Caught In The Middle Of Fighting Family And Want Out!!!!!!!!!!

[Midnight Magic]

I have a brother in law who is constantly fighting with his girlfriend and I mean constantly. The brother in law lies, cheats, gambles, steals and you name it, then he bad mouths his girlfriend and then gets upset when she kicks him out.

Then he is calling me and asking me what did she say, and she is calling me and asking what did he say. It is like a bunch of squabbling children.

 

And up to now I have been the middle person, and I am sick of it.

Then they get back together for one day and hate me because of talking to both of them. Then next day they are back to fighting again.

 

My hubby says to stay out of it, and believe me, I am trying, but what am I to do.

I have told them to leave me out of it, I hate being caught in the middle. Then when I tell them that I won't play their games, they both get mad at me.

 

I have given them great advice, stay the hell away from each other, and tho this is great advice, they will not take it.

 

They had a lovely house together and stopped making the payments on it, so it was taken away from them. They got an apartment together the same price as the house payment was, and did not pay the rent so they are being evicted at the end of this month. They both knew this, and I just found out today that the bro in law had rented an apartment on the first of October a bachelor suite for only one person and never told her about it. Now she is the one that is going to be homeless soon. What a man!!

 

And the girlfriend is the nicest person ever. She is like a sister to me, and it tears me up that she is living with this a**h***. And she won't take my advice. I told her that I would set her up in her own apartment and pay for the first and last months rent. She is not sure what she wants to do.

 

I am going to let her see this post so please direct any comments to Kelli.

 

Thanks in advance for any comments.

[CurlyIam]

Midnight, some people don't learn untill they get burned. DON'T help her. She'll get back on her feet and back to him in one month after that.

 

Let her sleep in the park. It is October and freezing as hell here. Trust me, she needs some hatin' right now!

 

Let her be. Leave her alone. I mean it!

[Merin]

Well.. I have to agree with your husband.

 

IF your brother in law and Kelli continue on with thier patterns of dumb behaviour regardless of what you say or do for either one of them, and then are angry with you after the fact (so typical) then I would stop allowing yourself to get in the middle of it period. Yep, even if they get mad at you initially for refusing to take part in the drama.

 

I'm going to assume that both of these people are adults (notice I didn't say MATURE adults) LOL! However, they need to work out thier own problems and it's ridculous to continue to try to "rescue" people who clearly don't want to be "saved" see what I'm saying?

 

Kelli and your BIL need to grow up, do what they need to do to either work things out, or seperate.

 

KELLI, IF you're reading this... give your friend a break here! She cares about you!