Noland Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 I don't know what it is? I'm way more attracted to older women, I've gotten many stares from some and even flirted with many. The reason I find them more attractive is because they know what they want, don't play games, and well......some are just plain hot. I've dated girls my age, I'm 23 BTW, and they seem immature, don't care, or they are just too needy. The hard part for me though is finding one who is single. Anyway, do you think it is wrong of me to find older women more attractive? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 How much older are you talking about? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThomasD Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 It's not wrong as long as you're not too attracted to the older woman I'm married to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noland Posted June 13, 2013 Author Share Posted June 13, 2013 How much older are you talking about? I'm talking up to 30, nothing more Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 No. But you inherit the biological clock of the woman you choose. So if you want children, and you want an older woman, you will be having children earlier. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
drr6 Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 (edited) F*ck no, it is not. Is it wrong of me to find older women more attractive? Edited June 13, 2013 by drr6 Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Nothing wrong... but be aware that you may have difficulty finding a woman who wants to stick with you for the long term. I dated a 20 year old when I was 27. Things were never great, but we got engaged and a few months later I finally had to admit that he was too immature to marry. So I ended it, after about a year and a half together. However, if I'd only been looking for sex, I wouldn't have cared about the age. So, I guess it depends what you're looking for -A 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Absolutely not. I'm an older woman, and damn, I'm attractive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Absolutely not. I'm an older woman, and damn, I'm attractive. Digits hotlips?(mash!) I'm j/k. I know you're married Anyway. No there isn't nothing wrong with it. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 When I was a young guy, I had a thing for older women, too. The two examples that come immediately to mind was an insanely hot (and insane, period) 27-year-old when I was 18, and a 33-year-old recently divorced woman when I was 19. Oh, and I suppose a 23-year-old when I was 19 or 20. I dated within my own age group, too, but loved those older women. Repeatedly. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Digits hotlips?(mash!) I'm j/k. I know you're married Anyway. No there isn't nothing wrong with it. 56. And my online H is GT. But he's apt to stray and be turned by a neat ankle, now and then.... I need to stay to keep an eye on him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 I'm talking up to 30, nothing more LOL tell em you think of them as older women see if they keep flirting with you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2013 Share Posted June 13, 2013 Good point: I'm thinking an 'older' woman (in comparison to the OP) is in her mid-to-late thirties.... someone between 3 and 7 years older - isn't really 'an older woman'.... not in the intended sense.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noland Posted June 13, 2013 Author Share Posted June 13, 2013 No. But you inherit the biological clock of the woman you choose. So if you want children, and you want an older woman, you will be having children earlier. yeah, that's the problem, I do not plan on having children or getting married at all, it's just not for me, I would like a female partner who I can care about, share things in life with, and have a good time, love and be loved for what I am, but recently it's hard for me to come by. Most women that I have been on dates have mentioned that they plan on getting married and having kids sometime down the road, I tell my point of view on this and we go our separate ways. It's been pretty much with every woman that I have this conversation with and once I tell them that I don't plan on having kids, it goes downhill. Even my own parents are mad at me for not wanting kids/marriage. I tell them, it's my life and this is what makes me happy. All they care about is me being normal, and by normal, being married and having kids. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted June 14, 2013 Share Posted June 14, 2013 I don't think it's wrong that you find older women attractive, but I do think your reasons are not necessarily true. I suspect many younger guys turn to older women because they've been rejected by women their own age. They think older women will be more accepting and less rejecting. While (some) older women may have the maturity to be understanding and tactful, they aren't any more likely to be attracted to an individual male than they were when they were young themselves. Attraction is a personal thing and not age dependent. In fact, when you are older, like me, you realise the importance of maturity and integrity in a guy but there still has to be some personal attraction factor. Youth alone is not appealing as being on the same wavelength matters a lot more. I think you should be honest with yourself about your reasons for being attracted to older women. Link to post Share on other sites
LOSTnMT Posted June 14, 2013 Share Posted June 14, 2013 Younger women now days are hard to have a conversation with let alone date the majority are drama queens that think they are on Jersey Shore or some other stupid reality show. I would rather eat a gun than date anyone under 30. Always go older and for the reasons you mentioned Link to post Share on other sites
davyvfr Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 I see it that older women seem more willing to enter long term relationships while younger adults just seem to want to hook up. However, I have met a few girls my age who seem very mature. I guess it just depends. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 (edited) It's not 'wrong' at all, but IMO a 23-year old guy isn't going to be thinking about cohabitation, or marriage, or children anytime in the foreseeable future, right? So, dating casually is fine, even just dating is fine, but there may come a point in the R when one or both of you may have to make serious compromises, or go your own ways. The vast majority of women above 30, whom I know of, are going to be quicker to cut the cord when the R doesn't progress after a while (usually a maximum of 2-3 years before a proposal). Although they probably already know all this, so I guess the main point of my spiel is, perhaps the older women who are attracted to YOU are going into it already knowing that it's going to be a short-term thing. Are you okay with that? Edit: I also would be wary of people who constantly bash people their own age, tbh. Doesn't matter if it's an older man bashing older women, or a younger man bashing younger women. It often points to insecurity/entitlement issues. It's one thing to say 'I prefer x', another thing entirely to say people your own age are 'needy, immature, and clingy' (or saying people your own age 'bitter, damaged hags', as many of your seniors have tried). Just my opinion. Edited June 15, 2013 by Elswyth Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 I'm talking up to 30, nothing moreYou're still in the same generation so no, it's not wrong or even unwise. But if you're not ready to settle down, try to find women who are at the same stage in life. There are plenty of millenial women who aren't interested in having children. Link to post Share on other sites
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