BustedUpInside Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Okay, I give up. He was totally wrong, and you were totally right. You should have been an even bigger psycho. You should have kidnapped him and forced him to properly break up with you according to a script you had prepared beforehand. Only after he recited it word for word would he be able to leave. And then only after signing a paper declaring that all your behavior was 100% his fault and that his 'emotional abuse' drove you to being crazy and that is was a reasonable and appropriate response. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Okay really? That is attacking. She's disagreeing with you (as is everyone else). That's not attacking. Stop blaming your ex for your actions. Stop looking for other people to make decisions for you and tell you what you should be doing with your life. Stop playing the victim. You aren't the victim. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Okay really? Again I WAS WRONG!!!!!! ALL I WANTED was some understanding that he was wrong too. It doesnt make my actions okay but damn. For people who have experienced heartbreak you sure seem to lack empathy. IT DOESN'T MATTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are wasting your time playing the blame game. Let's pretend he was partially to blame. Does it change anything? NO. Does it make you feel better about what happened? NO. Does it bring you two together? NO. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to not like how it went down. It is not OK to make a fool out of yourself and then try to shift the blame. It is not OK to dwell on it and it is not OK to be obsessed with what he's doing when it does absolutely nothing for you. I don't care how many times you try to shift the blame, the result is the same. Control you and how you react to people. Because you are going to deal with people who don't act in the way you think is right again. And hopefully you won't have an immature meltdown the next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 But i do forgive myself. I had a moment of weakness. You all calling me crazy does feel like attacking. So you forgive yourself for weakness but won't forgive him for doing the same? Seems like a double standard. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Hi OP. Do you think you have problems with controlling yourself and being too impulsive? Because you've said you're going to quit responding to this thread maybe like ten times now, yet you've spent much of your day posting in it. It's like you can't help yourself. Do you think this is true? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I get what you are saying but i cant. I idealized him up until yesterday, i cant forgive him yet. So you idealized him until he got mad at you for going nuts on him? You idealized him even when he wasn't talking to you? Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Yes im impulsive. I think it's good that you can admit this. I'm betting this had a lot to do with your need to persistently contact him. And as you've learned, that kind of behavior really puts people off. Do you think this is something that you should work on? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 It sounds dumb but i was in denial, i believed he was forcing himself to get over me like he stated. And now you can't forgive him because he broke up with you and meant it? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Yeah it is. I have admitted fault this whole thread. A lot of people dont see that for some reason. Again with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Not yet. But one day maybe. Do you think he should have stayed with you even if he didn't want to? I don't get why you think it's a crime that he broke up with you. Do you think you should be forced to be with someone who you didn't want to be with? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I know. But i have. Ive never once said i was right. I dont get why no one doesnt see that. Once again you have no idea what anyone has been typing to you ITT. It's like you aren't even reading. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 No i do not think this. No one should be forced to be with someone. I just wish he couldve told me he was done. Thats all. He did when he stopped talking to you. Just because it's not said verbally doesn't mean it didn't actually happen. I realize the way he did it wasn't ideal and I wouldn't want that, but something people do things that aren't the best. You want sympathy for doing something you shouldn't have done but you are unwilling to give the same. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Yeah it is. I have admitted fault this whole thread. A lot of people dont see that for some reason. I think it's hard for people to see that you have admitted fault, because usually when you've done it, you follow it up with something like "But he was wrong and mean and shouldn't have done that." That doesn't really look like admitting fault, that just looks like blaming someone else for your actions. But I think I'm repeating what others have already said so I'll move on. I do give you credit for admitting to some faults. I think it's kind of a waste of your time to defend yourself in this thread. You've defended yourself the same ways over and over, and I don't know that any progress can be made by arguing who was more wrong. So maybe instead you can focus on what you can do going forward to be less impulsive and pushy and careless with your own emotions. What do you think? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 13 pages of this crap? Really? Can we PLLLEAASSEE get a moderator to lock this down!?!?!?! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 13 pages of this crap? Really? Can we PLLLEAASSEE get a moderator to lock this down!?!?!?! Why? I think almost all posts have been pretty civil and in the spirit of helping undergroundlife. I guess you could just ignore the thread? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Okay im done here then. Good luck with everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hinatticus Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 All I gotta say is wow. And where is taramaiden in this thread. I don't feel like adding anymore input because what everybody else said pretty much sums it up. Op is not listening to anyone here, heck she isn't even listening to herself. How many times is she gonna threaten that she's done posting? Anyway, I hope op figures it out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Why? I think almost all posts have been pretty civil and in the spirit of helping undergroundlife. I guess you could just ignore the thread? 13 pages of everyone saying the same thing to the OP who's not listening or grasping what folks are saying here. At what point does someone stop beating their heads against the wall? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 13 pages of this crap? Really? Can we PLLLEAASSEE get a moderator to lock this down!?!?!?! Why are you playing hall monitor? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I was saying i was going to leave because she said it was crap and i thought everyone was tired of me. You've really got to stop, sweetheart. Log off. Go do something more productive with your time. Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Why are you playing hall monitor? I don't know? I simply feel sorry for this gal and for all the posters who REALLY tried to give her some GREAT advice that simply wasn't sinking in. I guess I was mistakenly trying to be the voice of reason and ask for someone to put this thread out of its misery!! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I don't know? I simply feel sorry for this gal and for all the posters who REALLY tried to give her some GREAT advice that simply wasn't sinking in. I guess I was mistakenly trying to be the voice of reason and ask for someone to put this thread out of its misery!! :laugh: Don't be that guy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I don't know? I simply feel sorry for this gal and for all the posters who REALLY tried to give her some GREAT advice that simply wasn't sinking in. I guess I was mistakenly trying to be the voice of reason and ask for someone to put this thread out of its misery!! :laugh: Actually, I think the thread might have been going in a more positive direction when you posted. It kind of stopped when you stepped in with your non-advice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Actually, I think the thread might have been going in a more positive direction when you posted. It kind of stopped when you stepped in with your non-advice. Do you want your money back? You know the old saying, opinions are like you and everyone has one. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Do you want your money back? You know the old saying, opinions are like you and everyone has one. Is this your clever way of calling me an assh0le? Well done. Edit: OP, good job not responding to this thread for a while. I hope you are out doing better things. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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