My LDR

[mofo1922]

Around 7months ago my friends and i met a girl on chatroulette. At first we all started to talk to her but then they left and i continued to talk to her and we really connected on a lot of things. We were good friends for about a few months till i asked her if she wanted to become my long distance girlfriend. She was hesitant at first but gave it a shot. We have now been dating for about 5months and i met her for the first time this weekend. (Im 17 btw and she is 17, yes i know we are still young but love knows no age in my opinion) That weekend was probably one of the best weekends of my life and i now know that i truly love her and would like to be with her for a really long time. Like she is perfect for me as i am for her. Anywho she always tells me that she loves me and that she wants to be with me but she also has a weakness for being attracted to cute nice guys. About 2 months ago things werent going well between us and she started to have feelings for a guy at her work and i was pretty sad. But once i started to make her happy again she started to not have to feelings and fell for me again. I always tell her i love her and i want to be with her and i dont want her to leave and she always smiles and says thank you i love you but im still not sure if she will still like another guy and ill end up with my feelings hurt. I mean i know i cannot predict the future but im inlove with this girl and my feelings to her have been like no other to anyone else. Pretty much should i worry about her leaving for another guy if she says she loves me and wants me when she goes into college? or should i let her experience new guys and let her go?

[Carenth]

You are both very young and I'm sorry to say this but I don't like to sugar coat things. The chances of this working out are pretty much zero. Many teenage couples break up when they go to college in different areas. Because they meet other people who are closer and who they also get along with and are attracted too.

 

Clearly things are not as perfect as you say, if she has got eyes for other guys. I know you are young but please don't put her on a pedestal, it will just hurt more when you guys break up.

 

Unfortunately the saying "love conquers all" isn't exactly true, unless you have the means and one of you is willing to sacrifice to move closer to the other then it will never work out. The fact she isn't really committed and I can understand why as I said you are both very young.

 

If you are already having these doubts, it would probably be for the best that you moved on LDR require absolute trust, patience, maturity and empathy if they are going to stand a chance at surviving in my opinion. Also planning for an end date is very important as well.

 

Sorry if that is not the answer you wanted to hear.

Edited June 19, 2013 by Carenth

[Foxinthesnow]

will she fall for another guy? yeah maybe. But you shouldn't worry about it. Life is very long and you are just getting started in it.

 

I got involved with a girl when i 16 and we became very serious, and i loved her very much. we were together for many years and had some great times. But there were issues from the start (they started showing up about three months in and never got better).

 

we ended up breaking up (i left her) during my second year of college. For those years though, she was the love of my life....or at least that is what i thought.

 

I say, take the good and enjoy it for all its worth, if you really like this girl great! enjoy every second with her. But don't spend all your time worrying if she is going to cheat on you. that is a little paranoid and more than a little distrustful of her.

 

in fact...if you really want to make a point with her, be honest. tell her this is something that really bothers you and give her the chance to give you an honest reply. It may not be the one you want, but at least it will end the worry.

[mofo1922]

You are both very young and I'm sorry to say this but I don't like to sugar coat things. The chances of this working out are pretty much zero. Many teenage couples break up when they go to college in different areas. Because they meet other people who are closer and who they also get along with and are attracted too.

 

Clearly things are not as perfect as you say if she has got eyes for other guys. I know you are young but please don't put her on a pedestal, it will just hurt more when you guys break up.

 

Unfortunately the saying "love conquers all" isn't exactly true, unless you have the means and one of you is willing to sacrifice to move closer to the other then it will never work out. The fact she isn't really committed and I can understand why as I said you are both very young.

 

If you are already having these doubts, it would probably be for the best that you moved on LDR require absolute trust, patience, maturity and empathy if they are going to stand a chance at surviving in my opinion. Also planning for an end date is very important as well.

 

Sorry if that is not the answer you wanted to hear.

 

Well i do admire what you say but maybe i could have re worded this up much better. But this is my first time on one of these websites (im more of a person that would rather experience things on my own instead of talking and seeing what others have experienced) and i guess i should let life takes its toll on out relationship and let us see how far it gets. I know everyone says the chances are love but this girl and i share a special feeling towards eachother and im not going to any statistic or probability tell me otherwise. I know we are young and i dont know what life has in store for us. I also know, no one in hear can predict the future or is god so ill rather not listen to what anyone has to say and ill just go with what happens. Thank you for responding but i now find it useless.