travelbug1996 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Disappearing off the radar is the easiest way to deal with a break up. We all do it, all the time. It is not emotional abuse. I'm sorry but we ALL don't do it. Immature people run and disappear from issues. Mature adults can sit down and discuss the issues and decide to try again or move forward. Speak for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 It is better for people to be open and honest. Yet not everyone is effective at communicating. It does not mean they are crappy people. Some exes, ahem, will choose to stick around and hold onto their exes, until, they move on and find a girl they want to be with. In a way, this guys method was fair and honest. He did not lead her on. However, a more effective communicator would have at least thrown in one text, stating that " I do not want to be with you again. I do miss you and it is hard for me to say this, but I do not want you to have false hope. Please get over me, as hard as it is, I want us to get over each other and move on" Something along those lines^^ albeit even a super short conversation earlier on, stating that he wanted them to both move on and not think about any future. What this thread is about, though, more than how the dude handled it and whether or not it was called for, is how the OP handled radio silence. Silence means that they do not WANT to be contacted. That is what the OP will hopefully now grasp! ..................................................................... It does not matter if they proposed marriage to you the day before the break up! Them ignoring you? It means THEY DO NOT want to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
youngnlove89 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 and that push and pull should be enough for you to realize he is full of poop. Don't fall for it again. Block. Delete. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 I agree. Talking it to death makes it worse. I went round and round with my ex, and it didn't matter in the end. It just made it worse. Just prolonged the suffering. After all that, I still don't really understand what happened, but who cares. There is no nice way to break up. No nice or right time to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 Theres no point in talking things to death, i agree. You end it and go no contact. That makes sense, but you should also make sure its really what you want. If you choose to enter a relationship you should end it appropriately. You end it and move on. This is why i was so upset. He didnt end it when he came back to me he just left it open ended. There's no "appropriate" way to end a relationship that minimizes the pain. It all sucks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 21, 2013 Share Posted June 21, 2013 It was not fair and honest, he wanted me back then left. He never wanted you back. He told you what you wanted to hear because he thought he was being nice, or he thought it would calm you down. His disappearance was a true indication of what he wanted. If you learn anything from this, actions, not words, are what matter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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