collegegirl Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 My bf and I are fighting. We have been fighting alot lately, over the stupidest stuff. In our fight a few days ago he told me that this was the last few months that he was going to do this, and that if we didn't work out then that was it. Yesterday was our biggest fight yet. He told me all day that he would call me. He was traveling to his mom's to pick up her old car that she said he could have. He told me that he would call me back several times, but didn't so I called him. Later that day I again called him because it had been a while since I had heard from him, and called him. I felt bad because he was spending time with his family and did not want to just keep calling him while he was in the middle of doing something. He was cooking food this time. So I asked if he would call me when he got a chance and told him that he should spend time with his family. Well this time I waited until he called, watched tv and did my homework (I'm in college). He called me several hours later. MAD because I didn't call. I explained that he had told me that he would call and that I didn't want to bother him. But that was NOT good enough for him. It made me MAD that he was so upset about it. So then of course I had to make things worse by bringing up a fight we had a week ago, on the phone outside of one of my classes. He said something about who was in the classroom and I said I don't know because I don't talk with anyone in there, and I don't just talk my head off and flirt with guys like I did in high school. Well then he hung up on me after he said that, called right back and said that it was f*#ked up that I had said that and hung up again. I called him right back, and he didn't answer. Then I called him several times after each one of my classes, no answer and once he just picked up the phone and hung up! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Well 6 hours later he calls me and is fine and is wondering why I sound upset (because I had been crying and upset about it). And tells me that he was busy out with his roomate trying to find classes for his roomate to get his GED. Well I believed him and everything was fine. So anyway I tell him last night that he hung up on me and then said those words to me and hung up on me again. And that it hurt me because I spent the whole day upset about it and he calls me and is fine. He says that I hung up on him! I told him that I know I didn't. I wouldn't have been so upset if it was my fault for being mean. Well I have a hard time remembering things, which he knows, and the things that I always remember he says that I don't and that it didn't happen that way, well we continue to argue. And I attempt to stay calm and not just get mad and yell things that I don't mean which I always do. He says that I hung up on him, I say no he calls me a baby and I called him and a##H*$e and tell him f*#k you and hung up. Well as soon as I hung up I realized what I had said and called him back to tell him that I didn't mean that last part, but that he was being an A##h*&e. But he wouldn't answer his phone. Now I have not called him all day and I have just been torn up all day and all night. I really do love him so much, we just need to work on some issues and our biggest problem is that he believes that it is all me that needs to be fixed and I agree that I need to change some things, but he never lets me talk when we argue and when I do get to say to words he has pressed my buttons so much that i just get really mad and say hurtful things that I don't really mean. I don't know what to do. I am so upset mad and scared that he will hate me or break up with me. I love him so much he is my everything, my best, truest friend, and has always been there for me but we have never really worked out our issues. And I don't know what to do. Please help me I am begging you all... I don't want to lose him. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Sounds to me that neither one of you want to admit what wrongs you're responsible for. If you want this to blow over, take responsibility for all of it. Let him win this one. Later, though, you two need to work out these issues. If you ever get a chance to talk to him again, apologize and tell him he's right and that you were wrong. Then when you get together, work it out. Also, tell him what you told us about how much you love him and how much he means to you....us guys like to hear that mushy stuff sometimes..... Link to post Share on other sites
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