Why wont she work on it? complete 180

[Dave8657]

My wife and I have been married for 2 years now and have a 10 month old daughter. I'm 26 and she is 21 as of 2 weeks ago. We met when we were both working at walmart and then I became a corrections officer and she became a stay at home mom. Well recently money has gotten tight so we fought....never physical.....but we always made up. Her main claim was my job got to me and changed me....I didn't appreciate her and we fought as well as she never felt romanced.Well she finally got a job and within 2 weeks from starting she told me she doesn't know if she wants to be with me....then I kept pushing her until she said she wanted a seperation. Now she is always out with friends and we split days with our daughter. She told me she will always love me and still worries about me. She said she didn't know about a divorce because then people usually get bsck together so she's in no rush for any legal stuff. I love her and I want to make this work. She said she doesn't wanna be around me because I always wanna talk about stuff that will lead to an arguement. 2 days after she asked for the seperation I found her phone and found texts between her and her boss calling eachother babe and talking about snugging. When confronted she said it was innocent flirting and she said it was wrong. She claims she put an end to that fast which I try to believe cause she cried and says she's sorry and she didn't do anything else.we do still have days where we laugh but they are further now. She's currently looking for an apt but she moved out after 3 weeks. it seems as though she is getting further and further away from me. I try to text her and either she doesnt answer or she argues with me. im always trying to be the adult here and talk through things but she goes from 0-60 like "snap" that.<--2 weeks prior. *UPDATE* I got served divorce papers a week ago out of nowhere as we had discussed if we were going to file we would let the other know so it wasnt a blindside. I have since gotten an attorney and have filed papers to modify the temp orders as they lied saying she was still living with me instead of on her friends couch. she always is at work and i might not see her for a day or i might see her for 20mins. ive offered to go to dinner with the baby to just talk to eachother and keep some kind of friendship and the baby can see both parents together. but she keeps telling me no and that shes not ready for that. my sadness and depression has started to turn to anger and now i still like seeing her and talking to her but i start to get irritated around her. she has started to dress like a 16y/o hooker.( shortest shorts possible, see through shirt that you can see bra, and makeup thats well you know) she used to dress like a young mom. now shes dressing like this and also instead of posting pics of baby all the time on facebook shes taking pics of her in the bathroom doing some poses and one of her bent over shower her butt(in shorts). I told her she failed the marriage and ive done everything to fix the mistakes i made. she said i pushed her too far away and she doesnt wanna fix things. she said everything has pushed her away and she can never look at me the same again. we only had verbal arguments, nothing physical. I told her that she isnt even trying for our 11 m/o daughter. she said i shouldnt have to be in a relationship i dont want to be for my daughter. Now that im not at her beck and call all the time, shes started being nicer and giving me hugs saying she doesnt want to fight anymore about the divorce and wants to work on what we both want in the divorce. some days she is nice and caring and others she is well a bitch. She has deleted and blocked me from facebook( but forgot all of our friends so they tell me what she does). 2 weeks ago she said she's not in love with me anymore but says down the road we might get back together, not in the near future, but in the future. she said i still text her too much about stupid stuff( what our daughter is doing or questions) and she would rather i just text her asking how her day is and that would help her to want to spend time with me.right now i have our daughter 3 1/2 days a week as does she, but she works so much i actually have her close to 5 days a week We have until July 30th until the first court date due to waiting period.Its been a month and a half today(6/20/13) since seperation. she refuses to go to any sort of counseling. Is there anyway to save my marriage? what could i be doing to make her see the changes ive made? is there any chance she will come around? near future or someday? any advice would help as i do still wanna save my marriage. any questions i would be more than happy to answer.