Anela Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 This girl is "the best thing that ever happened to you" if this experience is what gets your mojo back REGARDLESS OF whether it lasts or not. As in you understand that you can attract a woman, and you feel the passion to *ahem* finish up and graduate and get the rest of your life on track. Which is what I hope you will be focusing on in the two weeks she is home or wherever. Yes, this is what I was thinking. There are a few people I can think of, who posted only a little bit and then kept the rest private, and they seem to be still going strong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Glad it's goin well Strongly agree with Castle though. In fact, personally, I just see this site as a spot to share gripes and vent about/receive advice on tough situations. Let all positive situations like this play out naturally. Telling your friends about will be more than adequate. Be yourself and enjoy life I somewhat disagree. I think we need more positive stories on LS. Seems like there's nothing but complaining and gender bashing and hopeless situations and depression around here. I know I've posted many a positive story over in the sex forum. There's just some things you can't really tell friends without sounding like you're bragging or boasting. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 (edited) I agree completely with MrCastle, and it's kinda creepy that he's posting all these details about this young girl. I know I can choose not to read, but I didn't know the details would be in there. Plus, no girl, especially no girl you've only been on a few dates with, should EVER be the best thing that's ever happened to you!! She is not the sun in your life, dammit. Ok, done with this thread now. I still have a bad feeling. Sigh. Over investing emotionally will set you up for disappointment. That goes for anyone. He should just go with the flow. I understand his threads are juicy and sure, we all want to read them, but again, not that I believe in jinxes per se--it's best to keep things to a minimum. Don't give us details. Don't make it a spectacle. He's happy, she's happy, and we're happy for him. That's enough. His call obviously but I'm willing to bet things would be even more awesome if he unplugged from this site and saw how things went. And not feel somewhat dependent on the advice of others but gain confidence in knowing every move was made by him and him only. Just my two cents. Edited June 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 6 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Another one here who agrees with Castle and I actually said it before. That being said, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious about how things were progressing and I'm not gonna try and stop SD if he wants to continue to post the play by play. Well, hopefully he's changing some of the mundane details. I know I do when I post about specific situations. That said, I think one person did change their mind after reading a thread I posted. I can't prove it, but I think that's what happened... Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Share Posted June 7, 2013 Considering my history on this site. This is basically the only positive experience with a woman I've had since I joined. So forgive me if I want to post about it. Many of you knew how I desperately wanted a GF for so long, and I'm finally actually close to making it happen. So I'm excited and terrified. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Oh how I've missed your snarkiness. There hasn't been one ounce of snark from me in this thread. "Happiness isn't real unless shared." Let him enjoy it. He's growing, he's learning, it's helping him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Actually, seeing him so happy and posting about this, has given me some hope about other things - and reminds me of why I've been trying to stay cheerful. Things can turn around in an instant. I know that with men and relationships, even friendships (due to my own experiences), I've found myself thinking at times, "This should be so much easier." I'd wake up feeling relaxed and think of situations that could have gone differently, had I been more relaxed or just gone for it. I've mentioned this to SD before. He's met someone who brings this out in him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Considering my history on this site. This is basically the only positive experience with a woman I've had since I joined. So forgive me if I want to post about it. Many of you knew how I desperately wanted a GF for so long, and I'm finally actually close to making it happen. So I'm excited and terrified. Yeah I agree, you should have your victory lap. Just don't over think or post anything that would make it easy for this girl to find your posts. Unless she's ok with it, which I wouldn't ask her about, so... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Share Posted June 7, 2013 (edited) Over investing emotionally will set you up for disappointment. That goes for anyone. He should just go with the flow. I understand his threads are juicy and sure, we all want to read them, but again, not that I believe in jinxes per se--it's best to keep things to a minimum. Don't give us details. Don't make it a spectacle. He's happy, she's happy, and we're happy for him. That's enough. His call obviously but I'm willing to bet things would be even more awesome if he unplugged from this site and saw how things went. And not feel somewhat dependent on the advice of others but gain confidence in knowing every move was made by him and him only. Just my two cents. Wow, three different people emailed you about me?! And hey, welcome back. I haven't seen you in a while. The postings will slow down and I leave out a lot of details and will leave out even more in the future. Edited June 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Considering my history on this site. This is basically the only positive experience with a woman I've had since I joined. So forgive me if I want to post about it. Many of you knew how I desperately wanted a GF for so long, and I'm finally actually close to making it happen. So I'm excited and terrified. Teehee! That's how it goes!! Unfortunately, these things are more akin to marathons than sprints. You gotta enjoy and suffer through each mile to reach the promised land. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Good stuff SD. Regarding your current threads and posting on LS, I wouldn't worry about it. You have been posting here for YEARS and over this period of time I'm sure you have said things that you wouldn't want this girl to find out. Just keep your LS life private. Moving forward for the next 2 weeks continue enjoying communicating, learning about each other and building up sexual tension You'll have her taking off your cloths before long 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Actually, seeing him so happy and posting about this, has given me some hope about other things - and reminds me of why I've been trying to stay cheerful. Things can turn around in an instant. So true! The truth is, out of 7 billion people in the world, it only takes one to make it all worth while. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Actually, seeing him so happy and posting about this, has given me some hope about other things - and reminds me of why I've been trying to stay cheerful. Things can turn around in an instant. I know that with men and relationships, even friendships (due to my own experiences), I've found myself thinking at times, "This should be so much easier." I'd wake up feeling relaxed and think of situations that could have gone differently, had I been more relaxed or just gone for it. I've mentioned this to SD before. He's met someone who brings this out in him. Oh believe me, I totally agree with the happy part. It's a reminder that you really just don't know when your luck will turn around and given how tortured he has been dating wise, we're all happy for him. Every single member on this site is. And it's refreshing to see a positive thread and one that isn't woe is me or gender bashing. Agreed on all of that. I just think details are not needed. The OP about feeling her boobs, trying to have sex, grabbing more boobs etc, is not needed. All that we as onlookers should know is that he's finally happy with a woman. Now, if legit problems arise, things that require outside input, that's different. But making a thread documenting every move, like a journal, is the wrong move in my opinion. It's overload. Yes, she should be a significant part of his life, but when he's not with her, he's writing about her. That leads to overthinking and over analyzing. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Wow, three different people emailed you about me?! And hey, welcome back. I haven't seen you in a while. The postings will slow down and I leave out a lot of details and will leave out even more in the future. The last girl I dated hardly anybody knew about because I posted so little about it. So yeah, I certainly understand the calls for you to tone it down after my shenanigans last year . FWIW, we are ALL happy for you here . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 SD! YAY! Just relax, dude. You're doing fine. Don't overthink things. Just pay attention to what's going on and go with your gut. And, most important of all, enjoy. Considering my history on this site. This is basically the only positive experience with a woman I've had since I joined. So forgive me if I want to post about it. Definitely, but it might be better to cut back on the details a bit. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Wow, three different people emailed you about me?! And hey, welcome back. I haven't seen you in a while. The postings will slow down and I leave out a lot of details and will leave out even more in the future. Yeah lol. People seem to really care about you and your goings on it seems. First email was: Hey did you hear about somedude? He found a new girl! I was like oh that's cool. I'm happy for him. Second email was: Somedude is dating some new girl, I'm happy for him! I was like haha well, he deserves it. Third email was: Hey did you hear about somedude?! He's doing better than both of us right now! I was like alright, let me see what's going on here... I came back specifically to congratulate you and will do the same for 49 if anyone emails me about him when his time comes. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 As for the two weeks, just try to keep a steady momentum, maintain the contact and flirty innuendo and stuff. It'll build the tension. But don't make it all sexual and most certainly don't ease up or back off, or she might think because you didn't hit it, you're over it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Oh believe me, I totally agree with the happy part. It's a reminder that you really just don't know when your luck will turn around and given how tortured he has been dating wise, we're all happy for him. Every single member on this site is. And it's refreshing to see a positive thread and one that isn't woe is me or gender bashing. Agreed on all of that. I just think details are not needed. The OP about feeling her boobs, trying to have sex, grabbing more boobs etc, is not needed. All that we as onlookers should know is that he's finally happy with a woman. Now, if legit problems arise, things that require outside input, that's different. But making a thread documenting every move, like a journal, is the wrong move in my opinion. It's overload. Yes, she should be a significant part of his life, but when he's not with her, he's writing about her. That leads to overthinking and over analyzing. Understood. I over-analyze and got screwed up because of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Oh believe me, I totally agree with the happy part. It's a reminder that you really just don't know when your luck will turn around and given how tortured he has been dating wise, we're all happy for him. Every single member on this site is. And it's refreshing to see a positive thread and one that isn't woe is me or gender bashing. Agreed on all of that. I just think details are not needed. The OP about feeling her boobs, trying to have sex, grabbing more boobs etc, is not needed. All that we as onlookers should know is that he's finally happy with a woman. Now, if legit problems arise, things that require outside input, that's different. But making a thread documenting every move, like a journal, is the wrong move in my opinion. It's overload. Yes, she should be a significant part of his life, but when he's not with her, he's writing about her. That leads to overthinking and over analyzing. For you, someone who knows how to navigate relationships and building physical intimacy, details would just be...weird. But SD is still in a "learning how to" phase. Not like specifically how to grope or stick it in but in how to handle building physical intimacy and respond to her resistance. For him, context of the details is more important. For the inexperienced, it's just gratuitous erotica. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 I came back specifically to congratulate you and will do the same for 49 if anyone emails me about him when his time comes. I plan on having a parade when I finally kiss a girl... 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 For you, someone who knows how to navigate relationships and building physical intimacy, [/Quote] A ha; aww shucks details would just be...weird.[/Quote] But SD is still in a "learning how to" phase. Not like specifically how to grope or stick it in but in how to handle building physical intimacy and respond to her resistance. For him, context of the details is more important. For the inexperienced, it's just gratuitous erotica. Hey, look, my dating life is pretty dry right now so I'm reading his threads with one hand down my pants like everyone else, but I'm thinking long term here. It's better if he unplugs. I was in his very situation. Inexperience and all that. What I knew though, was that I just needed a girl to let me do the stuff I wanted to do to her. That's it. That's what was holding me back. Not fear of not knowing how to do it, but frustraton from not finding someone who would let me. He has had sex before. He knows the basics. I think, as I said before, everything he needs to know is in him. He's going to know how to handle her body when the opportunity presents itself. He's played this scenario over in his head every night for at least the past 10 years or however long he's gone without a serious prospect. He knows what has to be done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Well, congratulations SD! It goes to show that all you needed was to meet a woman who genuinely likes you. There's no trick to it. ^_^ 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Woohoo Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Congrats SD! You have had one great run so far. Only advice I can give you is to be sure and express "she is making you want her." When a question comes up do not differ to what is comfortable, say what you want, and be sure and say that it is her "making you want it/turning you on/whatever." Great job dude. Great job. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Yeah lol. People seem to really care about you and your goings on it seems. First email was: Hey did you hear about somedude? He found a new girl! I was like oh that's cool. I'm happy for him. Second email was: Somedude is dating some new girl, I'm happy for him! I was like haha well, he deserves it. Third email was: Hey did you hear about somedude?! He's doing better than both of us right now! I was like alright, let me see what's going on here... I came back specifically to congratulate you and will do the same for 49 if anyone emails me about him when his time comes. I can't believe these people are emailing you about SD, well that's nuts 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 Is this girl a virgin? I thought she had a boyfriend previously? Link to post Share on other sites
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