Mary3 Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Everyone please define * Games * that men and women play . Your input is greatly appreciated ! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 There's a book called: Games People Play The Psychology of Human Relationships Dr. Eric Berne It's pretty good, but it gets kind of pompous. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 When you say one thing but mean another. When you toy around with the other's emotions. When you do something expecting the other to do something else in response. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Here's what I learned, I could be off track. There's social programming, and individual programming. Social programming is the common accepted form of interacting in a society. Individual programming is a pattern of breaking those rules. Those are Games People Play. The key point he makes that really struck me, is that games are "substitutes for the real living of real intimacy." Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Sounds about right. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 That which I most dislike about 'games' is that they are used to manipulate. In manipulating someone, you deny that person his dignity. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 In the introduction, he says the purpose of games are: 1. The relief of tension 2. The avoidoance of noxious situations 3. The procurement of stroking 4. The maintainance of an established equilibrium Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 That's nice. A little too benign, IMHO, unless you broaden the meaning of 'stroking' pretty far. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Well the book's pretty damn confusing. Link to post Share on other sites
girlnextdoor Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 any form of play; amusement Personal amusement, that's usually the reason people play games. They dont intend for the other person to win. It's actually kinda like a game of solitaire only you're playing with someone elses feelings instead of cards. To bad really, it's always funner to play stip poker instead of solitaire Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Originally posted by Mary3 Everyone please define * Games * that men and women play . Your input is greatly appreciated ! Well, we play Outburst and Monopoly and various forms of movie-related trivial pursuit games. Scrabble and Dominoes come out too. Sometimes we play Risk and Axis & Allies and Grand Imperilasim and Democracy (the guys hate when I win those war games and I pretty-much always do!) We play Rail Road Tycoon and Poker too. We have a lot of games that we play with other couples, including our own version of Win, Lose or Draw which is great fun at a party. Mind Trap and Mind Trap II are my favorites, but it's hard to find anyone who wants to play those with me. Sometimes we just play Rummy. I think my least favorite game is "If you don't know, I'm not going to tell you" which usually stems from hurt feelings and escalates into a big fight. We don't play that one anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Flirting, keeping the other person unsure, testing the will, desire.... you know, childish stuff. Are quite amusing if played with moderation. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Telling a person one thing and then doing another. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 I think not being specific about what you want or do qualifies also. Link to post Share on other sites
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