LilGirlandOW Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 dday the day bs becomes aware of said A. what i need is a jday. a judgement day where mm or i the ow decide the fate of said A Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 dday the day bs becomes aware of said A. what i need is a jday. a judgement day where mm or i the ow decide the fate of said A So that's any day? Am I misunderstanding? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LilGirlandOW Posted June 20, 2013 Author Share Posted June 20, 2013 i meant to decide to end A or be exclusive, For now I'll follow the trail of crumbs see how that works out, where that leads lol Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 i meant to decide to end A or be exclusive, For now I'll follow the trail of crumbs see how that works out, where that leads lol Sorry. My train of thought was that often Dday is forced upon the parties in that the BS finds out. What you're speaking of isn't influenced by another party so can happen whenever you're ready....? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted June 20, 2013 Share Posted June 20, 2013 (edited) dday the day bs becomes aware of said A. what i need is a jday. a judgement day where mm or i the ow decide the fate of said A Well...dday is out of your hands unless you tell the BS yourself; however, a JDay is well within your control. You can decide at any point what you want for yourself. For me personally, DDay would be JDay simultaneously. Even if I hadn't decided anything before and just went along with it and "lived in the moment", dday would be the fork in the road for me where I decide what's what. It's so much more empowering when you decide for yourself though before it's forced on you or before you reach the end of the crumb trail.... Edited June 20, 2013 by MissBee 2 Link to post Share on other sites
canuckprincess Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 dday the day bs becomes aware of said A. what i need is a jday. a judgement day where mm or i the ow decide the fate of said A For us jday and the fate of our relationship came long before dday. Dday means different things for different couples, for us it was an emotional time that brought us closer in some ways. Doesn't matter how many Ddays there are nothing will change for some. Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 dday the day bs becomes aware of said A. what i need is a jday. a judgement day where mm or i the ow decide the fate of said A FBS here..... For me DDay WAS JDay, but in hindsight, I was one of the lucky ones. I accidentally intercepted a text while on family vacay and all the pieces started falling into place. However, I played in cool, sweet and kind, while I scoured bank records and cell phone bills BEFORE confronting him, so he couldn't dodge or duck or deflect his way out of it. I threw him out to be with his soulmate, promised to divorce amicably and fairly, and WOULD NOT interfere with his relationship with his children or even bad-mouth him OR HER ever. He was GOB-SMACKED, never told her that, and began to relentlessly pursue me back while living with her. Finally, one day he is crying at her kitchen table about me. My heart broke for her. OP, is this what you want, possibly, for yourself? If you think your current scenario is heart-wrenching, can you imagine living through what the fOW in my sitch did?????? Plus, I exposed to friends and family because I intended to move towards divorce. Are his crumbs worth this heartache? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anna-Belle Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 i meant to decide to end A or be exclusive, For now I'll follow the trail of crumbs see how that works out, where that leads lol We've been exclusive for three years even though Dday only came three months ago. Dday meant declaring he loved me to his wife, so maybe we should call that Declaration Day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 anna-Bella wrote, " We've been exclusive for three years even though Dday only came three months ago. Dday meant declaring he loved me to his wife, so maybe we should call that Declaration Day." Anna I actually glad it's worked out for you & his Wife* When is his D finalized? Okay so this is a smidge "off color" but lilgirl, every time I read your Topic Title, I think VaJayJay Day. Lol!! At least in the hope DDay leads to only One VaJayJay** Link to post Share on other sites
Anna-Belle Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Anna I actually glad it's worked out for you & his Wife* When is his D finalized? Thank you. One step at a time. They have just separated. A one year separation period before finalizing divorce is what they are looking at now. A divorce should not be taken lightly. No reason to rush through it. Nobody's in a hurry now that the truth is out. As it is now, the children are just getting used to mom and dad living separately. In fact they seem to be enjoying themselves at dad's apartment, which is a relief to everybody. Link to post Share on other sites
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