Author pureinheart Posted June 19, 2013 Author Share Posted June 19, 2013 Niceness and thrilling adventures are not mutually exclusive. Perhaps that misconception or the decision to redefine nice to equal boring (or serious, etc.) is the reason some nice guys (and nice girls) struggle. I am adventurous, a thrill-seeker, fun, AND nice. No one has to be boring. That's a choice. Ditto for viewing the only thrilling activity in life as premarital sex. For most adrenaline junkies, it's not even on their list of things to accomplish. Broader definitions of what constitutes a fun-filled, thrilling or adventurous life might be less boring... LOL AE, just to let you know, my use of the word "adventure" in a separate post had nothing to do with yours:) My use of the word was a nice way to describe some of the trouble I got myself into. Instead of self-destruction it's self-construction:D There's a lot of good clean fun out there- and also have a family that is anything but boring. Nah, I agree with you. You know AE, after a life that some would consider "the wild side", and what some consider boring looks priddy good to me and delivers the same excitement. Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I do too Pie, and think that undesirable behavior just happens to work for them. Oh, I totally agree. No stones being thrown by me! I think there's usually a reason why people do the things they do. No blame from me, because it's only by the grace of God that I am where I am today. Like the friend you mentioned. I really think that he could have had some better outcomes if he had been raised in a better environment. I think he's stuck in a pattern that doesn't have to be. But it takes a ton of prayer and dedication to change the patterns we have in our lives (trust me, I know!!!). Nope, I try not to judge (well, that can be a struggle sometimes)...just pointing out that the right thing to do (imo) is to take responsibility for our actions when we mess up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted June 20, 2013 Author Share Posted June 20, 2013 Oh, I totally agree. No stones being thrown by me! I think there's usually a reason why people do the things they do. No blame from me, because it's only by the grace of God that I am where I am today. Like the friend you mentioned. I really think that he could have had some better outcomes if he had been raised in a better environment. I think he's stuck in a pattern that doesn't have to be. But it takes a ton of prayer and dedication to change the patterns we have in our lives (trust me, I know!!!). Nope, I try not to judge (well, that can be a struggle sometimes)...just pointing out that the right thing to do (imo) is to take responsibility for our actions when we mess up. You know Pie, I spent many hours in prayer for him and it's funny that through his manipulative ways, using "therapy" as a means to manipulate certain circumstances in his life, turned out to be something he sees as help for him as of the last year or so...God is so good. Ya Pie, I try not to judge also, have to say though, my anger had no objectivity. It took quite a bit of time to get over that anger...and the weird thing thing was, is that anger kept me bound to him. Wow Pie, you are awesome...the anointing of your post just gave me the key as to why I've been bound to so many things....anger. This is most likey the single most important personal revelation...Thank you, and God Bless You Sista! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted June 21, 2013 Share Posted June 21, 2013 ... the weird thing thing was, is that anger kept me bound to him. Wow, that is so true. Anger does keep us bound to things... I especially feel that on my commute from work, lol. But I'm trying to change that! Today I was trying to pray for peace and love for everyone around me on the freeway. So many tired people who all want similar things in life: happiness, peace, purpose. But it's so easy to hide in the anonymity and "power" of a car...people can act so differently than they might otherwise. Seems like a petty topic, I know. But I can get annoyed on the freeway. And seriously, I feel like the more I can learn to pray for total strangers on the freeway, the more I can pray for others I know. (don't know if this is making sense!) Link to post Share on other sites
Author pureinheart Posted June 22, 2013 Author Share Posted June 22, 2013 (edited) Wow, that is so true. Anger does keep us bound to things... I especially feel that on my commute from work, lol. But I'm trying to change that! Today I was trying to pray for peace and love for everyone around me on the freeway. So many tired people who all want similar things in life: happiness, peace, purpose. But it's so easy to hide in the anonymity and "power" of a car...people can act so differently than they might otherwise. Seems like a petty topic, I know. But I can get annoyed on the freeway. And seriously, I feel like the more I can learn to pray for total strangers on the freeway, the more I can pray for others I know. (don't know if this is making sense!) Trinity- "You always told me to stay off the freeway" Morpheus- "Yes, that's true" Trinity- "You said it was suicide" Morpheus- "Then let us hope I was wrong" Pie, love, all kidding aside...I am seriously terrified of the LA freeway system and when this came out on Reloaded, I related. I will pray for you! I'm convinced some people loose their natural minds on the freeway! Edited June 22, 2013 by pureinheart Link to post Share on other sites
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