Author jerryh Posted September 30, 2013 Author Share Posted September 30, 2013 Let her be the one that's angry, don't let her suck you into her vortex of negativity. thanks man, single life mustnt be all that for her! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 Time to block her number? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 Time to block her number? Yep, not sure why this wasn't already done, but if she's harassing him, he might want to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 thank you i intend on keeping my no contact, its just getting kinda childish and freaky, what could she possibly achieve from this? She receives attention from what she is doing. Send her that text blocker message that I've seen circulated on this website. It says something about this number being blocked and any further attempts will charge the account. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 am i overreacting or am i right to be furious? what is she at? Yes, I can see why you would be mad. These are childish games. She is having the equivalent of a tantrum because you are ignoring her. She can't break up with you and then expect you to text back and forth with her. It doesn't work like that. She must be very immature and used to getting her way. Link to post Share on other sites
NomiMalone Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 Do NOT respond!! No good will come out of it, I can guarantee. Keep doing what you're doing and stay stone cold NC! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted September 30, 2013 Author Share Posted September 30, 2013 thanks everyone i wont respond just find it hard when she texts me but isnt blocking her a little extreme? maybe she will get the message? Link to post Share on other sites
lylat333 Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 I was just going through the older posts jerryh to refresh myself on the history of all this. I thought it was interesting how way back on the first page about her ringing you by "accident". Pretty obvious by now these calls, texts, etc. are no accident, she's playing games and beating around the bush. imo dumpee needs to stay cold NC unless the dumper is begging you back and you truly desire to reconcile. Otherwise it is a waste of time because whether you both know it or not, as soon as they see you still have feelings for them and they have you on the line you will ultimately be resigned to the backburner. The cycle continues leaving you stuck and them free to do whatever they want. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 thanks everyone i wont respond just find it hard when she texts me but isnt blocking her a little extreme? maybe she will get the message? Extreme in what way? I mean, every time she texts you you start feeling down. Do you like feeling like sh*t? Just block. You do awesome when you have no contact from her and no knowledge of what she's doing. I really don't get your hangup on blocking -- it makes all the sense in the world considering your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted September 30, 2013 Author Share Posted September 30, 2013 yes i suppose your right, i dont know if my service do it though, i could send that text next time she does? shes not a bad person so feel bad for taking drastic measures to cut her out but hey she ignored me for the first month and kept saying to go so only right! Link to post Share on other sites
fancy feast Posted September 30, 2013 Share Posted September 30, 2013 thanks everyone i wont respond just find it hard when she texts me but isnt blocking her a little extreme? maybe she will get the message? Mang she's walking by your house like a creeper. She got the message, she just doesn't give a ****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted October 2, 2013 Author Share Posted October 2, 2013 i suppose your right, my birthday is coming up so might just get a new phone and number, give me a fresh start. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted October 10, 2013 Author Share Posted October 10, 2013 Four months since breakup and things have changed alot. I have got a job again, it doesnt make me entirely happy but it will do for now and hopefully find something, still living at home however for time being. I see my friends a whole lot more and having good times with them. Im losing alot of excess pounds i have and gaining a lot of muscle along with a new haircut and new clothes i look and feel a lot better. One thing that annoys me is, how did she notice that i removed her of one social network, she never used it at all like ever, so was she using this to spy on me? am i doing the right thing by just ignoring her contact or am i being childish, i still love and care for the girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 10, 2013 Share Posted October 10, 2013 Four months since breakup and things have changed alot. I have got a job again, it doesnt make me entirely happy but it will do for now and hopefully find something, still living at home however for time being. I see my friends a whole lot more and having good times with them. Im losing alot of excess pounds i have and gaining a lot of muscle along with a new haircut and new clothes i look and feel a lot better. One thing that annoys me is, how did she notice that i removed her of one social network, she never used it at all like ever, so was she using this to spy on me? am i doing the right thing by just ignoring her contact or am i being childish, i still love and care for the girl. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Come on jerry, you know this answer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 I got an email last night from her, it went like this," Hey (petname), how are you? do you hate me? i was thinking we could be friends? This has really hurt me after 5 years she just wants to be friends and has just me down all day now, will i respond and tell her to go away, need some advice Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 you ask a lot of questions which is okey. but if you really think about it, you will most likely understand it yourself. something in the relationship made her think twice about it. it can be really hard for her too. its not just about leaving your boyfriend. its about leaving a friend. you cant just do that and feel nothing when youve spent 5 years together. even if this may sound harsh, you shouldnt be there for her since she was the one breaking up with you. focus on yourself. dont show her that youre hurting. try to be happy and live your life. that is much more attractive then telling her that you cant live your life without her. because thats what youre saying to her right now. show her that you still are the guy she fell in love with and not the guy that she left. this has probably already been said or will be said later but even if this isnt working out. there will be other people out there. dont stalk her facebook etc because then you will never heal. ive learned this the hard way. the worst thing is to see your ex getting drunk on pictures and reading about what shes doing. remove her number, texts, facebook messages etc. block all the updates from her and all her friends so you wont see anything come up on your page. this is if you got facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted October 23, 2013 Share Posted October 23, 2013 When you break up, you release someone in all aspects. There's no halfway. Maybe you can be on cordial terms way down the line, but don't attempt friendship right now. Just ignore her. Don't answer the email because it will only open up the line to more communication. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
flight E Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Jerryh read most of your post and to be brutally honest. You drove the poor girl away. This girl obviously would have come back but you wouldn't listen and leave her alone. If you listened to simonpheniix who never indulged you. You would have been with her sooner or later. The best thing you can do for yourself is never contact her in any way again. If she does by a stroke of fate reach you just reply with I will appreciate it if you don't reach me again. No ill feelings but I believe we are not in a good place to be talkin to each other. If that day ever comes I will reach you. Take care. Am not saying you have special in your f ups most people including me have ffed up too. That's why we can see clearly enuf to advise you correctly Link to post Share on other sites
flight E Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 Respond with that short message Link to post Share on other sites
flight E Posted October 26, 2013 Share Posted October 26, 2013 After that don't respond to anything else. Though it will be hard to undo. The short message does a bit of repairs to the damage you have already done. By showing you not bitter. You are being mature. And you are doing things at you own pace. But it will only have any meaning if you never respond to any thing after that When you have you acts together which will take at the very least 6months of not reaching her in any way and focusing on yourself and moving on, you can contact her if you still wish to. Then you won't be so needy and desperate which are very unattractive Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted November 3, 2013 Author Share Posted November 3, 2013 she called over there after i ignored several calls, told me how she loves me wants to get back together, talked about everything. then she brought up what shes been up to and i dont know but i called for a taxi and sent her home, i love her but dont think i could ever get back with her she was the same rude insulting person and i realized i have changed for the better, am i mad or is this a stage? Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 she called over there after i ignored several calls, told me how she loves me wants to get back together, talked about everything. then she brought up what shes been up to and i dont know but i called for a taxi and sent her home, i love her but dont think i could ever get back with her she was the same rude insulting person and i realized i have changed for the better, am i mad or is this a stage? This is why NC or time apart is good, you end up really understanding why you two broke up in the first place, you end up seeing all those red flags... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted November 3, 2013 Author Share Posted November 3, 2013 This is why NC or time apart is good, you end up really understanding why you two broke up in the first place, you end up seeing all those red flags... yup your right like she told me why she broke up with me and it was that she couldnt handle all the fighting but if you love someone you have to go through hard times, did i do the right thing sending her home? its a house i share with family Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa10 Posted November 3, 2013 Share Posted November 3, 2013 yup your right like she told me why she broke up with me and it was that she couldnt handle all the fighting but if you love someone you have to go through hard times, did i do the right thing sending her home? its a house i share with family Of course, this could've been a brain fart. After all, if it's real love (and she's not doing it just because of her ego) and you two are willing to work for the relationship, in the future you two might be able to have a relationship. How long were you two together? and how long have you two been broken up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryh Posted November 3, 2013 Author Share Posted November 3, 2013 Of course, this could've been a brain fart. After all, if it's real love (and she's not doing it just because of her ego) and you two are willing to work for the relationship, in the future you two might be able to have a relationship. How long were you two together? and how long have you two been broken up? We were nearly 5 years together and 5 months broken up, said she has been thinking about me every day and hasnt fallen out of love but i dont think i can forgive Link to post Share on other sites
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