Am I Going to End up Alone?

[kingston03]

I just don't get it. I haven't been single since I finally obtained my first boyfriend when I was 15.

 

I'm currently in a relationship, but I've recently learned that he doesn't love me, has never thought of marriage with me (although peculiar that we had kids names picked out), and doesn't think we connect enough for us to even continue a relationship (a year and a half later).

 

This is starting to bother me. A lot. I'm 26 years old and I can't seem to connect enough to someone that will love me enough to say "she's the one I want for the rest of my life".

 

Everyone around me, I kid you not, getting pregnant, posting baby sonos, wedding engagements with the ring pictures, it's driving me crazy because how is it that these women are getting exactly the things that I want but I can't seem to even touch it with a finger.

 

I don't want to come off as desperate, cause I won't date just anyone, and I don't want to marry just anyone. I want that connection, that love, passion, deep understanding, the acceptance and the loyalty and respect all wrapped up in one amazing guy. There's no such thing as perfect, trust me I know, for some reason I attract 30 year old gamers lol but I can accept that and still love someone.

 

I just want some inspirational stories from women that are my age or older and that aren't married and still have hope because I'm quickly losing mine. I just want to be married to the right guy, have kids, a great career, and be a great role model for those around me.

[OwlSoul]

I think you answered what to do by saying: I haven't been single. I think you need to visit a terapist or someone like that for a half a year and try to work out what is going wrong.

 

I'm currently in a relationship

Oo so the guy said he doesn't think you're the one, whereas you want a family. Why are you still with him?

 

I'd recommend you to read the books 'Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man' + 'He's Just Not That Into You'.

[Voyde25]

I just don't get it. I haven't been single since I finally obtained my first boyfriend when I was 15.

 

I'm currently in a relationship, but I've recently learned that he doesn't love me, has never thought of marriage with me (although peculiar that we had kids names picked out), and doesn't think we connect enough for us to even continue a relationship (a year and a half later).

 

This is starting to bother me. A lot. I'm 26 years old and I can't seem to connect enough to someone that will love me enough to say "she's the one I want for the rest of my life".

 

Everyone around me, I kid you not, getting pregnant, posting baby sonos, wedding engagements with the ring pictures, it's driving me crazy because how is it that these women are getting exactly the things that I want but I can't seem to even touch it with a finger.

 

I don't want to come off as desperate, cause I won't date just anyone, and I don't want to marry just anyone. I want that connection, that love, passion, deep understanding, the acceptance and the loyalty and respect all wrapped up in one amazing guy. There's no such thing as perfect, trust me I know, for some reason I attract 30 year old gamers lol but I can accept that and still love someone.

 

I just want some inspirational stories from women that are my age or older and that aren't married and still have hope because I'm quickly losing mine. I just want to be married to the right guy, have kids, a great career, and be a great role model for those around me.

 

You summed it all up in one neatly presented package, Kingston. The difference here is that I'm a guy. I recently got dumped by my girlfriend (5 days ago) after a 7 year long relationship, when I confronted her with having seen intimate conversations with another man. All our plans (marriage, kids, growing old together) suddenly became less interesting for her in the months before. No red flags, whatsoever, just one very abrupt ending. In the meantime you hear everyone around you having kids, getting married Etc. Etc. Etc. It makes you feel like you're lagging behind the rest like mad all of a sudden. Plus (In my instance) you're afraid commiting yourself to another relationship, fearing it could be destroyed within the matter of years as well.. mostly at the precise point where something would get kicked into high gear within the relationship. I'm torn, really am, but seeing your message made me sign up and tell you you're not alone. I've received some strength out of your story, knowing that I'm not alone and broken, I hope the same applies to you.

[Beast_117]

I'll probably end up alone.I don't really care though.

[William]

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