Foxinthesnow Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 So, my wife and i have been in a LDR for quite some time. We still manage to have a pretty active "sex life" despite the distance. We were both very kinky and into BDSM before I had to leave and that has carried over into our sex time in the LDR. We have pushed ourselves almost to the limit of what we can do with webcams, texts, and phone calls. We have done role playing, D/S, humiliation, teasing/orgasm denial, All manner of dirty sexy talk, and mutual masturbation, lately my wife has started to have sex with other men and sending me pictures and telling me about her encounters. I plan on watching, when our scheduled mesh. It has all been a lot of fun and we have really enjoyed getting to where we are, but i am kinda struggling with what to do next. I honestly can't think of too much. Does anyone have anything that might seem new to us? Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 ...lately my wife has started to have sex with other men and sending me pictures and telling me about her encounters. It has all been a lot of fun and we have really enjoyed getting to where we are, but i am kinda struggling with what to do next. I honestly can't think of too much. Does anyone have anything that might seem new to us? Monogamy? Best, TMichaels 2 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 You with other four men teasing you and whipping you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Monogamy? Best, TMichaels maybe someday we will talk about slowing down or something, but for right now, that just isn't a goal. lol Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 maybe someday we will talk about slowing down or something, but for right now, that just isn't a goal. lol So why did you bother to get married? What was the goal of that? Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 If you're serious, you'd be better off asking this in BDSM forums, not the LDR forum of LS. Honest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 If you're serious, you'd be better off asking this in BDSM forums, not the LDR forum of LS. Honest. I think at the moment he's busy looking for the other 4 men I suggested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 If you're serious, you'd be better off asking this in BDSM forums, not the LDR forum of LS. Honest. Thanks, I really wasn't sure. I put it here because we are great at the BDSM stuff when we are together, but the distance has given us some very special considerations. Thus, I posted here. As for why we got married, because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our life's together the same as any other couple. Just because we like getting really kinky with our sexing doesn't change any of that. I am sorry if that wasn't clear in my original post. We are very committed to each other and are trying to make the best of things till we are together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 I think at the moment he's busy looking for the other 4 men I suggested. Well....that is an idea, but I don't think either of us would enjoy it. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Thanks, I really wasn't sure. I put it here because we are great at the BDSM stuff when we are together, but the distance has given us some very special considerations. Thus, I posted here. As for why we got married, because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our life's together the same as any other couple. Just because we like getting really kinky with our sexing doesn't change any of that. I am sorry if that wasn't clear in my original post. We are very committed to each other and are trying to make the best of things till we are together. You are looking for 'creative ideas to spice up your LDR sex life', though, if I read your OP correctly? I don't mean my comment as a slight, rather that I don't think any of us can genuinely answer your question, because most of us prefer a little less, uh, spice than you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 You are looking for 'creative ideas to spice up your LDR sex life', though, if I read your OP correctly? I don't mean my comment as a slight, rather that I don't think any of us can genuinely answer your question, because most of us prefer a little less, uh, spice than you. Well, to be fair I really didnt know what to expect, I mean I think my wife and I have already covered quite a bit of ground. But i figured it would be worth a shot. If anyone can come up with anything let me know though. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Well....that is an idea, but I don't think either of us would enjoy it.Why not? Can you explain? Weren't you being open to try new things? Weren't you looking for something creative and out of the ordinary? Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Maybe he's not into sleeping with other men, which is fair enough. He could have sex with other women on cam though while his wife watches. Have to say though, why this constant push for things to be more and more new different, exciting? Me and my partner are fairly tame sexually, we never feel bored with it though. No matter how many things you're going to try out, if you're looking for a bigger thrill all the time, you're going to run out of ideas (you already have by the sounds of it) and it's going to get dull. Why not? Can you explain? Weren't you being open to try new things? Weren't you looking for something creative and out of the ordinary? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 Maybe he's not into sleeping with other men, which is fair enough. He could have sex with other women on cam though while his wife watches. Have to say though, why this constant push for things to be more and more new different, exciting? Me and my partner are fairly tame sexually, we never feel bored with it though. No matter how many things you're going to try out, if you're looking for a bigger thrill all the time, you're going to run out of ideas (you already have by the sounds of it) and it's going to get dull. Well, as for the me with other men stuff there are a couple of problems. My wife isn't cool with me having sex with other people (men or women), and she finds nothing attractive about man on man action. Personally, i don't either, but if it was something she was into, i'd be willing to at least try it. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 Well, as for the me with other men stuff there are a couple of problems. My wife isn't cool with me having sex with other people (men or women), and she finds nothing attractive about man on man action. Personally, i don't either, but if it was something she was into, i'd be willing to at least try it. The risk with your life arrangement is that she can find someone else whom she'll be crazy about and dump you. Anyway, I had another idea for you: you could build a secret room like in the movie Absolute Power, with a one-way mirror and watch whatever your wife does in your bedroom with other men while you're in there watching. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 18, 2013 Author Share Posted June 18, 2013 The risk with your life arrangement is that she can find someone else whom she'll be crazy about and dump you. Anyway, I had another idea for you: you could build a secret room like in the movie Absolute Power, with a one-way mirror and watch whatever your wife does in your bedroom with other men while you're in there watching. Yeah, i get that risk, and it was talked about a lot before this began. but honestly, if i thought it was a realistic chance i wouldn't have been interested in doing this. So far it has done nothing but help our relationship. We have talked about that idea or ones very similar. She doesn't want to be sneaky about anything though, so they all know that she's married and that we are both totally ok with this. So, i think me watching is def something that's to happen, but it'll play out more like "hey, i'mma turn my webcam on so my husband can watch you do me k?" Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted June 19, 2013 Share Posted June 19, 2013 Yeah, i get that risk, and it was talked about a lot before this began. but honestly, if i thought it was a realistic chance i wouldn't have been interested in doing this. So far it has done nothing but help our relationship. Well, I just say: be prepared. I find it very realistic. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 19, 2013 Share Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) No matter how many things you're going to try out, if you're looking for a bigger thrill all the time, you're going to run out of ideas (you already have by the sounds of it) and it's going to get dull. And one of you might wind up in jail. So when will you be living together again? When was the last time you had real sex, like with her body? Here's a really kinky idea. Tell her to get a job in a mortuary. Edited June 19, 2013 by FitChick Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 19, 2013 Author Share Posted June 19, 2013 Her last visit was a couple of months ago, she stayed for 90 days. Her next visit will be in 15 days, we are trying to make arrangements for it to be permanent. Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Her next visit will be in 15 days, we are trying to make arrangements for it to be permanent. "Trying?" I hope you've done your homework or have consulted/engaged an immigration expert. If not, you definitely will need an infinite list of LD sex games if you botch things up and she ends up being deported and/or banned for life. In fact, you already may have issues. If she's coming to the US on a tourist visa, maximum length of any one stay is 90 days. General rule of thumb for multiple visits within one year on a tourist visa is 90 days in the country and 90 days out though the decision is entirely up to the Immigration Officer on duty. If he/she thinks a person is essentially attempting to "live" in the US due to a history of multiple visits without an adequate interval and/or there's a good chance that the individual will overstay (because they have a spouse in the US), there's a very good chance the person will be denied entry at the border and be told to go back whence they came. But then again, if she's not coming to the US then the rules may well be different -- including less lenient. Bottom line: Would behoove you to be equally vigilant about exploring Immigration Law as your other interests if indeed your goal is to permanently live together as husband and wife. Best. TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Author Foxinthesnow Posted June 20, 2013 Author Share Posted June 20, 2013 Yeah. She is leaving the US to come here. We are well aware of the process, painfully aware actually. No one is trying to do nothing illegal though. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 And one of you might wind up in jail. So when will you be living together again? When was the last time you had real sex, like with her body? Here's a really kinky idea. Tell her to get a job in a mortuary. I highly doubt that any of the OP and his partner's sexual acts are going to land anyone in jail, unless he lives in the Middle East or some parts of Asia.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 You could change your clothes, hair and the way you look film in a different room and make a porn video of you masterbating like it was real, she might get a kick out of that. IDK I have done many things this is def not one of them so it came to mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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