doesn't come from the way this one girl responds to you. And yes stranger things have happened than someone from "real life" coming on here and seeing this stuff.

[Treasa]

I agree completely with MrCastle, and it's kinda creepy that he's posting all these details about this young girl.

 

I know I can choose not to read, but I didn't know the details would be in there.

 

Plus, no girl, especially no girl you've only been on a few dates with, should EVER be the best thing that's ever happened to you!! She is not the sun in your life, dammit.

 

Ok, done with this thread now. I still have a bad feeling. Sigh.

[USMCHokie]

Hooray, SD didn't f*ck it up!!! :bunny:

 

Congrats, my friend.

[KungFuJoe]

Another one here who agrees with Castle and I actually said it before.

 

That being said, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious about how things were progressing and I'm not gonna try and stop SD if he wants to continue to post the play by play.

[BluEyeL]

Can the threads be erased after a while? Because I want to find out, but I don't want our curiosity and SD's need to talk to ruin his relationship.

[MrCastle]

Yes having her find out would suck and I doubt she would be understanding.

 

Some of the advice here has been extremely helpful.

 

Once we get to the sex part, my postings will slow down and I'll just trust my gut from then on, unless some off the wall issue pops up.

 

And no, I don't think about LS at all when I'm with her.

 

Don't worry about the sex part. You've had sex before. There is no doubt you have gotten some good advice on here but I believe, everything you need to know is inside you. You've been given all the tools. Only you and her know what's going on.

[ThaWholigan]

I agree completely with MrCastle, and it's kinda creepy that he's posting all these details about this young girl.

 

I know I can choose not to read, but I didn't know the details would be in there.

 

Plus, no girl, especially no girl you've only been on a few dates with, should EVER be the best thing that's ever happened to you!! She is not the sun in your life, dammit.

 

Ok, done with this thread now. I still have a bad feeling. Sigh.

Well - I can't say that I'm concerned about how much details he posted because I remember the time when I lost the V, and I posted quite a bit about it.

 

But I agree that he should ABSOLUTELY not make this girl out to be "the best thing ever that happened to him".

 

And he should tone it down a little bit, agreed.

[Imajerk17]

This girl is "the best thing that ever happened to you" if this experience is what gets your mojo back REGARDLESS OF whether it lasts or not.

 

As in you understand that you can attract a woman, and you feel the passion to *ahem* finish up and graduate and get the rest of your life on track. Which is what I hope you will be focusing on in the two weeks she is home or wherever.

[RogerWallace111]

Glad it's goin well

 

Strongly agree with Castle though. In fact, personally, I just see this site as a spot to share gripes and vent about/receive advice on tough situations. Let all positive situations like this play out naturally. Telling your friends about will be more than adequate.

 

Be yourself and enjoy life