Hopeless80 Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 Something occurred to me today and I'd like to get some insight if any of you have any. It's in reference to blushing as the subject says. There are currently 3 guys that I like, and due to the fact that they're all taken (just my luck) I'm working on getting over them. I can't cut them all out of my life right now so I'm just coping as best as I can knowing we'll never have a future together. Anyway, I'm not looking for advice on that. I'm looking to get some insight on why I might "react" the way I do when I speak with them. I seem to have different "reactions" when talking to each of them and I'm curious to know the meaning, if there even is one. Guy #1, a coworker at a higher ranked position. He is married with children. I think he's a relatively attractive guy, but he's not what I would consider hot. I think with him it's more of his personality that I'm attracted to. When I talk to him I can make and maintain eye contact, but it's somewhat of a struggle. I also start to feel hot and I know I blush when speaking to him. Guy #2, also a coworker at a similar ranked position. He's not married, but in a LTR with children. I think he's very attractive, but his personality is a bit off. He's nice and everything, but he's a bit on the brainy side (not that that's a bad thing, just trying to explain). When I talk to him I have a hard time making/maintaining eye contact and I also feel hot and blush. Guy #3, a friend several years older than me. He's married with children from a previous relationship, they are all grown adults now. I honestly think he's perfect in every way. He's very attractive and he has an amazing personality. He's a perfect gentleman and is nice to everyone. If he wasn't already married I could very easily see myself with him. When I talk to him I can make and maintain eye contact no problem, but if we're talking and we looking into each other's eyes for too long I get the fluttering feeling in my stomach. I do not blush nor do I feel hot. I realize this may be an odd question to ask, but why would I be able to talk to the 3rd guy so easily without blushing if he's the one that I like the most? Shouldn't he be the one who makes me feel the most awkward? Why don't I blush or feel hot when I talk to him? I do feel the most comfortable around him so maybe that's why? Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Just a random guess: there are all kinds of pheromones and subconscious factors coming into play based on chemical reactions that are much more complicated than which guy you like best... Link to post Share on other sites
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