Possiblily for me 2nd Chance?

[smh124]

My ex girlfriend called me today and told me she broke it off with the new guy she was seeing. We've been broken up for 4 months now. And we are going out Wednesday night. I have missed her terribly and have been very depressed without her. A month ago, we both told each other we still love each other. I did NC for a month and then she contacted me. Since then, we've been just like friends. She couldnt give me a 2nd chance then b/c of this new guy. I've been patient since then and tonight she gives me this news. I havent been this excited in a long time. Wish me luck.

 

Steve

[Weird]

good luck dude.

 

Just make sure you don't get whipped by her. When did she start seeing that new guy and how long was she with him?

[smh124]

I think she started dating him in July. And she found out that he was trying to get her voicemail off her cellphone which is pretty crazy.

[Weird]

so she started to date a guy a month after you two broke up yet she has implied she still loves you? wow. i dont get people who say they love someone yet they can go out and date someone else so soon.

 

My advice is to just be cautious.

[beautiful]

I think it is great that you are getting a second chance.................some food for thought............should it not be that YOU give her the second chance? Think about this! I be very careful on this one because she hurt you once.

 

 

Weired...............you seem to have a big problem with people going out on dates after a break up. There is nothing wrong with that, in fact it is healthy. If one is ready to do that for the right reasons. It does not mean , one doesen't care about the ex. Why sit at home and be sad?

 

A lot of times when one gets back into the dating game it helps them heal and restore their self esteem that has been crushed by being dumped. You may want to think about this a little.

[Weird]

I agree with you saying he should be the one giving her the second chance.

 

Yeah I do have a problem with it. You can't say you love someone and then date someone 3.2 seconds later. Doing that you either are:

 

a) trying to suppress your feelings which IS unhealthy and is a sign of emotional immaturity

 

b) showing you didn't actually love the person

 

I don't advocate sitting at home just moping but I dont think going out and fuggin another person a month after your long term relationship ends (with the person you say you LOVE) is the answer either.

 

It boggles my mind how you can't see that. Nowhere do I say people should never date others...I am just saying there should be a time of being alone and dealing with stuff rather than going for some rebound for some artificial feeling of happiness...especially when you say you LOVE the human being you broke up with. If a person just liked their ex then hey, go ahead and date the world. But if you truly love/loved them then logically there should be a period of reflection and being single.

 

I guess my big beef is people saying they truly love or loved their ex but their actions prove otherwise. Sadly, most people dont know what true love is and just fire off the word like it is the word of the day

[iceisles]

Originally posted by Weird

I guess my big beef is people saying they truly love or loved their ex but their actions prove otherwise. Sadly, most people dont know what true love is and just fire off the word like it is the word of the day

 

I agree. "Love" is used way too loosely, and sometimes out of obligation just because two people are dating. My ex said she loved me a lot, but it began to feel shallow towards the end our relationship. Like anything else, love can fade, and partners should not continue to give the word the same weight if the nature of the relationship has clealy taken a turn for the worse.