Author jerryh Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 how many weeks since the BU man? Link to post Share on other sites
jayhawk566 Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 8 weeks. But she has contacted me a couple times that have set me back Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 im around the same as you so man, you think you will get her back? Link to post Share on other sites
jayhawk566 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 To be honest, I have no idea. She broke up with me with what seem likes gigs. Actually she fits the description to a T. We are both really young so although I wish we were still together, this might be a really good thing for the both of us. If it's meant to be then we will find each other again someday. If not then life will go on. What about you man? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 3, 2013 Author Share Posted August 3, 2013 Yes similar enough, she wasnt sure about her feelings and was bored, so wanted to be single and alone, so kinda GIGS too. Funnily enough my best friend is just home from Australia and the same thing just happened him and his ex of 6 years, so we are going to embrace the single life together! Link to post Share on other sites
rsolom6 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Been together 8 years, broke up 3 months. I have been contacting her and going to see her. never had any contact from her yet. it's been me making the contact then she becomes easily receptive. she left out of the relationship due to an affair with the same guy she is still seeing who is an old friend from 15 years ago. I am making some progress I think but it is pretty hurtful in the process unless I am reading it wrong. I have been showing her my changes in my life. been contacting her via. text and showing up at her place then going to dinners etc.. then having relations with her about 1-2 x per week for past month but she doesn't want me to sleep over. I believe she is still seeing the same guy on the weekends and staying over his place, but is telling me it's a place for her to go and they are just friends from her old band days. I am being told to be cool by her and we had nothing at the initial break up, and for me to be glad we are taking small steps together and getting closer. Somehow I feel I am being played and kept on the string in case her and him don't work out??? she is off & on with rejecting me the following day after sex with limited text contact. it's the hardest thing I have ever done. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Tropi_cali510 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Go get at as many girls as you can, have sex with all of them forget about her if shes seeing someone else, forget that you don't want that in your life time to move on, go work out, go on plenty of hot dates take a vacation Link to post Share on other sites
rsolom6 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I don't know if going out really helps I have been with a few but the feelings seem to be blocked for me. Work out daily keeping in good shape. just going to have to try to go no contact I guess pretty tuff when you are getting receptive action and sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Tropi_cali510 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I don't know if going out really helps I have been with a few but the feelings seem to be blocked for me. Work out daily keeping in good shape. just going to have to try to go no contact I guess pretty tuff when you are getting receptive action and sex. Same **** happening to me bro, 3 months of excellent talking, hanging out,sex all that good stuff, now I guess I came on too strong/desperate so she wants her space, so I'm trying no contact, she already told me she misses me, and another day she said I can't lie I hella miss you and I asked her why so shed have to think about all the good times I have her and she gave me a good answer so know I'm staying busy, but this is the hardest thing ever for me just like you said, sex and good times and now I don't want let it go, but just stay busy and try to keep your mind off that there will be a new better girl better sex and stuff just chill and do you, it's hard but no one said life is easy Link to post Share on other sites
rsolom6 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I hear you. This is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do in my life this NC. Especially when they are somewhat receptive. Link to post Share on other sites
Tropi_cali510 Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Yeah I know like hard to get her off your mind, the harder the try the worst it gets type **** lol. But nc is b*^%% especially when y'all were taking and having sex, I'm in the same position but I think of it as if its meant to be, she'll come after you, she'll chase you, if not, you still got a life to live, there's 100 more girls that'll make you just as happy or happier than she did it just takes time. Link to post Share on other sites
Dolphono Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Been together 8 years, broke up 3 months. I have been contacting her and going to see her. never had any contact from her yet. it's been me making the contact then she becomes easily receptive. she left out of the relationship due to an affair with the same guy she is still seeing who is an old friend from 15 years ago. I am making some progress I think but it is pretty hurtful in the process unless I am reading it wrong. I have been showing her my changes in my life. been contacting her via. text and showing up at her place then going to dinners etc.. then having relations with her about 1-2 x per week for past month but she doesn't want me to sleep over. I believe she is still seeing the same guy on the weekends and staying over his place, but is telling me it's a place for her to go and they are just friends from her old band days. I am being told to be cool by her and we had nothing at the initial break up, and for me to be glad we are taking small steps together and getting closer. Somehow I feel I am being played and kept on the string in case her and him don't work out??? she is off & on with rejecting me the following day after sex with limited text contact. it's the hardest thing I have ever done. What should I do? Bro! Man up... She is allowing you to still "hit-It". Stop being a women and "handle" your handle. Just be her FWB and go with the flow, "be cool" like she said. Enjoy your time with her, get your head right. You guys swingers now, deal with it or let it go... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 5, 2013 Author Share Posted August 5, 2013 Nearly three weeks NC, things are really looking up! thanks everyone here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 8, 2013 Author Share Posted August 8, 2013 well just a small update, i was going to bed last night and i just had the feeling she would call, wednesday is usually her day out. Low and behold at half three in the morning when she was long home i get two calls, which i promptly reject and go back to sleep. That felt good! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 16, 2013 Author Share Posted August 16, 2013 right though i would update this thread, being it is my main one, i met an old friend the last night out who i was extremely close to who i was meant to be with before my relationship began but didnt happen, she carried a candle for me up till last year as far as i know from a friend but we were best friends, my ex was jealous of any girls i was close to so i had to ease her out of my life. few days on i texted her and we got on really well, we arranged to meet in a few days when she is back from a small holiday. I don't know if its just as friends or more but im just glad see her again, she used to be a massive part of my life and i want her to be again in any capacity. Just thought I would let people know what was going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 right though i would update this thread, being it is my main one, i met an old friend the last night out who i was extremely close to who i was meant to be with before my relationship began but didnt happen, she carried a candle for me up till last year as far as i know from a friend but we were best friends, my ex was jealous of any girls i was close to so i had to ease her out of my life. few days on i texted her and we got on really well, we arranged to meet in a few days when she is back from a small holiday. I don't know if its just as friends or more but im just glad see her again, she used to be a massive part of my life and i want her to be again in any capacity. Just thought I would let people know what was going on. Wait, you are meeting your ex? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 16, 2013 Author Share Posted August 16, 2013 Wait, you are meeting your ex? no the other girl, my old best friend who i was meant to get with before. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 17, 2013 Author Share Posted August 17, 2013 Surprise suprise my ex texted again last night when i presume she got home from a night out saying "Hi :)" I deleted the message and its the first time I havent made myself available through text, feels good, just dont understand why she wants to keep annoying me, especially when she is the one who initiated the no contact at the start and only seems to try to communicate lately drunk. Any Ideas? I know she knows this girl is home so maybe she feels threatened by it? any help appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Surprise suprise my ex texted again last night when i presume she got home from a night out saying "Hi :)" I deleted the message and its the first time I havent made myself available through text, feels good, just dont understand why she wants to keep annoying me, especially when she is the one who initiated the no contact at the start and only seems to try to communicate lately drunk. Any Ideas? I know she knows this girl is home so maybe she feels threatened by it? any help appreciated. What is there to help with? You handled it fine. Who knows why she's texting and quite honestly, it doesn't matter. One of these days you'll get to the point where you don't care about her motives and when you do that, it'll be good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 18, 2013 Author Share Posted August 18, 2013 i dont get why she feels the need to contact me when she is drunk and not sober. an ego boost? never thought she was like that but i suppose i always text back and gave it to her so maybe now she will know im truly gone. i need to move on, i cant be her little ego booster, i deserve better. I would say in the last month she has iniated contact maybe 6 or 7 times, all drunk which doesnt say much really Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted August 18, 2013 Share Posted August 18, 2013 i dont get why she feels the need to contact me when she is drunk and not sober. an ego boost? never thought she was like that but i suppose i always text back and gave it to her so maybe now she will know im truly gone. i need to move on, i cant be her little ego booster, i deserve better. I would say in the last month she has iniated contact maybe 6 or 7 times, all drunk which doesnt say much really There's nothing to get. Just ignore and keep doing what you are doing. It doesn't matter why she drunk texts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 18, 2013 Author Share Posted August 18, 2013 There's nothing to get. Just ignore and keep doing what you are doing. It doesn't matter why she drunk texts. ya your right im paying too much attention to why. I feel im doing well, and NC is really helping me move on, and i sense she feels that and whats to keep me there as the backup Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 18, 2013 Author Share Posted August 18, 2013 Just got a text there from my ex, it said "Can we please talk?" do i respond or what? Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted August 18, 2013 Share Posted August 18, 2013 I would say don't respond because she seems to like playing games based on her previous actions. I have a hard time believing this would be sincere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted August 18, 2013 Author Share Posted August 18, 2013 I would say don't respond because she seems to like playing games based on her previous actions. I have a hard time believing this would be sincere. ya me too, dont know whats going on here at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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