Want to start dating again. Lots of questions for you guys.

[leongrado]

So I'm currently a 20 year old college student who wants to start dating again.

 

Up to this point, I've only had one relationship when I was a senior in high school. The relationship lasted 8 months which is incredible now that I look back at it because I was really insecure and had no idea what I was doing.

 

I'm looking for a long term relationship. No flings (although I'm a guy and won't complain if I do get some )

 

To the questions:

 

1. What are good places to meet women in college? I'm not really into parties or bars.

 

2. What is acceptable for online and texting communication? Can I ask for her number via facebook? Ask her to go on a date through facebook? Ask her out through dating?

 

3. Related to 2. Would the only acceptable/effective way to ask for a number be in person?

 

4. What are some good signs that a girl likes you? Should I even care about the signs or just go for it?

 

5. I have serious anxiety when I'm going to make moves on a girl. Can I train myself to be more comfortable with this gradually? How?

 

6. I'm going to admit right now that I'm kind of approval seeking and I care too much about what other people think. Anyone have experience with overcoming this? Is it just going to be here no matter what?

 

7. How do you friend zone girls? My current approach is being kind of cold towards them but I feel like doing that hurts their feelings(not really friendzoning, more like being an *******). Can I turn the relationship into a platonic one nicely?

 

8. Do girls like getting approached/ hit on?

 

9. Other words of wisdom?

 

Thanks!

Edited June 21, 2013 by leongrado
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[patrol]

1. School clubs if you don't like parties and bars.

 

2. I wouldn't use facebook until you've gone on a few dates. Doing everything through text kinda makes you seem like a wimp IMO.

 

3. I would say so. Get her number in person at least.

 

4. I'd say don't care too much about if the girl likes you. Focus more on if you like the girl. If she doesn't like you back then move on. Plenty of girls out there.

 

5. Start conversations with strangers. Anybody. Girls are preferable but it doesn't matter at all. Make your brain think it's no big deal.

 

6. Not sure you can really change this.

 

7. Tricky. If you're too nice they'll think you're into them. If you're too mean, they won't want to be friends with you. I really don't know.

 

8. I'm a guy but I'd say probably yes? I know girls love telling other people about who and who hitting on them. Of course this is usually if they rejected them. Makes them feel attractive I'm assuming.