jmski88 Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 About a month ago, a girl that I really liked, broke up with me. We were very close, we only new each other about a month, but it felt like we had been together for a long time. We were able to share are feeling no problem, but then it happened. She gave me the "I need some space" speach. She told me she didn't want to break up with me, she just wanted to take things slower, and spend a little more time apart (we both had very busy schedules, and I could use some time to). One night, she had one of her so called friends come over just to talk to her. Thats what she told me. I couldn't stand now being with her, and I suspected this guy at her house was just to use her. I drove 20 minutes to here house out of love, but she didn't want to talk to me. I stood in front of her house for hours, but she wouldn't talk to me. One of her friends called me telling me that I was scaring her, and that I should leave. Her friend ended up telling me that she was dating this guy she had over. I just don't understand why she couldn't tell me instead of acting like we still had something. I was crushed. Devastated, I didn't want to live. We didn't talk for about a month, but one day in math class she came and sat by me. We didn't talk, she just sat there. I thought she wanted me back. I started calling her, but she wasn't interested. I didn't ask her out, I just told her that I still cared about her, but she didn't say she still cared about me back. She isn't going out with this guy now, and I don't understand what is going on. I asked her what went wrong between us, and she said nuthing. If there is nuthing wrong, we would still be together, or thats what I think. I still wan't her back with all of my heart, but I can't figure out why she doesn't like me any more. When the relationship first started out, she kept saying she was afraid to fall in love, but it was to late, I feel in love with her. I still want her back but don't know what to do. She is all I think about and not being with her is destroying my life. My grades are dropping, my parent can tell im deeply depressed, and I don't have the motivation to do anything anymore. She was prefect, sweet, sensitive, smart, beautiful, you name it she was perfect. I don't know what to do please help a guy with a broken heart. Also, this girl was my first kiss. My first hug, and my first time. She was really sumething special to me. Link to post Share on other sites
bambi_4 Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 First love is the hardest to get over and generally it doesn't last. You sound young and have plenty of time to find love again. If u love her you will respect her discission and give her the space she wants and obviously needs. Show her that u care enough to this. I know u mean the best by her but when u are young having your space envaded can be scary. If some guy is using her its up to her to deal with it not u. She has to find out for herself. Dont despair love will find u again and with someone that deserves u. But back off that girl and possibly even show her u don't care. I know from experience it can even work to get her back but be strong. Take care of yourself and your studies, no girl is worth losing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovehertodeath Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 #1 rule after a break up.....DO NOT.... I REPEAT DO NOT GO HOUNDING/BEGGING HER. If you do you are only going to hurt yourself and push her away. Do you want that? no you dont. Put it this way...would you want someone you are not attracted to begging and crying for you to love them? no. She broke up with you because she wasnt "feeling" you aka not attracted to you anymore. She has to decide what she wants....you cant convience her to love you so dont even try it. Just stay away from her and no contact at all. If she really does love you...she will show it by trying to get back with you. Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmski88 Posted October 13, 2004 Author Share Posted October 13, 2004 Originally posted by Ilovehertodeath #1 rule after a break up.....DO NOT.... I REPEAT DO NOT GO HOUNDING/BEGGING HER. If you do you are only going to hurt yourself and push her away. Do you want that? no you dont. She has to decide what she wants....you cant convience her to love you so dont even try it. Just stay away from her and no contact at all. If she really does love you...she will show it by trying to get back with you. Peace. yeah, I agree. I didn't try to get back with her, but that day she sat by me for no reason, was just a little odd. I thought she stell felt for me. I think she likes me, but shes just afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovehertodeath Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 sounds a little fishy to me.....she must like the attention you give her. Dont feed that troll...move on. Link to post Share on other sites
oldandie1950 Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 Originally posted by Ilovehertodeath sounds a little fishy to me.....she must like the attention you give her. Dont feed that troll...move on. While i agree, basically with Ilovehertodeath, my experience of the end of a 25 yr. relationship has left me this, do not let this woman play you, with any method. stand back from the situation. Decide what your needs are, socially, emotionally, fun wise, sexually. If you are honest with yourself about you and your real wants, desires you will really see if this person is for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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