How to rope in a highly-desired man

[nickkelly9]

Lol I cannot relate to anything in this thread. Even though I know it happens, the idea of women chasing after a man is so foreign to me. I cannot comprehend what it must be like to have a woman pursuing my attention, let alone one.

 

I honestly feel like if I don't put myself out there, then women will just ignore me until I finally shrivel up and die.

 

I guess that's the difference between me and a "highly desirable" man. Yikes.

[Phoe]

You guys make me LAUGH!!!

 

I wish I could show you a picture of myself. You'd look at me and call me VERY "natural."

 

Men are so naive sometimes. Even the most "natural" women spend time on their appearance. Let's take two basic tenets of attractiveness: a good body and a nice tan. Not a gross tan...just a nice glow.

 

To maintain my body, I work out four-five times a week. I'd maintain this is a pretty serious commitment.

 

Now, unless you're dating someone who is constantly outside, her tan is probably either a fake bake or the result of some sort of self-tanning product. Maintaining this is relatively time-consuming.

 

Now let's talk about hair. Do you know how much time/money goes into maintaining highlights? MOST women have dyed hair.

 

My "everyday" makeup routine takes five-ten minutes. When I go out at night I spend longer on my hair and makeup.

 

When I know I have a big date, I usually take 1.5 hours to get ready so I can go slow and enjoy the process.

 

And don't forget about things like mani/pedi, brows, waxing etc!

 

So, next time you see a woman and think how beautiful and natural she looks, think again. It takes time to look good unless you are a professional female surfer, which so far are the ONLY breed of women I've found who look fantastic ALL the time with very little effort. Oh, and even Alana Blanchard wears waterproof eyeliner!

 

 

 

o.O

 

 

plenty of women keep it low maintenance.

 

 

I don't tan, I don't dye my hair, I rarely even use heat on it, I just let it be. Makeup consists of a lil concealer and mascara. Maybe eyeliner if I feel like it.

Once a week I give myself a simple pedicure and manicure to keep things groomed.

 

 

Minimal time and minimal money. And I don't think that I look haggard because of it *shrug*

[tbf]

I CAN attract the top 5% of the male population. That's not the problem.

 

My problem is trying to figure out how to KEEP them. Logically, I know it's because I let my imagination get ahead of me/get too attached/overlook bad behavior because I'm so into the guy.

 

I am looking for practical, actual strategies to KEEP the guy long-term.

 

Anyway, I really think these threads are like therapy. Sometimes you just need to hash out your problems in writing to see the solution.

You promote games and then, can't understand why these men don't stick around. It's the exact reason why PUA guys have such major difficulties when it comes to transforming their dating into relationships.

 

There's a tripod to emotionally healthy, long-term relationships. They're built on the foundation of trust, respect and love where there's strong and honest communication between partners. Games won't build any or lasting foundations.

 

I didn't land my husband. We landed each other, arms and legs entwined.