SuperGeek Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 (edited) No ex-girlfriend is TOO hot to get over. Physical appearance is irrelevant once they walk out the door. In my 30s I seem to care less about physical appearance and more about what is inside. Edited June 16, 2013 by SuperGeek Link to post Share on other sites
Dundas Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 It'll be really hard. I'm just getting over a breakup from 2 months ago after my ex-gf of 2.5 years dumped me for some other guy. The hard part is I'm only 19 and she's the only girl I've been with so far - I'd been with her since I was 16. She's pretty hot in my eyes - I loved nearly everything about her and I'd have to say she's a 9. Her personality is amazing, she's not a slut at all - I never had to worry about her cheating on me at all, well up until the last few weeks we were dating, when she started hanging out with her younger brother's friends. I'd been hanging out with them too, but didn't realize she'd been talking to him behind my back. They're still together. The fact that I haven't been with anyone else makes it harder, because I don't know what to expect from other girls I'm trying to get closer to. I seem to have it in my mind that every girl but Her isn't trustworthy (Guess I'm still attached... and the fact that she left me for another guy should state otherwise...) I did the usual begging and pleading for awhile... then I stopped when I realize things had changed and I was just getting made fun of for it. Honestly, never go for a girl who has a boyfriend! It may be fun for you, but Karma is a bitch! It's never good to be on the receiving end and you should have seen it coming. I just can't wait for the day she leaves her boyfriend for someone else. Only then will I be satisfied. It's hard to get over... but once you realize she no longer gives two f*cks about you... if she ever did, then it gets much easier, with time. I wasn't able to eat or sleep for a couple weeks either. Now I sleep like a baby. Link to post Share on other sites
siankat Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 In your eyes she was amazingly hot and you probably felt like you had landed lucky to have her in your life, sleeping with you, trying to make a go of it. And i can understand how you would think that meeting any other hypothetical woman who was not so hot would leave you feeling less than what you know you can....and that is a downer for anyone right! I had it amazing like that once but i was not satisfied in other ways and so when i met someone who i believed had the qualities i lusted after in a man, everything he did, everything that was physically him, began to represent this awesome factor so in the end, his looks were irrelevant. I think its that ecstatic feeling you miss at having found someone so amazing. In this case with this particular woman it was to do with her looks primarily. But you can feel that incredible feeling based on other things that u might find in someone that u don't even realise right now you crave. I'm just saying that, it is how she made you feel, that you think is rare and will miss, but that can be felt again, in similar, or other ways, from something else about a person. At least it as like that in my case. The 'hotness' was the factor u identified as making u feel great.....what u want to feel with someone else is that amazing feeling again....but u don't know what it might be about the next one that makes u feel that. If it truly is the hot factor, i suggest u get involved in the porn industry and u'll be surrounded by a bevvy of them and see if you feel so contented then Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Yah I feel you man. Sometimes with my ex I feel the same. i can think of so many things that sucked, but they way she looked and conducted herself in public was so positive and I took it as a reflection of myself. I feel like I can get a girl that's better behind closed doors but not in public. I know it sounds weird but it's how I've been thinking and it is unlike me to think this way..... Link to post Share on other sites
siankat Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Yah I feel you man. Sometimes with my ex I feel the same. i can think of so many things that sucked, but they way she looked and conducted herself in public was so positive and I took it as a reflection of myself. I feel like I can get a girl that's better behind closed doors but not in public. I know it sounds weird but it's how I've been thinking and it is unlike me to think this way..... It is interesting you mention that as i feel like quite a few people date others as they 'make them look better' which is kinda weird. Maybe we all do it in different ways to varying degrees....being with someone who reflects well on us. I have been with guys who (i am ashamed to say) i have been reluctant to be associated with. Strange. Then my ex, i believed in him to such a degree i wouldn't care what anyone said about him, the only opinion that mattered was mine. I was proud to be with him because i loved him and the social appearance of things didn't matter. Sure i wasn't blind to his ways but i just didn't care. I guess he didn't either as he introduced me to everyone the day after we met Happy thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
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