13 magic mythical words my heart yearns, long to hear.

[RespectfullyAlone]

"I'm sorry. I made a mistake. I want you back in my life"

 

Why do I yearn, long, wish and hope to hear those words from my ex? I would give anything to hear them, to have her back. She was not honest, had another guy, left me in a very cowardly way, got engaged to this other guy 6 weeks after leaving me, and yet I still love her, still see her face when I close my eyes.

 

Has anyone ever in their life had an ex who said these words, or nearly the same, and lived to tell the tale?

 

I am wishing and hoping for the impossible. It's not going to happen, she's not ever going to contact me again I don't' think, let alone say those words, yet my resolve and will to not let go is strong. I mean how does one really know their ex is gone for good.

[Simon Phoenix]

"I'm sorry. I made a mistake. I want you back in my life"

 

Why do I yearn, long, wish and hope to hear those words from my ex? I would give anything to hear them, to have her back. She was not honest, had another guy, left me in a very cowardly way, got engaged to this other guy 6 weeks after leaving me, and yet I still love her, still see her face when I close my eyes.

 

Has anyone ever in their life had an ex who said these words, or nearly the same, and lived to tell the tale?

 

I am wishing and hoping for the impossible. It's not going to happen, she's not ever going to contact me again I don't' think, let alone say those words, yet my resolve and will to not let go is strong. I mean how does one really know their ex is gone for good.

 

 

Why would you want a girl who cheated on you (if I read that correctly)?

[RespectfullyAlone]

Because I still love her. If you can tell me how to stop loving her, then problem solved, but I can't stop it. I've tried hating her, but that doesn't stop me still wanting her back, or loving her. I feel hurt, betrayed, rejected, all of those feelings. Yet I still want her back. Where's the manual on loving someone, because I make sense of it.

[Simon Phoenix]

Because I still love her. If you can tell me how to stop loving her, then problem solved, but I can't stop it. I've tried hating her, but that doesn't stop me still wanting her back, or loving her. I feel hurt, betrayed, rejected, all of those feelings. Yet I still want her back. Where's the manual on loving someone, because I make sense of it.

 

I guess to each their own, but cheating = gone in my book. I feel for you, but I think it might be time to start loving yourself a bit and realize that someone who has that little regard for you isn't the best option. Best of luck.

[totallylost5040]

engaged after 6 weeks?? yah that won't work out, sit back get some popcorn and watch it blow up in her face.

[Mcnulty]

Listen, I've been there, she cheated with a friend, it ended, we got back in touch for 6 months, we meet, I realize I'm still in love with her, I can never take her back...soiled goods so to speak, no contact now for 2 months...end of.

 

It hurts like hell, I'm in love with her and I'm miserable at the mo, but I have my dignity and self respect, i can't go back. She wanted to sleep with me again, it got very close, but I have to be true to myself as much as it hurts...do the same my friend.

[Blastoplast]

Try to move on if you can, she broke your heart and ended up marrying another man 6 weeks later. I know it's easier said than done, but it's all you can do. My break-up after 7 years was mutual and excruciating (money & security issues), don't beat yourself up if you don't have to.

[chuzzbug]

I think some people are incapable of saying this.

 

My GF, has never said "I'm sorry. I made a mistake." This is obviously an issue, because it completely eliminates the possibility of discussion that leads to improvement.

 

I believe her reason for is that to her, the phrase is synonymous with "I'm a bad and unfixable person."

 

So far, no amount of support and gentle discussion has resulted in a change.

 

It's at the point where before I mention something I'm not happy with, it is I who has to apologize first for starting a conversation about something she's uncomfortable.

 

But ultimately, it's not the words you're seeking. You know this. But rather, a state of mind and sincere intention.

[RespectfullyAlone]

You are right chuzz, it's not the words itself that I am seeking, but who is saying those words with intent towards me in a sincere manner.

[fiftyofsomethin]

I mean I think everyone secretly or not so secretly wishes that their ex missed them or has some remorse for what happened or for their decision. (not just with cheating, my ex did absolutely nothing for me to use as ammunition, she was actually really nice about it)

 

Like right now, I can tell you that what I WANT to know is that she misses me and wants me back. And if that were the case, I would more readily be able to move on. I would be fine with doing whatever the hell I wanted because my ego would be intact and I could, if I wanted to go down that low, go back to her.

 

But since that situation is not in my hands, I have to at least imagine it that way. If the situation was perfect, if I had everything I could possibly want, would I want her back?

 

No.

 

And this is one of the biggest drivers for me to move on. I just want a better girl. She was not as great as I keep thinking she was. She never gave me reason to be mad at her, she was a nice girl, she was pretty damn attractive, but I wouldn't say that she is the best I can do. I can do better, so it shouldn't matter who dumped who. What matters is your long-term goals in life and going on to achieve them or at least striving to achieve them.

 

-50

[Heartbroken Eagle]

Although I can relate where you are coming from, could you be happy living with someone who treats you with zero respect, lies, cheats, clearly does not know what they want, and if they do, be prepared to treat you like c@#p again if it's not with you??

 

And then could you fully trust them again???

 

If you say yes to any of the above then you are better man than me because I could'nt with my ex.

 

It does not mean I don't miss my ex at times though!!!!

 

Crazy....

[fiftyofsomethin]

Although I can relate where you are coming from, could you be happy living with someone who treats you with zero respect, lies, cheats, clearly does not know what they want, and if they do, be prepared to treat you like c@#p again if it's not with you??

 

And then could you fully trust them again???

 

If you say yes to any of the above then you are better man than me because I could'nt with my ex.

 

It does not mean I don't miss my ex at times though!!!!

 

Crazy....

 

I'm not sure that makes him a better man...

 

That would make him a pushover. No one should have to put up with that.

[Crushedjustcrushed]

I think some people are incapable of saying this.

 

My GF, has never said "I'm sorry. I made a mistake." This is obviously an issue, because it completely eliminates the possibility of discussion that leads to improvement.

I believe her reason for is that to her, the phrase is synonymous with "I'm a bad and unfixable person."

 

So far, no amount of support and gentle discussion has resulted in a change.

 

It's at the point where before I mention something I'm not happy with, it is I who has to apologize first for starting a conversation about something she's uncomfortable.

 

But ultimately, it's not the words you're seeking. You know this. But rather, a state of mind and sincere intention.

 

My ex hardly ever apologized either. For anything. She was a single mom, who raised her daughter basically alone for over 10 years. She was basically used to being the sole authority and final word on everything, so any kind of compromise or "my bad" was almost impossible for her.