Update... sigh...

[mercy]

 

If Courage & honesty were EASY, we'd All do it straight away.

 

Sometimes though, courage & honesty is the first step in fixing or finding out what is wrong w/in ourselves in order to fix things*

 

Beautiful lovely words.

[movingon45]

Oh,Nattie, I think I have liked all your responses because we're almost the same in our situation except that I need exMM for sex because my husband is impotent. I think that yo can be in friends with benefits because you don't even hug afterwards. I can't. And so I chose to be NC. He can and he compartmentalizes easily. Anyway I stay strong in NC by playing candy crush aNd then the urge to contact passes away easily because I'm stupid with games lol.

 

Any updates on you?

[2sunny]

At the time, I did think it was innocent flirting, but now looking back I feel like an absolute idiot. He was in full pursuit, and I should have seen it coming. I liked and tolerated the flirting for a few reasons, and I am being totally honest here.

 

1. I do like the attention. My clothes, hair, and makeup are always perfect. I'm aware that I'm pretty and take pride in my appearance, so I'm very used to being flirted with and I can't deny, I'm very vain.

 

2. He was my boss. I was the favorite, and more or less got anything I wanted in terms of days off etc.

 

It sounds so bratty of my to say those things, but it's the truth... and really, his flirting wasn't that much different than what I've experienced in the past. There was an obvious physical attraction, but after ten years of being faithful to my H, I never really thought it would cross the line to become physical, does that make sense?

 

Wy wouldn't a boss give you everything you want? He will because you spread your legs for him.

 

Why not EARN the good parts of a job by hard work and evidence that you're a team player? No, it's easier to just sleep with him to get perks.

 

And attention? Good God girl - all a guy has to do is feed you a load of crap on a regular basis and you give it up? How easy is that for him? Easy...

 

And it's no accident that when you're considering pulling away that he pulls out the "I have feelings now" card! It KEEPS YOU On his plan!

 

I hope you tell your husband your truth! He deserves to know just how easy it is for any douche to spew a few words and you come running.

 

Tell his wife while you're at it.

 

Please get therapy to help you - so that you can think more highly of yourself than being reduced to a MM's pawn.

[aliveagain]

Reading your post has given me such horrible triggers, I was with your twin. I know she had unprotected sex with him and than would come home and have sex with me, her girlfriend told me this after I left her cheating ass. She was his c*m bucket for just over two years. She had no intention of leaving me either. She attempted suicide three times, once, a month before I left her( I had come home with moving cartons and started packing) and twice after I moved out. I had to spend the entire night in the emergency ward twice, the third time I didn't go, she didn't mean enough to me anymore. My phone number is still unlisted so she can never contact me again, she has tried, even had her friends try to get my home address, never going to happen. I have tried to forgive her so many times but I hate her too much, I will probably hate her forever, the hurt and humiliation she caused me was too much. My point is, there will come a time(should you be found out)when you are no longer forgivable, (to much time spent as OM's piece on the side). The longer you choose to stay in active adultery the less chance of forgiveness when busted. Ya, I have heard it a zillion times before, your too smart to get caught, they all think that, but just check on the number of LS members we have to date, there's a busted wayward spouse in the story somewhere.