sassyone Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 My husband and i have always been into adventerous things where sex is concerned and he always likes me to have 3somes with another female with him. I'm curious myself, and one night it kind of happened with my best friend. Everything was going fine until my husband started paying her attention and i got totally jealous and flipped out. Me and my best friend have never spoken since...it ruined our friendship...although i'd like to try it again with someone im not so close to i cant help but think im going to be exaclty the same. Has anyone got sny ideas on how i can overcome the jealousy factor so that we can actually have some fun? Link to post Share on other sites
aFighter Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 sounds to me like you love him too much to share. maybe you should abandon the idea of a three-way for now and go patch things up with your friend? You can always do a three-way later but good friends are hard to find. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 Has anyone got sny ideas on how i can overcome the jealousy factor so that we can actually have some fun? If you are still of the idea you might enjoy a threesome after what happened, pay a professional -that is, a prostitute. You'll have to use protection. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 Isn't making love with your boyfriend alone good and fun enough? When the sexlife gets abit boring why not rent some porn, watch it together or go buy some fun toys! Or a blow up F**K Doll or something! Seems to me you are not the type to handle seeing your lover with someone else...It is silly that you allowed a 3 some with your bestfriend and ofcourse you got hurt! I'm sure before it happened you didn't think it would matter, but you got hurt and jealous..SO WHY would you want to do another 3-some when you KNOW it will only hurt you??? Bestfriend in there or not, doesn't matter who the 3rd woman is, You are going to get jealous! Does it have to be another woman? Why not a man? Is your lover going to be jealous of that situation? Just things to think about...Seems though that 3some's are not the best thing, especially since you lost your bestfriend over it. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 I've rarely heard of successful threesomes. Instead, I hear of the jealousy, anger, and hurt that they engender. "Sex triangles" don't seem any more desirable than "Love triangles". Think about it... Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 i have had 3somes before, and none of them have turned out well. i was always the other women and it always caused problems w/the couple. i think i might react like you did if i was willing to do it with my bf. that is why i won't do it with him. the first thing i can think of for you to do is patch things up with your friend. Link to post Share on other sites
MstrsCnt Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 You might want to have another 3some with someone you both agree on ahead of time . Keep your close friends as close friends & remember it keeps it alive to have your close friends in fantasy , but in real life , choosing someone you are not connected to is best . That way there is no emotional fallout , or loss of friendship . Best wishes in all your adventures Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 My wife and I have talked about this in great detail. We talked about who we would pick....of course they were all friends of ours. But we talked about how we would approach them.....and in the end we figured it just wouldn;t work....you cant f**k your friends.....at least we dont think we could. But the fact is, the more we talked about it, the more we felt it wasnt right for us, NOW......maybe in the future, but I doubt it.....so we decided to keep these thoughts in our fanasties. And if we do decide to do this later in life....we would search out a couple who is into this stuff (swinger groups, etc..), and keep this relationship strictly for what it is...SEX only, not friends. And we would have to have a mutal agreement/attraction with these people. Link to post Share on other sites
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