Can chemistry only exist in one aspect of your life?

[i'mfaraway]

Can you have chemistry with someone only in one aspect of your life?

 

I have crazy chemistry with someone I work with. Some coworkers have indicated that he dotes on me. But neither of us has made a move.

 

So I was wondering if maybe we only have great chemistry at work but neither of us saw each other as relationship material?

[Appleness]

I think you can. It's happened several times to me before.

 

I've had a few people in my life like that, one of them being a male co-worker. We have great chemistry. People tell us all the time that we should date but seriously, we know we aren't each other's type. Our values are way too different and we know that mutually. So while he is smart, handsome, funny, and gets my sharp sarcastic humor, he's just my "work-husband" and I treat him like my gay best friend and I'm his non-clubbing wing(wo)man.

 

If it's mutually platonic, don't over-think it. Woman can easily rationalize themselves into a fantasy romance that is completely one-sided. If you're unclear about how he feels, ask him while you're both doing something, like working on a group project or whatever. For some odd reason, guys are unusually honest and will open up easier when you working on something together with them (from my experience). And if you like him, then be honest too.

 

Good luck!

[i'mfaraway]

I think you can. It's happened several times to me before.

 

I've had a few people in my life like that, one of them being a male co-worker. We have great chemistry. People tell us all the time that we should date but seriously, we know we aren't each other's type. Our values are way too different and we know that mutually. So while he is smart, handsome, funny, and gets my sharp sarcastic humor, he's just my "work-husband" and I treat him like my gay best friend and I'm his non-clubbing wing(wo)man.

 

If it's mutually platonic, don't over-think it. Woman can easily rationalize themselves into a fantasy romance that is completely one-sided. If you're unclear about how he feels, ask him while you're both doing something, like working on a group project or whatever. For some odd reason, guys are unusually honest and will open up easier when you working on something together with them (from my experience). And if you like him, then be honest too.

 

Good luck!

 

You're right. I'm rationalizing it into a fantasy romance because of what the coworkers say.

 

It's one-sided. He has a girlfriend though I heard it from someone else, not him.

 

I don't think he likes me that way so I was wondering if there could exist only chemistry at work but not in real life.

[TaraMaiden]

Chemistry can exist anywhere.

And if he didn't have a GF, he might react to it too...

 

But here's the thing:

 

Relationships with co-workers?

 

bad idea. On the whole, not a good move.

[i'mfaraway]

Chemistry can exist anywhere.

And if he didn't have a GF, he might react to it too...

 

But here's the thing:

 

Relationships with co-workers?

 

bad idea. On the whole, not a good move.

 

Not that I was planning a move. But thinking in terms of if we leave the current workplace and become able to date.

[TaraMaiden]

Not that I was planning a move. But thinking in terms of if we leave the current workplace and become able to date.

 

So if you BOTH left the workplace, AND he broke up with his GF...?

Yeah, possibly....

But that's a lot of different provisos, isn't it?

 

I'd shift your focus, personally.....