It's like a game of musical chairs....

[Imported]

Agreed.

 

I've noticed that many of the never married men over 35 have never married because they don't want to be married (commitment issues). Many of these men are good looking and successful, and have chosen to be single when they could have easily settled down a long time ago. No woman perfect enough for them exists.

 

My ex is this guy and he will probably never be married.

 

For the most part, men who want to settle down and have a family do so by a certain age. If they haven't, ES is right to be wary of them.

 

It is not "no woman is perfect", more along the lines of if I am wrong this can cost me a whole lot of money, paid out to a woman that has probably done wrong to me, which makes it 100 billion times worse than just costing me money alone.

 

I have friends that pay alimoney to their divorced ex-wife that cheated on them. **** that. I have had three long term relationships, two of which ended because she ****ed around. I really trusted them, they were both very nice women and yet they cheated. I think I am a pretty honest person, with beliefs and morals and I would not do **** like that. Trust issues? Absolutely. In most scenerios, I actually stand to lose a good amount of money and possibly even half of my retirement. I have a lot more to say!!! But the plane is boarding.

 

Quickly though, it is great to be a good looking and fit man, with money, good job, cool home and ridiculous cars. Women pretty much fall over with their legs spread. OK, maybe not that easy, but pretty damn easy. Do I think about marriage and settling down? Yes I do.

[Keenly]

Did I just read that?

 

If a man is older and he has never been married its his fault, but if a woman is older and she has never been married its the men she has been withs fault ? What?

 

 

Just because a man hasn't been married does not mean he is afraid of commitment. Maybe he hasn't found a woman that he connects enough with emotionally to spend his life with? Are you saying that's impossible ?

 

 

Me personally, I will not even consider marriage unless we have a bond like no other. So if I never find that bond, does that make me a commitment phobe for not wanting to settle with less than I am satisfied with ?

[ltjg45]

The only man over 25 that I have ever met that is a virgin/constantly rejected etc, has a severe mental disability.

 

So I have no idea that men like the ones on LS even exist in real life. If they do, they are certainly extremely rare.

 

What? I'm right here, you know.

 

I may be the only one in Jacksonville but, if that's the case, so be it.

 

I don't see me losing my virginity anytime soon though. I got bigger problems to worry about, after all.

[pcplod]

Quickly though, it is great to be a good looking and fit man, with money, good job, cool home and ridiculous cars. Women pretty much fall over with their legs spread. OK, maybe not that easy, but pretty damn easy. Do I think about marriage and settling down? Yes I do.

 

I conducted a little experiment one time on POF. Nicked an anonymous photo of a good-looking guy in his forties from another web-site and then put together a profile claiming that he was in his mid-fifties, very successful business-wise, luxury continental apartment, now having made it all had decided, as a perennial bachelor, to look for someone to settle down with and share it all with.

 

The results were even more astounding than a hardened cynic like me expected. Describing it as like "flies around $h1t" would not have done it justice. So, it would appear that there are natural practical limits to the "avoiding the commitment-phobes and the mentally-ill".

 

Scarcely surprising, and I readily accept that not all women are gold-diggers. The practical problem is sorting them out from the rest. They tend to be very good at what they do and they are generally reticent to wear identity badges, for all the obvious reasons. Trust, how far should it go?