Mone' Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=violet][/color] Well here I am yet another the "other woman" and yet feel as I am the only satisfied one. Maybe I am the only one that has a happy ending in sight? I hope there are others out there because everyone needs some one to love. Let me tell you my story...... I met this very attractive "older" gentleman back in December of last year. From the moment I met him, we clicked. I was a dancer back then and he became a regular customer of mine. Before I knew it I wasn't dancing anymore, I was in school again and was taking the most exquisite trips to the most beautifull places I could've imagined. He has beed married for 25 years and has 2 teenage children. I myself have 2 children. I was being treated like I have never been treated before. He loves me, truely deep down loves me. The time we share is very vaulable and theres plenty of it. I have tried to leave him, but it never works. The other guys just can't take his place. He is a part of my routine, my children, my family and it feels so good! If he's not at work or between meetings he's with me. I don't know how to think sometimes and it becomes very hard to deal with but I believe that the good out weighs the bad. I have read some of these forums and responses to the stories told on here and they are all very similar. I know that I have something special.. to see a grown man cry and lose his mind when I walk away from us and what we have although not generated in the best situation still matters and means allot. Love happens for various reasons and I feel bad that it had to be with someones husband but he's a happier person. I've spoken to his friends, and to the people who works for him and they tell me sooo much. He has never once badmouthed his wife and told me that she was a beautifull person and has done a lot for him in his family and thats what hurts him the most. I started this story in a different manner and now I think I'm trying to justify what I'm doing. His wife knows about what he is doing, and I'm waiting to see whats going to happen but until then I'm gonna start my day with him and end it with him. These have been the happiest days of my life so far and I don't want to lose them. How does someone survive in this situation? Are there any other wormen with a similiar situation with some sort of advice? Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 Mone I'm very understanding of your situation. I tried to send you a PM but it wasn't letting me, I'm not sure why either. Anyways, I would like to help as much as I can. What's the situation with your mom. I've been going through problems with my mom as well. I'm sure I can relate. Let me know how I can help. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 Some things just happen for a reason and it's just best to accept it as it is. Don't justify to anyone, if you feel okay, he's okay and who knows maybe his wife will be okay and loving the fact he's so happy?? I wouldn't stress or worry about it until you need to. Sounds like you are extremely happy and in a good spot right now. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 check your settings if you have PM settings turned on. I think you might have it set so you can't recieve private messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mone' Posted October 11, 2004 Author Share Posted October 11, 2004 Hey, I've checked my options and my pm is on. I don't understand why that could be happening. Anyway, thank you for being there for me and the same goes for you g-tabitha, if I can lend an ear just let me know. We all need support, besides, who can we really turn to with our situations? My mother really likes my mm and thinks the world of him but her life is a little miserable to for me to talk to her about him as much as I wish is kinda cruel. We have all spent lots of time together and of course she keeps my kids when we go away for mini vacations. Sometimes she jsut gets tired of it, ya know. What's up with your mother? I hope she's understanding of all this. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 Well, my mom isn't really invloved too much in my life for the past couple of weeks. She been off partying and stuff lately. She has met my MM and at first wasn't too happy about the fact that I was seeing him. Later we talked and I told her that he wasn't happy with his wife and we cared for eachother deeply and she seemed to understand. She knows we spend a lot of time together. We are together almost every night. She likes him now and talks to him whenever she sees him. Now that things are getting really serious between me and my MM I want to sit down and talk to her about it. She hasn't been home in over a week. She is seeing some guy and I know she's been drinking heavily. I don't want her to react badly if I tell her that there is a possibility that I might move away with him. I don't know how to talk to her without her getting angry and making me feel guilty for wanting to leave her and my sister. Link to post Share on other sites
wild_one Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 Mone' I'm glad that you have found someone who loves you. I know it is hard to deal with your feelings for a mm but you can't help who you fall in love with. Just be happy that you found each other and just remember that you are not a bad person. With my MM, I like the way he is happy and so full of life when we are together. Yes, it does bother him and he does feel guilty when we are together, but I think that his happiness is what is important. With us, it is more of an emotional affair then sexual(in the year we have been together, we have been intimate only once). He will email when he has to take a day trip out of town just to let me know he is ok and relies with just a simple "xox". No one knows how your situation is except the two of you, so just trust what the two of you feel and just be happy. We all deserve happiness in our lives. I just wanted to tell you to enjoy each other and to let you know that not all MM are out there just for sex, they do actually fall in love and are truly happy with the OW. Take care. All the best to you both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mone' Posted October 12, 2004 Author Share Posted October 12, 2004 Originally posted by wild_one Mone' I'm glad that you have found someone who loves you. I know it is hard to deal with your feelings for a mm but you can't help who you fall in love with. Just be happy that you found each other and just remember that you are not a bad person. With my MM, I like the way he is happy and so full of life when we are together. Yes, it does bother him and he does feel guilty when we are together, but I think that his happiness is what is important. With us, it is more of an emotional affair then sexual(in the year we have been together, we have been intimate only once). He will email when he has to take a day trip out of town just to let me know he is ok and relies with just a simple "xox". No one knows how your situation is except the two of you, so just trust what the two of you feel and just be happy. We all deserve happiness in our lives. I just wanted to tell you to enjoy each other and to let you know that not all MM are out there just for sex, they do actually fall in love and are truly happy with the OW. Take care. All the best to you both. Thank you sooooo much and I'm glad that you two are happy as well . I totally understand the "emotiona affair" end of falling in love. I'm all he has besides his two children and mine. It feels good that after 25 years that I can make a grown man happy again without leaving myself out. And I can't lie, it is difficult to deal with the feelings and emotion that come with this territory but it all is worth it with the time that I spend with him which is everyday throughout the day. He only sleeps at home. I wish you guys the best of luck and keep me in mind when you need someone to talk to. For now, Mone' Link to post Share on other sites
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