Splitting Household Expenses for New Relationship

[Mrs. Moose]

I'm only upset because you told him he could get that BMW, what 16 year old in his school is driving around in a car like that? He should get something that's less than a status symbol, that's all I'm mad about.

[Moose]

Why didn't you say that. It's his money, he earned it, he should be able to get what he wants. If by me helping him out with earning more interest is the problem, I'll withdrawl.

 

This thread isn't about our son anyways. It's about the person who started this thread. The thing I'm cautioning her about is to be carefull about the money. It'll split them up quicker than anything. That's all.

[EnigmaXOXO]

Wow…I wonder what the insurance premiums would be on a BMW for a 16-year-old! You guys must be rollin' in the dough!

 

Not to mention, the youngins usually wreck their first vehicles within the first year!

 

Wish my daddy was like Mr. Moose! My first set of wheels was a beat-up old Vega!

[Moose]

It doesn't look like it's going to happen anyway. Really I would prefer he get something that requires some work so he'll know what to do when it breaks down. But it's his money. So I think he should be able to get what he wants...I know he'll probably wreck it.....and that's probably another good arguement.

 

Also, I don't want him to start off being so materialistic, but his arguement is that it's a dependable car. See how money and possesions can start a heated arguement?

[Lmendel104]

Hello,

 

I am in a very difficult situation with my husband. (marriage of convenience) We fight about everything. Especially MONEY. We are both on disability, but he has more money than I do. He owned his house (which we live in) way before we got married. He wanted me to pay half the mortgage, which would be 600.00. Well, I would NOT pay for half until he put me on the deed of the house. Why? you might ask. It is because I do not believe in paying for anything that is not mine. So we fought about this for a while. Then he relented and had me added to the deed. So now I contribute. So I don't think that your boyfriend should pay half for your mortgage. Maybe, he could pay some towards something else.

 

It is a very very touchie subject even if you are madly in love. (which I am not) But what is fair is fair. Turn you situation around. Would you gladly pay for HALF of a mortgage when you do not own HALF of the property?? Oh, and when I give him my check for the month, I ALWAYS right on it House expenses and mortgage. Just encase. You never never know....

 

Good Luck

[FlutterBug]

Are you sure, absolutely, positively, sure you want to be so involved with a man who is bringing so much baggage to the relationship? You might be okay with the child support and the every other weekend now, but you just may come to regret and resent it. As far as the expenses go, you have every right to expect and ask for a 50/50 split. Why should you shoulder all the financial responsibility?

[binturong]

Fact of the matter is, if the guy wasn't living with her, he'd be paying someone else rent, whether or not his name is on the deed to the property. I think it's fair that he pays part of the mortgage and the bills for living with her. Just because they're dating, it doesn't mean he can freeload off her. And him only paying for half the groceries, in my mind, counts as freeloading.

[shygurl]

Originally posted by FlutterBug

Are you sure, absolutely, positively, sure you want to be so involved with a man who is bringing so much baggage to the relationship? You might be okay with the child support and the every other weekend now, but you just may come to regret and resent it. As far as the expenses go, you have every right to expect and ask for a 50/50 split. Why should you shoulder all the financial responsibility?

 

SoleMate had suggested that it didn't seem right to expect him to pay half the mortgage payment - as the house was in her name and he wouldn't be gaining any of the equity in the house....but how is that any different than someone renting a house? Your "rent" is going to pay your landlord's mortgage and you'll never see a dime of the equity.

 

I see this original post is quite old so chances are the original poster got this all settled?

 

Nobody should freeload off another. Any guy I've lived with, if it was their home, I paid for half of everything and it wasn't even an issue or consideration.