We do things like a couple but we're only friends?

[AKisBaked]

This girl that i've been hanging out with alot lately she's been giving very mixed signals and its been really hard to read her..

 

As from my previous posts that I mentioned about this girl, she was very open in letting me touch her. Not sexually or inappropriately of course, just like as in friendly ways such as hand on the shoulder, arm around her and etc.. This was a huge indicator that she felt comfortable so I tested the waters to see how she would react if I touched in different ways, I escalated from "friendly" touches to more emotional physical touches. ( if that makes any sense....) So that involved me holding her hand, hugging her from behind, hugging from the waist, touching her face ( which i know alot of girls don't like that) and even gave her kisses on her cheek.

 

From all those things that I did, she had never hesitated to stop me in getting in closer with her, she never pulled her hand away when I tried to hold her hand, she never stopped me from kissing her on the cheek, and hugs she never felt uncomfortable. She would also touch me back too not sexually again, but like hand on my hand, leg giving me neck massages ( ya you know how relaxing that feels getting one from a girl lol)

 

But here is why I am confused, she is allowing me to do all that to her but she were still just friends. I don't believe I am "friendzoned" either because she allows me to get close to her. Where if I WAS friendzoned, I wouldn't be able to do anything besides give her a "friendly hug"

 

She is always asking me to hang out with her, always caring about me, and does things like a girlfriend would do, besides the sex of course:laugh:

 

So WTF?! We've hung out multiple times together, but never as in a "DATE" but we do pretty much the same things what we would do if we were on a date... Maybe perhaps because there is no expectations? Where as if we officially to go on a DATE, she would have higher expectations??? I'm so confused with this relationship... sigh... Any suggestions?

[imtooconfused]

If you don't think you're friendzoned, why don't you consider your hanging out with her dates? Have you tried escalating the relationship, like giving her a proper kiss? From what you describe, it sounds like you are holding back, and she might just be waiting on you.

 

I think respondents to your other threads have said as much.

[AKisBaked]

If you don't think you're friendzoned, why don't you consider your hanging out with her dates? Have you tried escalating the relationship, like giving her a proper kiss? From what you describe, it sounds like you are holding back, and she might just be waiting on you.

 

I think respondents to your other threads have said as much.

 

 

Well i guess its like mini dates.. but we never agreed to go out on a DATE. She said that if we did go on a date, there would be more expectations whereas since we go out now together we are just enjoying ourselves. We're going to simply be doing the same things as usual as if we never put a title on it...

[not-a-drive-by]

I am in the same situation, where I am the girl. We've been spending a lot of time together, just having fun, but never put a name to it - that is, calling it a date.I think deep down, we know that it is. We've done similar things like you two. I really like this friend, and tbh, I am just waiting for him to ask me out. She is probably waiting for you to make a move too. All the best.

[JustAReformedGirl]

This girl that i've been hanging out with alot lately she's been giving very mixed signals and its been really hard to read her..

 

As from my previous posts that I mentioned about this girl, she was very open in letting me touch her. Not sexually or inappropriately of course, just like as in friendly ways such as hand on the shoulder, arm around her and etc.. This was a huge indicator that she felt comfortable so I tested the waters to see how she would react if I touched in different ways, I escalated from "friendly" touches to more emotional physical touches. ( if that makes any sense....) So that involved me holding her hand, hugging her from behind, hugging from the waist, touching her face ( which i know alot of girls don't like that) and even gave her kisses on her cheek.

 

From all those things that I did, she had never hesitated to stop me in getting in closer with her, she never pulled her hand away when I tried to hold her hand, she never stopped me from kissing her on the cheek, and hugs she never felt uncomfortable. She would also touch me back too not sexually again, but like hand on my hand, leg giving me neck massages ( ya you know how relaxing that feels getting one from a girl lol)

 

But here is why I am confused, she is allowing me to do all that to her but she were still just friends. I don't believe I am "friendzoned" either because she allows me to get close to her. Where if I WAS friendzoned, I wouldn't be able to do anything besides give her a "friendly hug"

 

She is always asking me to hang out with her, always caring about me, and does things like a girlfriend would do, besides the sex of course:laugh:

 

So WTF?! We've hung out multiple times together, but never as in a "DATE" but we do pretty much the same things what we would do if we were on a date... Maybe perhaps because there is no expectations? Where as if we officially to go on a DATE, she would have higher expectations??? I'm so confused with this relationship... sigh... Any suggestions?

 

Has she actually said that she only wants to be friends with you? Now might be a good time to ask her how she feels; is she just comfortable around you as a friend, or does she want more?

 

The only way you'll know for sure is if you ask. Though by the sounds of it, I think she probably does like you, but like you, is uncertain of how to proceed.