insomniax Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 So my ex contacted me last night, it had been over a month since we last spoke. She contacts me i refuse to let myself contact her. She was at a hotel which i stayed at when i went to visit her (we were long distance). She was saying that they were fond memories and went on to tell me that she would still like me to be a close friend. I told her that i think of her still as more than a friend and she would have to understand that. We chatted a bit, nothing to exciting her actually asking me questions and seeming fairly friendly for once since the split sending smiley faces over text and whatnot. She has her bad points but i still miss her. I wanst perfect throughout the relationship either so there is 2 sides to every coin. Its been 3 or so months since we split and she started seeing someone right after we were done, or possibly right before. i dont know if they are still together or not she didnt mention anything i dont really care to be honest. As of now i am still letting her contact me first only, i dont plan on making the inital contact. She said she was going to text me today, these were her words i didnt ask her to will she? I dunno, i am not super concerned either. I think i may need to make it more clear that i dont have any intentions of being friends with her right now. I feel as if i am in a good place (for the most part). I really do miss her and us but i wont become pathetic and start chasing her i have hade that mistake too many times. I did not tell her i miiss her or us either btw. So what say you loveshack? Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 Be true to yourself man, that's all you can do, a man who does that is a man who doesn't live in regret, if you can handle being her friend and key word WANT TO then be her friend, if you don't and friends isnt what you heart wants then don't do it, it really is as straight forward as all of that, take that chance if you feel it's right, if it lands you in hell then at least you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author insomniax Posted June 15, 2013 Author Share Posted June 15, 2013 (edited) I dont want to be friends with her anytime soon and i will have to make myself clear on that point to her. I was a bit irritated with myself earlier today i kept thinking i would hear from her. I had to stop and i almost laughed out loud thinking to myself, why i am checking my phone? We arnt dating anymore, i dont need to be this concered about it. I know this will bother me a bit but i need to keep going on the best i can. Thank you for your input. A strange thing happened last night, i was watching a movie and dozed off. I was having some sort of dream about her and i but i can not recall. I woke up thinking i was going to hear from her, looked down at my phone and i had a text from her. It was almost errie... Edited June 15, 2013 by insomniax Link to post Share on other sites
Author insomniax Posted June 15, 2013 Author Share Posted June 15, 2013 I have decided that me being friends with her is far from what i need right now. Since i still have feeling for her it will only hurt me. I feel as if i should just text her and tell her that i dont want to be friends and if she is over and done with us to let me be. Good idea? Link to post Share on other sites
Zammo25 Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 Tell her to do one. Man Up ! That will get her respect and leave you feeling a whole lot better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author insomniax Posted June 15, 2013 Author Share Posted June 15, 2013 Yes you are right, i am sick of feeling like this. Also if she is still dating someone thats not fair to that person for her to be talking to me. I am going to tell her i can not be friends as i still have feeling for her and if she doesnt care for me in that way still to let me go. Whether its the right choice? I dunno, i do know i am what is important. We broke up and she choose to date someone else. She cant just have me around when its convient. I will post as things progress if there is any. Link to post Share on other sites
Author insomniax Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 Well i did it, it didnt go so well i think i shall copy and paste our conversation so everyone can see. I dont feel i was out of line what so ever. Me- I have had time to think about us being friends and have decided against it. I am happy i cross your mind sometimes but my feelings for you are not platonic. Me trying to be just friends will only hurt me in the end. I dont harbor any ill feeling towards you and i do care about you still but you have a bf now. Be with him and be happy. Just as i am happy in my life. Perhaps if your situation changes then maybe we can come together again one day, if not then we still have some nice memories made. Her- Correction. Fiance. No chance of coming back together. So I guess then ill block you and stop contacting you. I'm sorry you decided that. Me- Well since that is a fact then why would you even want to communicate with me? Me- We had our time, you decided to end us. If i ever want to be friends i will contact you. I understand if you feel the need to block me. Her- You asked me the reason I FIRST said anything and you didn't tell me until after I said something. I couldn't have known. I'm blocking you because you're being a jerk and acting like this is my fault. Get over me and please NEVER talk to me again and I will give you the same. I thought maybe we could be m ature and have the OPTION to talk to each other but I was very VERY wrong. Enjoy the rest of your life. As of right now I'm forgetting you and I ever ha ppened because this is ****ing ridiculous. ( i did tell her i still had feeling for her, i told her i still thought of her as more than a friend the last time we spoke) Me- i am being mature and not being a jerk my own well being is important to me i stated it calmly. All i wanted to say is i am not ready to be friends right now nothing more. I didnt want to be a jerk and just ignore you if you continued texting me so i told you. We both still have some kind of feeling for one another otherwise we wouldnt be angry at all we would be indifferent towards one another completly. I refuse to harbor anger towards you i dont want to be that person anymore for once in my life i have moved on in a positive way, Perhaps i can finally be left alone, for the record she has probably only dated this guy for 3 or so months and the are engaged now (rolleyes) which is exactly what i did when i saw that. I do feel i did the right thing, i am not a door mat and i didnt get overly angry. Link to post Share on other sites
Zammo25 Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Very well handled. Although I have cried like a bitch of here I have never done that with my ex. You called her and she did not like it. My best guess is the new " Mr Perfect " is now coming to the end of the honeymoon phase and she is not 100% sure about him and is seeing if you are still in the keep net as a back up plan. Well done ! Well i did it, it didnt go so well i think i shall copy and paste our conversation so everyone can see. I dont feel i was out of line what so ever. Me- I have had time to think about us being friends and have decided against it. I am happy i cross your mind sometimes but my feelings for you are not platonic. Me trying to be just friends will only hurt me in the end. I dont harbor any ill feeling towards you and i do care about you still but you have a bf now. Be with him and be happy. Just as i am happy in my life. Perhaps if your situation changes then maybe we can come together again one day, if not then we still have some nice memories made. Her- Correction. Fiance. No chance of coming back together. So I guess then ill block you and stop contacting you. I'm sorry you decided that. Me- Well since that is a fact then why would you even want to communicate with me? Me- We had our time, you decided to end us. If i ever want to be friends i will contact you. I understand if you feel the need to block me. Her- You asked me the reason I FIRST said anything and you didn't tell me until after I said something. I couldn't have known. I'm blocking you because you're being a jerk and acting like this is my fault. Get over me and please NEVER talk to me again and I will give you the same. I thought maybe we could be m ature and have the OPTION to talk to each other but I was very VERY wrong. Enjoy the rest of your life. As of right now I'm forgetting you and I ever ha ppened because this is ****ing ridiculous. ( i did tell her i still had feeling for her, i told her i still thought of her as more than a friend the last time we spoke) Me- i am being mature and not being a jerk my own well being is important to me i stated it calmly. All i wanted to say is i am not ready to be friends right now nothing more. I didnt want to be a jerk and just ignore you if you continued texting me so i told you. We both still have some kind of feeling for one another otherwise we wouldnt be angry at all we would be indifferent towards one another completly. I refuse to harbor anger towards you i dont want to be that person anymore for once in my life i have moved on in a positive way, Perhaps i can finally be left alone, for the record she has probably only dated this guy for 3 or so months and the are engaged now (rolleyes) which is exactly what i did when i saw that. I do feel i did the right thing, i am not a door mat and i didnt get overly angry. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author insomniax Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 That makes alot of sense,, i actually asked her what was good in her life but she didnt mention being engaged. That seems like something you would tell someone if you were really happy about it. She was just trying to use me emotionally and I am not going to be that guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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