I wish I had never attempted to pursue women

[L1ght]

Yeah the OP does suffer from confidence issues but I can completely understand where he's coming from and I'm surprised at how many people attacked him even though he was just being honest. The truth is that looks are very important and they are always the first things women look for in men. Second to that they look for status, wealth and power. Thirdly they look for such things as personality, sense of humour, kindness and all of that other stuff that they pretend they look for first. I know this for a fact because I was just like the OP when I was growing up and I found it difficult to attract the type of girls I liked but then once I gained status and became successful in my life women were so much easier to get into bed and/or form relationships with. So my point is that if you're a guy who ain't as good looking as Brad Pitt then the best strategy to get any women you want is to be successful at something......women love successful men and they will overlook physical attractiveness if you have financial stability, status, wealth and power.

[Pompeii]

I live in Maryland, which is a giant liberal cesspool

 

Haha! You're funny. Blaming your failures with women on a political ideology. Also, you think Maryland is liberal? Have you ever been to Western Maryland? Have you ever been to the Eastern Shore? LOL. Most ignorant statement I've read all week.

 

if only public fighting was legal then I can challenge a girl's boyfriend to a fight

 

What would that accomplish? Oh wait.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You getting your ass kicked.

[Imported]

You know OP, I completely, completely identify with what you're going through. Today's society has become so skewed towards women and minorities, that it's just broken, straight up. Now, mostly because of liberals, being a single young white male is pretty much a detriment. It doesn't help that I live in Maryland, which is a giant liberal cesspool, but it's not just limited to this place.

 

Just once I'd like a woman try to come up and talk to me, instead of me having to do all the work, just once.

 

Yeah, all dem dar short Pakistani boys are stealing all the womenz away from white guys.

 

Look, if you're a young white male and you can't get a girl, it is not because you're white. You're probably one or more of: butt ugly, fat,small dick, dress like ****, smell rancid, act creepy, look angry all the time, no job, no money, live at home with mommy and daddy and think it all shouldn't matter, you should still be able to get women that can attract men of higher caliber than you.

 

The minorities that are getting the womenz over you are not just minorities. They are probably not just average for their race. While you are probably below average for yours.

[Imported]

Haha! You're funny. Blaming your failures with women on a political ideology. Also, you think Maryland is liberal? Have you ever been to Western Maryland? Have you ever been to the Eastern Shore? LOL. Most ignorant statement I've read all week.

 

 

 

What would that accomplish? Oh wait.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You getting your ass kicked.

 

 

I have no doubt this guy has kicked a lot of guys asses.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In a video game.

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Speak for your self, my ex was great I'm glad we met sorry she met me and really sorry she's gone.

 

We are men we are the greatest danger to our selves, we fall in love we **** it up and they don't come back. But we are men so we get sorted out and we try again. Don't let bad experiences prevent you from having good ones.

[Socks At Play]

Just once I'd like a woman try to come up and talk to me, instead of me having to do all the work, just once.

 

I've had it happen a couple of times in my life and it's so surprising that I don't realize what has happened until after I've already blown it.

 

Signed,

Single Liberal White Guy

[Inflikted]

I identify with this topic title a lot, myself. Finding someone special to spend my life with has always been something I've wanted very badly. Yet, I've had zero success with girls. Every girl I've ever asked out has said no, although, honestly, there's only been two girls I've ever actually WANTED to date.

 

And I just don't get it. I don't consider myself ugly (though I'm far from "good looking"), I have a lot of good qualities, and despite my flaws, I think I'm a good person. I don't chase after "hot supermodels", in fact, I'm more concerned with finding someone I can really talk to, laugh with, and just enjoy life with, than I am with finding someone to just get in bed with.

 

Yet, the fact that I can't find someone clearly indicates something is amiss. People always told me not to worry about the shallow crap, that there are plenty of girls out there that are smarter and more mature and will prefer a guy they actually connect with. But every girl I've pursued (more notably, the two I really liked) ended up passing me over in favor of guys that are "hot" and or "charismatic", areas I can't compete with.

 

As I get close to turning 25, I can't help but feel more and more frustrated. I'm lonely, I want to have that kind of relationship in my life, and it kills me to see that that's just not possible for me. I'm at a point where, when it comes to the topic of dating, I just feel angry and bitter, and I hate that. But how else am I supposed to feel?

[Mrlonelyone]

Before I cared about women, my life was so much better. I didn't feel like I was a failure in the dating market (which really is like a market even if you don't like to think of it that way), because I had never even tried! If you don't try, you don't run the possibility of failing.

 

Men are judged in part on their ability to attract women. It seems like the guys who are able to do it are just born that way. Who knows, though. Women can be vicious. They can completely wreck a guy's self-esteem. I'm starting to realize now how picky they are and how they're basically in a position of power because they're the sexual gatekeepers and they don't have the need like we do.

 

I think I mentioned this before, but when I lived in a fraternity I got to see firsthand how the aphorism that "10% of the men get 90% of the women" plays out. There was 1 guy in my house who all the women were obsessed with. I'm not exaggerating when I say that, for the short time he was living in, there was a trail of sorority girls trickling through the house just because they wanted to get ****ed by him. I've realized the common-sense principle that most guys are completely worthless to women. "Sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive" is the mantra. I am basically an evolutionary loser, unfit to pass on my genes.

 

I'm throwing in the towel with the whole dating thing. It's depressing to think about. I'm ready to move on with other aspects of my life, to put my pursuit of women in the past where it belongs.

 

I, Jason, hereby surrender to the dating scene.

 

If it's any consolation, being that guy is only good for a while. After a time that same guy is somoene women are ashamed to admit they got effed by. (Odds are they weren't advertising it even while you were in that house).

 

What many do is have a boyfriend who they publically adore, at least in front of certain audiences, then they have these other guys they fool with on the side.

[Beast_117]

I agree with you 100%.

 

I used to get REALLY depressed about not having a gf, still being a virgin..not even a first kiss.That was when i was 17-20.

 

I'm 21 now and just don't care anymore and it's better this way..it's like a huge weight/burden has been lifted from my shoulders.I feel a lot better.

Edited June 26, 2013 by Beast_117

[Pompeii]

well it would prove to the world, life and society that not all nice guys are as weak and passive as people make them out to be, release my anger and sexual frustration for having to take god damn responsibility all the time to fix it and nothing happens

 

Right.......