How do people meet people so fast?

[SJC2008]

It blows my mind how I come accross people who can find R's at the snap of a finger, be it here or IRL. A friend of mine has no problem getting gf's, he's pretty cool, average in looks and has zero self esteem. A few years ago his gf dumped him and he met another girl at a local bar and bam, 2.5 yr R. They break up and he gets another gf, met her at is frineds apartments, neighbors I think. I made a zero self esteem reference earlier becuase we're basically the same people, about the same looks wise, I may be a tad bit better looking lol, and we're both pretty funny. Yet he can get a gf at the snap of his fingers.

 

I come accross it here too. People not even divorced already dating, people one month removed already dating. I just don't get it. It's like I wasn't clued into the game in life.

[Balzac]

Has he commented about your search?

[SJC2008]

Has he commented about your search?

 

He hasn't. Was just using him as an example. Like I said I see it all the time. People break up with someone and are with someone else the next day. I guess they just know a lot of people.

[hppr]

It blows my mind how I come accross people who can find R's at the snap of a finger, be it here or IRL. A friend of mine has no problem getting gf's, he's pretty cool, average in looks and has zero self esteem. A few years ago his gf dumped him and he met another girl at a local bar and bam, 2.5 yr R. They break up and he gets another gf, met her at is frineds apartments, neighbors I think. I made a zero self esteem reference earlier becuase we're basically the same people, about the same looks wise, I may be a tad bit better looking lol, and we're both pretty funny. Yet he can get a gf at the snap of his fingers.

 

I come accross it here too. People not even divorced already dating, people one month removed already dating. I just don't get it. It's like I wasn't clued into the game in life.

 

He's just trying harder and he's a lot more clued in when it comes to women that like him and women that don't.

[iris219]

I know people like this too. There are several reasons for it:

 

1. Some people aren't picky. At all. Any warm body will do.

 

2. Luck. Some people are very, very lucky. They are always in the right place at the right time, and they meet desirable people everywhere they go. (I hate these people because this has never been me. I went years without meeting a single man. )

 

3. Some people have the sort of personality that is compatible with a larger segment of society. Because of this meeting people for relationships is easy.

[HokeyReligions]

Charisma. When hubby and I were dating I hung out a lot with his circle of friend (I fit in like one of the guys) and one guy in the group was abou 5' 3" abd thin, wore glasses - not the best looking guy. He always had girlfriends. "The guys" were talking about him once and they just couldn't figure out he was always able to get dates and develop relationships so easy. The "what does he have that I don't" lament. They looked at me and all I could say was Charisma. He just had it. Maybe his tone of voice or the way he told stories - I don't know but he had 'it'. I could see it but I couldn't name it. My then boyfriend said "I guess I'm lucky I met you first" to which I replied before thinking"yep". Good thing hubby has a sense of humor!

[Cutiepie1976]

Agree. Charisma and a positive, optimistic attitude.

 

The people stuck spewing bile and bitterness about their exes take forever to recover. They refuse to let go, accept life for what it is, and move on. Sad, but they hold themselves back.

[crosswordfiend]

3. Some people have the sort of personality that is compatible with a larger segment of society. Because of this meeting people for relationships is easy.

 

I'm going to agree with Iris here. It really helps if you are bland. The more sophisticated one gets, the harder it is to find someone that is a good match.

[tbf]

It's pretty easy to find people to date or have a relationship with. It's far more difficult to find someone compatible, particularly if you're extremely picky and/or are a difficult personality type to spark with.

[SuperGeek]

If you're a girl it's pretty easy. Just get on some dating sites. Wait 10 minutes. Click inbox. Go on date!

[ThanhL]

I wonder so too, sometimes. It seems I am just not lucky.

[El Brujo]

It blows my mind how I come accross people who can find R's at the snap of a finger, be it here or IRL. A friend of mine has no problem getting gf's, he's pretty cool, average in looks and has zero self esteem. A few years ago his gf dumped him and he met another girl at a local bar and bam, 2.5 yr R. They break up and he gets another gf, met her at is frineds apartments, neighbors I think. I made a zero self esteem reference earlier becuase we're basically the same people, about the same looks wise, I may be a tad bit better looking lol, and we're both pretty funny. Yet he can get a gf at the snap of his fingers.

 

I come accross it here too. People not even divorced already dating, people one month removed already dating. I just don't get it. It's like I wasn't clued into the game in life.

 

Some people have not only the gift of gab, they can also be attracted to just anyone of the opposite sex. I guess you could say they're "Beta PUAs".

[hppr]

I know people like this too. There are several reasons for it:

 

1. Some people aren't picky. At all. Any warm body will do.

 

2. Luck. Some people are very, very lucky. They are always in the right place at the right time, and they meet desirable people everywhere they go. (I hate these people because this has never been me. I went years without meeting a single man. )

 

3. Some people have the sort of personality that is compatible with a larger segment of society. Because of this meeting people for relationships is easy.

 

You forgot to add that some people simply HAVE to be in relationships. A friend of mine is like that, his mother was overbearing and now he can't be single. I'm not knocking his relationships just that for him being single is not an option.