therhythm Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I seem to find the terms bad boys and good boys in this forum an awful lot and I would like to have someone to explain me who are the bad boys and who are the good boys... can someone define them for me? I think I am just looking for someone who define good boy in a way i can fit in :lmao: but i am afraid I haven't been a good boy in my life either 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Bad boys : Tats Usually thuggish, douchebaggish, ******* like behavior. Loud, obnoxious, usually drinks a fair amount and amplifies said behavior. Quick temper, always thinks he is more important than everyone else around him. From my experience anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I think badboys are the type who lie and cheat and don't know what they want. Keenly is kind of right in a stereotypical way there are a lot of "bad boys" who are thuggish and tatted up and whatever whatever. In my personal experience I have known country boys who are supposed to be the definition of "good boys" who were bad and only wanted sex and were rude and liars. Depends I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Rhythm, you are a very sexy good boy. And I am a very sweet bad girl. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 On LS, the definitions are as follows: Bad boy - a guy who gets women. Good boy - a passive guy/nice guy who fears rejection so much that he won't ask anyone out and is envious and jealous of men who aren't afraid, so they call them bad or jerks. Quite often the good boys/nice guys are also the same ones who trash women because women won't approach them, holding women to higher standards in every way than they hold themselves or can provide. This good boy/nice guy usually migrates to PUA and subsequently finds he has even worse success. This is when he fully migrates to misogyny and misanthropy, blaming the world instead of looking within and improving himself and his entire world view. 10 Link to post Share on other sites
Author therhythm Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 Rhythm, you are a very sexy good boy. And I am a very sweet bad girl. Finally a woman who understands the good that there is in me :bunny: I love the mix between sweet and bad... can I order a cake of that? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 On LS, the definitions are as follows: Bad boy - a guy who gets women. Good boy - a passive guy/nice guy who fears rejection so much that he won't ask anyone out and is envious and jealous of men who aren't afraid, so they call them bad or jerks. Quite often the good boys/nice guys are also the same ones who trash women because women won't approach them, holding women to higher standards in every way than they hold themselves or can provide. This good boy/nice guy usually migrates to PUA and subsequently finds he has even worse success. This is when he fully migrates to misogyny and misanthropy, blaming the world instead of looking within and improving himself and his entire world view. Pretty accurate and concise representation of LS, if I may say so. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 A good man is someone you want beside you during the day. He's a stable, faithful partner. A bad boy is someone you want in your bed. He's sexy and a little wild. One man can absolutely be both! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I would like to have someone to explain me who are the bad boys and who are the good boys... can someone define them for me? They can be the same man, dependent upon perception and attraction. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 It's a foolish generality in how its stated. But there is something of substance underneath. It is not a matter of bad boys and good boys. It's a pattern in nature where people tend to want what is difficult to them. A guy who makes things too easy by always being "nice" and accommodating will often find himself cast aside over some seemingly less-deserving maverick. It happens throughout the animal world including us. It can however be resolved into a few simple dynamics. The most important is probably the dynamics of "want" versus "having". To win the game we all have to figure ways to continue to be "wanted" even though we have crossed over into being had. If one doesn't consider this and live it, chances are that he or she will er and wind up falling down the want column all the way to contempt. The so-called "bad boy" is selfish and self-serving. But if he's appealing to a woman, she will be sparked by this as having "mystique"--she will WANT to know more and think about him until it dawns on her that she's thinking about him and "wants" him. The classic good guy takes crap from her and swallows it like a dutiful lap dog. And she winds up despising him for his lack of hiptatude. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 On LS, the definitions are as follows: Bad boy - a guy who gets women. Good boy - a passive guy/nice guy who fears rejection so much that he won't ask anyone out and is envious and jealous of men who aren't afraid, so they call them bad or jerks. Quite often the good boys/nice guys are also the same ones who trash women because women won't approach them, holding women to higher standards in every way than they hold themselves or can provide. This good boy/nice guy usually migrates to PUA and subsequently finds he has even worse success. This is when he fully migrates to misogyny and misanthropy, blaming the world instead of looking within and improving himself and his entire world view. This is a terrible definition. A good man is someone you want beside you during the day. He's a stable, faithful partner. A bad boy is someone you want in your bed. He's sexy and a little wild. One man can absolutely be both! This is a much better one. As for the last statement... maybe but most likely not. Link to post Share on other sites
Suave Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Walk the fine line between both and you'll have more than you can handle. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Walk the fine line between both and you'll have more than you can handle. There is some fine-line suger-spice formula that works in the case of both genders. Link to post Share on other sites
MomsSpaghetti Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) "Bad boy" is just an attractive guy who doesn't make an effort to please women, because he doesn't need to. If I was super rich or good looking, then yea, I would go around and act condescending towards women and only use them for sex. "Good boy" is the desperate one who justifies his desperate attempts be saying it's how mommy told him to treat women. Edited June 17, 2013 by MomsSpaghetti Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 I seem to find the terms bad boys and good boys in this forum an awful lot and I would like to have someone to explain me who are the bad boys and who are the good boys... can someone define them for me? I think I am just looking for someone who define good boy in a way i can fit in :lmao: but i am afraid I haven't been a good boy in my life either Personally I think they are bull**** terms but that's just my 2 cents. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 A good man is someone you want beside you during the day. He's a stable, faithful partner. A bad boy is someone you want in your bed. He's sexy and a little wild. One man can absolutely be both! I agree with you in spirit. What I have found (my 2 cents) is that when women label a man too nice or too bad it's more because of a lack of attraction and common interests. Sometimes that is her failing, sometimes it is his, but most of the time they just weren't a match. So really the 'too nice guy' and the 'bad boy' weren't nice or bad, just not what the other was looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 On LS, the definitions are as follows: Bad boy - a guy who gets women. Good boy - a passive guy/nice guy who fears rejection so much that he won't ask anyone out and is envious and jealous of men who aren't afraid, so they call them bad or jerks. Quite often the good boys/nice guys are also the same ones who trash women because women won't approach them, holding women to higher standards in every way than they hold themselves or can provide. This good boy/nice guy usually migrates to PUA and subsequently finds he has even worse success. This is when he fully migrates to misogyny and misanthropy, blaming the world instead of looking within and improving himself and his entire world view. Yep, TBF got the nail right on the head here. Mind you, OP, most of us have quite different personal definitions, but you did ask about what it meant on LS... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author therhythm Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Yep, TBF got the nail right on the head here. Mind you, OP, most of us have quite different personal definitions, but you did ask about what it meant on LS... I am very curious now Elswyth, what is your definition of it? By the way, I never asked what was the LS definition.. I said I have seen the terms very often in LS and I was wondering what a bad boy/good boy is... so far I like the most carhill's definition Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Bad boy: has a tattoo, big muscle bound guy that can bench 300 lbs, likes to party, may drink too much, is a boxer or MMA fighter, attractive to women, prankster, willing to do crazy things Good boy: nerd, Star Trek fan, reads books for fun, treats women well, might be a professional (doctor, lawyer, etc). While all of these might be used to stereotype someone on LS or in life, all I did was describe myself in both categories and how you know me usually dictates what category I fall into. So, to answer your question it is all a matter of personal perception. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 A good man is someone you want beside you during the day. He's a stable, faithful partner. A bad boy is someone you want in your bed. He's sexy and a little wild. One man can absolutely be both! And the wise man's goal is to be both. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 I am very curious now Elswyth, what is your definition of it? By the way, I never asked what was the LS definition.. I said I have seen the terms very often in LS and I was wondering what a bad boy/good boy is... so far I like the most carhill's definition Mine is similar to xxoo's. The good guy is the 'gentleman on the streets', the bad boy is a 'freak in the sheets'. When you have both wrapped in one fellow, you know you've struck gold. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
eastcoastgirl88 Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Agree with most of the above definitions... Now the question is, can someone cure me of my "bad boy" addiction?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author therhythm Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 Mine is similar to xxoo's. The good guy is the 'gentleman on the streets', the bad boy is a 'freak in the sheets'. When you have both wrapped in one fellow, you know you've struck gold. Thank you for answering I don't think the answer from Carhill is very off from the one of xxoo, both work good for me. But based on those definitions I don't understand so much complaining about good guys and bad guys.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Thank you for answering I don't think the answer from Carhill is very off from the one of xxoo, both work good for me. But based on those definitions I don't understand so much complaining about good guys and bad guys.... The complaints come from people struggle to find the balance--both men and women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Thank you for answering I don't think the answer from Carhill is very off from the one of xxoo, both work good for me. But based on those definitions I don't understand so much complaining about good guys and bad guys.... It's LS. That should tell you all you need to know... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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