overseas2004 Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Hi I tried this post on another forum but did not get any answers so let me try here please. I met this guy a couple of weeks ago and there was instant chemistry. We have a working relationship so we get to see each other from time to time. He is implementing a project for my company. I am the project manager. I asked my collegue if this guy was married and found out he wasnt. Anyway, last week we finally get to be alone. We got to a work site together. He asked me if I had been to this nearby natural preserve (park). I said no and he suggested that we go. He also mentioned he has a beach house and he said "God willing ... you will see it one day". Ok so I was like... we are finally getting somewhere. Then he asked me how old I was. I told him (Im 37). I asked him as well. He says "I am 42, is that too old". I said "no". Ok so I gave him all the green lights I had to. He did not ask me for a specific date. I got out of the car and we just said goodbye. I have talked to him twice on work related matters and still no date. So whats the deal? Do you guys think he may have a gf? It has been eating at me. I am ready to let it go, but the why is killing me??? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 Hmm Sounds like he's just seeing how it goes, playing it slow. He knows and feels you like him as he likes you I'm sure too. That sexual chemistry between you two is there and he's aware of it too. Maybe he has someone, why not just ask? Be honest. It's killing ya cuz you LIKE him and see some potiental here so I'd say go for it and just wait and see what happens next. Sit back and enjoy. BUT only if he is treating you well, if you feel he is jerking your chain or playing games, then get out. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
girlnextdoor Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 If you really find this guy interesting then don't wait for him to come to you, you go to him. Otherwise he may not be able to get up the courage to actually ask, afraid of rejection. So tell him you are planning on going to the natural preserve this weekend or whatever, set an actuall date, and ask if he would like to come with you. Simple as that, if he doesn't want to go you will know immediatly and if he does, then, you are about ready to go on your first date. Have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 I don't know what his problem is, but forget about him for a while and move onto meeting others. Who cares if he has a gf. If he really likes you, he'll make a sincere effort to be with YOU. I wouldn't loose sleep over him. GIRLNEXT DOOR: I like your picture. Cute child. What a cute doggy, what kind of dog is it? YOU MUST TELL! Link to post Share on other sites
EastCoastGirl Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 MAybe he is just taking it slow. Pe patient, he might come knocking...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author overseas2004 Posted October 14, 2004 Author Share Posted October 14, 2004 He called me again today. HE asked me about the weekend. Not if I would go out again but what I planned to do. He told me about what he was planning on doing. He teased me that he had extra work because of me. I told him he would have to work on softening my company up ... we laughed. I was sure he was calling to ask me out. Nothing but nothing happened again. He did mention he would call me again before Monday but I dont know why. We had finished all our conversations regarding business. I am getting frustrated and second guessing myself. Look I would have asked him out but I was sure that he was going to ask me out. Before I knew it the conversation was dead over. Link to post Share on other sites
girlnextdoor Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 Katie79 Thx, she's a doll, my little slice of heaven. And the puppy, her bestfriend in the whole world and only sibling...lol... is a poodle/sight hound mix. But me and hubby still call him our lap dog.... again, sorry off the subject Link to post Share on other sites
girlnextdoor Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 Sounds like he's just a little nervous about being rejected... Sometimes guys are blind to the subtle messages we send them... lol... you know that whole, if you dont know what i'm thinking I'm not going to tell you... lol... I say just jump in there... Link to post Share on other sites
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