Why I deactivated my Facebook now after my breakup

[maturityassets]

I just wanted to give a brief reason as to why I deactivated my Facebook and maybe this will help others, feel free to reply:

 

I've come to the conclusion, like so many, that social networking is such a bad outlet after a breakup; especially if you are under 25. For several reasons:

1) Maybe you feel tempted to check up on your ex.

2) Maybe you just post things every time you go out to show how awesome your life is going even though you are recently dumped.

3)Maybe you are secretly hoping that your ex is as tempted to check your profile just as much as you are to check theirs.

 

And the list probably could go on and on. I fall guilty to all of them probably. Its not like I was posting everyday or posting any type of song lyrics or anything directly pertaining directly about my break up. Just I was posting things every time I was out. The amusement park, nights out at lounges, friends bbqs, Concerts, day at a beach. And you might ask what is wrong with that? People do that all the time? But to tell you the truth, I'm not normally one to seek attention, but all those post were just validate how awesome my life seems to be since the break up. The intention was all wrong on my part. I don't need the validation of the world to show I'm living my life. When I was in my relationship, I never posted anything even though I did go on FB everyday (I would just tag people in memes, like my ex). I was just happy and I was content with just the validation of those closest to me. So for me to define my own individuality once again (Plus I've been particularly feeling Nausea from dealing with other people of late, feel like I over did it in going out after my break up) I deactivated my FB. Figure I have a good thing going for me. Dating the new girl is going great, its the summer so my summer job is starting soon and I also go out with my closest friends. Plus I don't want to be like my ex who constantly needs attention and felt insecure whenever she didn't get enough "likes" on FB or instagram. So I would recommend this to anyone who is feeling like that FB is just being an anchor in you just being you. Hope everyone on LS is doing great. You guys are the best!

[sporu]

I deactivated my account because of the same reasons like you mentioned. I also couldn't bare to see my ex changing from a shy and introvert girl to a full-blown teenage slut that now thinks she's on top of everything and she's not afraid to share her 'great life' through all the social media channels. She doesn't even have any friends, just relatives she sees now and then.

 

Good riddance, Facebook, and thanks for showing me that some people are just not worthy to think of at all, like my ex.

[sporu]

And something else that's important to notice is that in a digitalized society like ours today people are living for Facebook, and not having Facebook to show their lives.

 

What I mean by that is that people are just forcing themselves to do things, only to post about it on Facebook to show to others how awesome they are for doing that. It really sickens me.

[SuperGeek]

yup and don't forget the NSA is now reading facebook too!

[SimonSerenade]

Good for you, your better off without it, you know I used to see my sister a lot until Facebook came along now she just expects me to have a Facebook so we can talk from time to time on there, for the longest time I was off Facebook, never had many friends when I was on there anyway, recently kicked it back up after the break up but I did it just to hope my ex would see it and have a reason to contact me from time to time, i deleted it not long after as I just don't see what's so good about it, when me and my ex were together neither of us had it and it was pure bliss not having that stress of hearing about everybody's fickle little problems, it was also nice having a girlfriend again, knowin she wouldn't be on her phone 24\7 when I was with her, that bugged the crap out of me.

 

Facebook was a problem that just kept coming up and she would constantly go back to it, I would never have it now, I don't want to know what she's been up to and I don't want to see the day where she has another guy to rub in my face, thanks to Facebook it's almost impossible to ever forget anybody, I've always been happier without Facebook and probably always will.

[BrokenHeartedSavior]

Yep. Got rid of it completely and won't look back.

 

Its a total BS lie about life, people need to actually TALK. I never gave a crap about social networking, not to mention the fact that I didn't, and still don't have time for it.

 

For married people its a disaster just waiting to happen.

 

If the next woman I date doesn't understand that? See ya!

 

FaceBook, What a total waste of time.

[sporu]

Social media is just making it harder to overcome things like a break up or divorce. The reason why I removed my Facebook account is because it felt like a place where I could still bump in my ex now and then, just like if your ex is attending the same college or if you're working at the same place. That's just too much for me to handle at the moment, so I think I made the right choice.

 

And what do you know? I've been more productive than ever without my account and I'm also feeling more 'free' and relaxed. For me, social media put on some extra pressure that I didn't need. The fake plastic attitude of some people started to bother me as well. You just know too much of one another, and sometimes ignorance is bliss.

 

I don't think I'll reactivate my account ever again. I noticed that the people I do care for, and the people that care for me, are still in contact with me through email, phone or text messages and I still talk to them on a regular basis, even without Facebook. And that's how it should be.

[SimonSerenade]

Yep. Got rid of it completely and won't look back.

 

Its a total BS lie about life, people need to actually TALK. I never gave a crap about social networking, not to mention the fact that I didn't, and still don't have time for it.

 

For married people its a disaster just waiting to happen.

 

If the next woman I date doesn't understand that? See ya!

 

FaceBook, What a total waste of time.

 

Well said, it won't be a feature in my next relationship either

[avelonia2013]

I agree wholeheartedly about social media being a waste of time, especially if you use it to put on a false face for the world. First of all, most people can see right through it and secondly, why lower yourself to tht level.

 

I never really liked social media and I think I'm going to deactivate mine as well. I basically just used it to store pics anyway. I was never tempted to look though...thankfully. I also never posted things as a way to show how awesome my life is going...lol. I'm just not wired that way. I used it more for sharing pics and sentiments about celebrations that mean a lot to me more than anything else.

 

When I'm not feeling good - like right now - I have a tendancy to retreat for introspection. I don't have it in me to make it look like things are going great when they're not. I would feel like I'm playing games and I wouldn't want someone else to do that to me. It would be a HUGE turn-off if they did.

 

If you choose to keep your social media account why not just use it for the things in life that are important to you. Be yourself instead. If an ex chooses to stalk then all they will see is you focusing on your life as best as you can under the circumstances. No need to make things look better than they are if you're not truly feeling that way. Be real and good things will come. That's all you can really do if you think about it.

 

And if the urge is too great to shove things in their face - in other words, when in doubt - deactivate! Don't lower yourself. The higher road reaps much better rewards.

Edited June 12, 2013 by avelonia2013

[SimonSerenade]

I agree wholeheartedly about social media being a waste of time, especially if you use it to put on a false face for the world. First of all, most people can see right through it and secondly, why lower yourself to tht level.

 

I never really liked social media and I think I'm going to deactivate mine as well. I basically just used it to store pics anyway. I was never tempted to look though...thankfully. I also never posted things as a way to show how awesome my life is going...lol. I'm just not wired that way. I used it more for sharing pics and sentiments about celebrations that mean a lot to me more than anything else.

 

When I'm not feeling good - like right now - I have a tendancy to retreat for introspection. I don't have it in me to make it look like things are going great when they're not. I would feel like I'm playing games and I wouldn't want someone else to do that to me. It would be a HUGE turn-off if they did.

 

If you choose to keep your social media account why not just use it for the things in life that are important to you. Be yourself instead. If an ex chooses to stalk then all they will see is you focusing on your life as best as you can under the circumstances. No need to make things look better than they are if you're not truly feeling that way. Be real and good things will come. That's all you can really do if you think about it.

 

And if the urge is too great to shove things in their face - in other words, when in doubt - deactivate! Don't lower yourself. The higher road reaps much better rewards.

 

Beautifully put and so true, why be somebody your not just to please others around you?, sometimes you just hold onto yourself the best you can and there's nothing wrong with that.

[RespectfullyAlone]

I didn't deactivate my account, but I rarely used it after my breakup. While my ex was a total extravert, declare to the world every meal, fitness routine and stereotypical positive saying of the day, I was not.

 

A part of me hoped and wanted her to be stalking my page at least, seeing my profile pic or something. But sanity prevailed and blocked her skinny man hips a** from seeing me. She has other accounts for all kinds of stuff, so I'm not going to bother trying to figure them all out, as it would mean me looking at her page. If she's that keen to see my page, she'll work it out pretty easy. But her main one, the one she uses mostly, well she can go to hell. She's not welcome, unless she intends to utter 13 mythical words to me.