The continuing adventures of some amazing dude.

[USMCHokie]

However real advice really should come from friends and people closer to you - not the board.

 

I think folks on the board are the closest people to him...I seriously doubt he opens up to anyone in real life like he does to us on the board...

 

Just sayin'...

[jma500]

A success story is a nice change of pace for LS. I am glad someone was able to change their life while they were still young and not be a lifelong idiot such as myself. Congrats and good luck.

[ChessPieceFace]

In every thread you've posted on this I've had to double check to make sure it wasn't April 1st or Opposite Day or some variation thereof.

 

Counting down to the post where he's posting from a library since his computer and all of his furniture were stolen after she "conveniently" left his door unlocked and then also skipped town, LOL.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Counting down to the post where he's posting from a library since his computer and all of his furniture were stolen after she "conveniently" left his door unlocked and then also skipped town, LOL.

 

 

I am waiting for the day SD posts "I am feeling so good about myself right now, I wonder if I can get hotter girl with bigger boobs".

[USMCHokie]

I am waiting for the day SD posts "I am feeling so good about myself right now, I wonder if I can get hotter girl with bigger boobs".

 

SD's growing up right before our very eyes...

[ThaWholigan]

I am waiting for the day SD posts "I am feeling so good about myself right now, I wonder if I can get hotter girl with bigger boobs".

I'd give him a tad more credit than that

[Eternal Sunshine]

I'd give him a tad more credit than that

 

I really, truly hope so

[William]

As an advisory, since this forum is readable widely and cached on Google, be cautious with any personally identifiable information shared which can be connected with other similar information shared in the past.

 

Also, please refrain from making any explicit sexual references or describing sexual acts while posting in this forum. There is a more private sexual practices forum where such postings are to be made. Thanks.

[somedude81]

I enjoyed all the details haha. Great job.

 

Just remember how you were bold when you were waiting for the water to boil. Don't fall to hard for this girl yet. Stay guarded. If she's not going to far away, like only a few hour drive consider going to visit her for some fun. Also if things don't work out you can pull this off again. I hope things do work out. You can handle it if it doesn't though.

 

Enjoy this. Songs will sound better, there will be a skip in your step. You're falling for this girl and it's great. Just remember to be confident in yourself.

Nope, she's going too far to visit so I'll have to wait.

 

I haven't fallen or yet, and I think it's because we haven't spent enough time together. Her going away isn't helping.

Not for nothing, Somedude81, but your story is pretty fascinating. I've been following it for a while.

 

I'm glad to hear that things are going well, but what impresses me more is that you really seem to have turned a corner psychologically. Like when you said, "All I need is one attractive woman to like me and I'll be a new man." it seems like you were right the whole time. I can tell it in your posts. You seem like a new person. Others here seem to date and date, but a lot of their attitudes and posts stay the same. You really seem to have changed your attitude and interaction with other posters and your attitude towards women. It's not only noticeable, it's pretty compelling.

Hey I've been saying it all along. I'm depressed and angry because I don't enjoy being alone.

 

Event though it's way too soon to call her my GF, I can already feel the negativity going away. All I'd have to do is forget my past and the many failures, and just live in the present.

Contrast that to the woman who you were obsessed with a while ago and your attitude back then. I think a lot has to do with luck and approach. You tempered your investment, would not accept the friendzone, and adopted a more shotgun approach. But I'll tell you. You were lucky. I thought more likely, you would find a girl that you had lukewarm attraction to who had lukewarm attraction to you, and you'd start off with your first one that way. So, your attitude might have stayed the same if that were the case. But you really seem to have struck gold with someone you're emotionally and physically into. And I'm happy for you.

Yeah I won the lottery with this girl. No she's not Kate Upton, but she's way above and beyond my base minimum. Neither of our attraction to each other can be called lukewarm.

 

Frankly I was almost in denial after our first kiss because women I'm interested simply don't like me back, they never have.

 

Luck has played a super huge part in this. I wouldn't be surprised if one night I'm visited by an angel telling me that God set this up and that I'll have to donate all my possessions if I want to keep her.

 

It only takes one. Who knows? This could be the end of the story for you dating wise.

Nah I really doubt that. We are both near transition points in our lives and may end up moving out of the area. None of us have talked about it yet. I think the key is to just enjoy or time together and see what happens. For now, the future is none of my concern.

I think you should write a memoir of your dating experiences and sell it to struggling men the world over.

 

It's inspiring stuff.

Hah, maybe if I get a couple more experiences. Otherwise I'd just call it Lucky Dude.

 

(More to come)

[Els]

I think the key is to just enjoy or time together and see what happens. For now, the future is none of my concern.

 

Sounds like a good idea.

 

I have to say, I'm pretty amazed how grounded you are this time around. Definitely a lot of learning/growing since the last big crush. You've come a long way, young padawan. :laugh:

[Els]

Oh, and the bed thing - totally normal. Frankly, I've only ever slept over with guys after dating for a couple of months at least, and even then I rarely got good sleep for the first few times or so. Can't imagine trying to sleep next to someone whom I'm still in early dating stage with and still nervous around, albeit in a good way . I probably would have stayed awake all night worrying about what'd happen if I farted really loudly or something.

[somedude81]

It sucks that she's going away for 2 weeks.

 

Although, Somedude - it could be good to have this time, to well, calm down a bit!

 

This is all a lot to process, since you wanted a girlfriend so badly, and not only have you got that: this is the first girl that you have actually liked!

 

I honestly think that the time away is a good thing.... being happy is one thing, and somedude SHOULD be happy!!!!!!

And somedude is happy

 

This is honestly great! But I do think he needs to calm down a little. Saying she's the best thing that has ever happened and also the fact he admitted that he was desperate for a girlfriend? I agree with Treasa, that this could be a cause for concern.

Just to make things clear, I have not told her that I've been desperate for a GF or that I think she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm being very careful of how much I say to her. I'm always completely honest, but not giving her complete disclosure, because I know that will scare her away.

 

Considering that a lot of crap has happened in my life and I've never really been happy, I don't get what's wrong with saying that she's the best thing that has happened to me. There's a girl I like who likes me back, and she was in my bed and I saw her boobs. That was amazing!

Just take this time to compose yourself. Yes it is great you have finally found this girl, but try not to let it rule your whole life too much....... try to find a balance between being really into her, yet knowing that it may or may not work out.

Thanks for the concern but there is no real need to compose myself at this point. I'm not head over heels for her. I like her, but it's nowhere even close to the obsession I've had for other girls.

 

I just don't want to see you too upset if things don't work out, and you have a lot to lose due to placing such emphasis on needing a girlfriend.

If it doesn't work out, I'll be bummed, but it won't destroy me. Of course I'm only saying this based on how our relationship is now. If we were together two months down the line and she ends it, I may feel completely different.

 

OMG though it really made my day though, to read about you finally having the chance to have a girl enjoy all that you have to offer.

 

Good luck with it all. Try not to think too much or hard about it. Yet you will think a lot about her LOL. You know, just try to not obsess tooooo much

Thanks for the kind thoughts.

Good deal!

 

Keep your time here limited - as in relaying all the details.

 

Not because of the people here but you need not to be reliant on the advice of others for each and every step along the way. It won't help you as it develops.

 

Updates - few and far between are great.

 

However real advice really should come from friends and people closer to you - not the board.

 

No offense board.

Ok, offense.

Hah, there are no real people other than my immediate family.

 

I don't see myself needing that much advice from now on unless something crazy happens. I pretty much have things covered from now on, but I do acknowledge that the board has helped me greatly.

Alright SD! Got some boobie action lol! I do admint in the midst of your sucess I do feel jealous but ready to break through brother and start a loveshack streak brother!

 

I do have to ask:) When things got heavy and the moment when all the overanalyzing went away and your man instincts kicked in wasn't that aweseome?

Heh, instincts. Yeah it was good. There are things I wanted to do for basically forever. And many more I still want to.

SomeAmazingDude81. Definitely sounds better.

 

Wow, she's liked you since April? And there you were thinking that she'd just reject you like the others. Goes to show how important it is to actually give it a shot, huh?

Yeah, I felt something was off for a while because she was so friendly to me. But she had a boyfriend which just left me really confused.

 

The actual key was that she remained in contact and initiated a few conversations, which in my experience, women simply don't do. So she was basically telling me that it as OK to ask her out.

 

Which of course, was the first time in my entire life that it happened from a girl I considered to be attractive.

 

There was another girl I was trying to pursue at the same time and she ended up doing the fade on me.

 

It really is the shotgun approach and I go after any girl that seems to give half a damn about me. Finally I got lucky.

I think it takes lots of people a while to get used to sleeping with someone new if they're used to sleeping alone. I know I don't sleep well in that situation. Maybe your friend didn't sleep too well, either, so if you're looking for something to start a conversation with you could ask her.

She was actually completely fine with it and she said she can basically sleep through anything.

 

As for me, I've never shared a bed with anybody before, didn't know what to do with my arms and really really wanted to have sex with her. It was hot but very uncomfortable.

[jma500]

And somedude is happy

 

Just to make things clear, I have not told her that I've been desperate for a GF or that I think she's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm being very careful of how much I say to her. I'm always completely honest, but not giving her complete disclosure, because I know that will scare her away.

 

Considering that a lot of crap has happened in my life and I've never really been happy, I don't get what's wrong with saying that she's the best thing that has happened to me. There's a girl I like who likes me back, and she was in my bed and I saw her boobs. That was amazing!

Thanks for the concern but there is no real need to compose myself at this point. I'm not head over heels for her. I like her, but it's nowhere even close to the obsession I've had for other girls.

 

If it doesn't work out, I'll be bummed, but it won't destroy me. Of course I'm only saying this based on how our relationship is now. If we were together two months down the line and she ends it, I may feel completely different.

 

Thanks for the kind thoughts.

 

Hah, there are no real people other than my immediate family.

 

I don't see myself needing that much advice from now on unless something crazy happens. I pretty much have things covered from now on, but I do acknowledge that the board has helped me greatly.

 

Heh, instincts. Yeah it was good. There are things I wanted to do for basically forever. And many more I still want to.

 

Yeah, I felt something was off for a while because she was so friendly to me. But she had a boyfriend which just left me really confused.

 

The actual key was that she remained in contact and initiated a few conversations, which in my experience, women simply don't do. So she was basically telling me that it as OK to ask her out.

 

Which of course, was the first time in my entire life that it happened from a girl I considered to be attractive.

 

There was another girl I was trying to pursue at the same time and she ended up doing the fade on me.

 

It really is the shotgun approach and I go after any girl that seems to give half a damn about me. Finally I got lucky.

 

She was actually completely fine with it and she said she can basically sleep through anything.

 

As for me, I've never shared a bed with anybody before, didn't know what to do with my arms and really really wanted to have sex with her. It was hot but very uncomfortable.

Take it from someone who has never had these experiences and more than likely never will. You are extremely lucky. Women like you have described are few and far between in this world. Congrats.

Edited June 8, 2013 by jma500

[somedude81]

You know I've been watching this and people gave him all kinds of advice but he picked the advice he wanted all along the way. He picked to ask her out on that first date. He picked to go for a week date because she was going away soon.

 

Some more advice, you might already know that there is an unwritten rule that when you sexually enjoy a girl for the first time which you definitely did yesterday, you're supposed to call her the next day. So you should definitely give her a call today and let her know that you like her and can't wait to see her again. Something like that. "I just wanted to call to let you know I'm thinking of you and can't wait to see you again." You could leave it as a message if she doesn't pick up.

Ah, this is similar to something that I've been wanting to post about.

 

We've gotten into the habit of text back and forth just about every night for a couple of hours. This has been going on for almost a couple of weeks. And of course, we just had our third date. While I do enjoy talking with her, I think it's a bit much. Is this standard for dating a young woman?

 

So I didn't call her and tell her that I like her and such because we already texted about it. Plus we talked a bit in the morning before she took off.

 

Heck we're texting back and forth right now.

I am waiting for the day SD posts "I am feeling so good about myself right now, I wonder if I can get hotter girl with bigger boobs".

Hah! Maybe later. She does have D's, which is satisfactory for now.

 

Down the line I'd like to experience G's

Sounds like a good idea.

 

I have to say, I'm pretty amazed how grounded you are this time around. Definitely a lot of learning/growing since the last big crush. You've come a long way, young padawan. :laugh:

Right now I'm not crushing on her that hard.

 

It's probably because I was into her then I found out she had a BF, then lost that interest and moved on to other girls. And now that interest is starting to come back. One thing for sure is that I'm lusting after her hardcore. It's much stronger for her than any girl before.

[SJC2008]

Right now I'm not crushing on her that hard.

 

SD I could be wrong but we're very similar so this may be because you know she like you and it's not fueling your subconscious fire to win a woman over (all due respect of course). We need to want women who like us! Be yourself, take it one step at a time and don't self sabotage yourself.

[somedude81]

SD I could be wrong but we're very similar so this may be because you know she like you and it's not fueling your subconscious fire to win a woman over (all due respect of course). We need to want women who like us! Be yourself, take it one step at a time and don't self sabotage yourself.

Hmm, you may or may not be correct.

 

I have felt that this is a bit easy, since I didn't have to chase her that hard. But I've always been told that it's supposed to be easy when a girl likes you.

 

Also she said no to sex, so she is making me work for that.

 

 

I think a big part of it is that I've only seen her once a week since class ended, and what really makes me fall for girls is spending a lot of time with them.

[SJC2008]

Hmm, you may or may not be correct.

 

I have felt that this is a bit easy, since I didn't have to chase her that hard. But I've always been told that it's supposed to be easy when a girl likes you.

 

Also she said no to sex, so she is making me work for that.

 

 

I think a big part of it is that I've only seen her once a week since class ended, and what really makes me fall for girls is spending a lot of time with them.

 

Well she likes you so half the battle is won. You can be yourself and don't have to walk around on egg shells. Be glad she turned down sex on the 3rd date. You're dating a woman who isn't going to give it up to just anyone and you should be proud of that! Sooner or later it'll happen, just let things happen naturally.

[Zio Corda]

I have felt that this is a bit easy, since I didn't have to chase her that hard. But I've always been told that it's supposed to be easy when a girl likes you.

 

Don't go out of your way to question it. Pretty much from day one things have been effortless with the woman I ended up marrying. We often laugh about it since so many people say that relationships take work.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

Ah, this is similar to something that I've been wanting to post about.

 

We've gotten into the habit of text back and forth just about every night for a couple of hours. This has been going on for almost a couple of weeks. And of course, we just had our third date. While I do enjoy talking with her, I think it's a bit much. Is this standard for dating a young woman?

 

So I didn't call her and tell her that I like her and such because we already texted about it. Plus we talked a bit in the morning before she took off.

 

Heck we're texting back and forth right now.

 

Hah! Maybe later. She does have D's, which is satisfactory for now.

 

Down the line I'd like to experience G's

 

Right now I'm not crushing on her that hard.

 

It's probably because I was into her then I found out she had a BF, then lost that interest and moved on to other girls. And now that interest is starting to come back. One thing for sure is that I'm lusting after her hardcore. It's much stronger for her than any girl before.

 

I think every guy should try fake boobs once in his life.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I think every guy should try fake boobs once in his life.

 

 

There are natural Gs you know...

[KathyM]

I'm kind of glad she's making you wait for it. It's a good thing that she doesn't give it up so easily for every guy she dates. Be patient with her and don't pressure her for sex. Just continue to be affectionate and focus on getting to know her in other ways, and focus on building the relationship. She wants to feel like you are interested in getting to know her and spending time with her, and not just interested in getting laid. So don't make the relationship all about sex, as if that is the most important thing.

[BluEyeL]

I'm happy for SD, but I think having sex at the third date, and tops coming off at the second is hardly "waiting". It's just the trip that is making him wait. Just saying.

[KathyM]

I'm happy for SD, but I think having sex at the third date, and tops coming off at the second is hardly "waiting". It's just the trip that is making him wait. Just saying.

She turned him down for sex on the third date. She was not ready for it. The fact that she had to go out of town for two weeks is not why she wanted to wait. She just wasn't ready for it yet this early in the relationship.

[BluEyeL]

She turned him down for sex on the third date. She was not ready for it. The fact that she had to go out of town for two weeks is not why she wanted to wait. She just wasn't ready for it yet this early in the relationship.

 

Oh, I thought it was the second date, my bad.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

There are natural Gs you know...

 

Yeah, but that girl would probably be pretty fat.

 

Still though, I think every man should get his hands on some fake boobs at least once in his life.