Mws Posted June 21, 2013 Share Posted June 21, 2013 Well my ex and I broke up after 5 years she changed her number so we couldnt talk blocked me on facebook said she didnt love me and started seeing some one else within a week of our breakup. Now she is contacting me sending me messages like "Are you ok?" hope you are well sorry for changing my number. I really didnt want to break no contact so i decided to write on here. She said we are too powerful and doesnt want to mess things up with this new guy. I dont know what the **** to think 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Share Posted June 21, 2013 did u reply Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mws Posted June 21, 2013 Author Share Posted June 21, 2013 not yet, nor do i know what to say if I do. Link to post Share on other sites
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 It's up to you, if you reply to her, and what you say, if you do. But, I encourage you: stay strong. If you need to get closure, now is the time. Ask her why she did what she did, the way she did it. Again, this is only if you decide to reply to her. In essence though, you don't owe her anything. She left without giving you any reason, cut you out of her life, with no explanations. So if you reply, make sure it's only so you can do what you need to do; whether that's to find out what you need to, or whether it's to bitch her out, for all she put you through. Closure is key. Link to post Share on other sites
Delilah1623 Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Sounds like she found out the grass ain't so green at the new guys place. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mws Posted June 24, 2013 Author Share Posted June 24, 2013 (edited) <Similar threads merged> My ex and i where really close friends for the period of 5 years it devastated me when she told me one day that she wasnt in love with me anymore and left me. I had a nervous breakdown and said some really terrible things begged her cried to her, she then started dating another guy a week after we broke up. Its been almost 2 months now and I still love the girl I have tried to get over her been out on dates. But nothing really compares to her, whenever we see eachother we always laugh and smile and cant stop. I have had a severe case of social anxiety develop over the time of our relationship which ultimately caused it to end I believe. I have recently got help for it and am not sure if i should tell her that im doing great or keep up no contact its been a week and its the longest we have gone without talking ever she hasnt called me. I want her back but only if its possible to healthy and happy. I love this girl with all my heart. Should i reach out to her and tell her im doing great or should i keep no contact? Edited June 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Inviv_girl Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 My ex and i where really close friends for the period of 5 years it devastated me when she told me one day that she wasnt in love with me anymore and left me. I had a nervous breakdown and said some really terrible things begged her cried to her, she then started dating another guy a week after we broke up. Its been almost 2 months now and I still love the girl I have tried to get over her been out on dates. But nothing really compares to her, whenever we see eachother we always laugh and smile and cant stop. I have had a severe case of social anxiety develop over the time of our relationship which ultimately caused it to end I believe. I have recently got help for it and am not sure if i should tell her that im doing great or keep up no contact its been a week and its the longest we have gone without talking ever she hasnt called me. I want her back but only if its possible to healthy and happy. I love this girl with all my heart. Should i reach out to her and tell her im doing great or should i keep no contact? I'm sorry you are through this. I know it is a rough time. Please look after yourself and be healthy. Look, she doesn't love you anymore- she left and it is now with another guy. Any calls/text/emails from you will just annoy her, and It won't change a thing if you tell her about you. Just leave her alone and stay where you are right now, focusing on yourself and be happy! She dumped you and it is her call to reach out to you, Not you! ok?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mws Posted June 24, 2013 Author Share Posted June 24, 2013 I forgot to mention that she has sent me a few facebook messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 Ignore it all. She's the one that decided that she didn't want you in her life. So, she has no right to ask, "if you're okay". She gave up that right. And when you feel like contacting her, just remember this. She was cheating on you. You don't leave a relationship and immediately jump into another relationship within DAYS if there's wasn't something there to begin with. Even most people that are rebounding usually give it a bit more time. So, you're getting breadcrumbs because she kicked you to the curb AND she was running around on you. She's starting to feel guilty. That explains why she immediately changed her number and blocked you on social media. She knew that you were going to find out the truth. So, she was running away from you and didn't want to face the truth and answer your hard questions. She was being a coward. You deserve better than that. Time to go hard NC, heal and move on. Time to work on you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mws Posted June 25, 2013 Author Share Posted June 25, 2013 She was my dream girl, I fell in love with her personality looks didnt matter ever. She could be wearing a garbage bag and dirty as hell and I would still think she was gorgeous. Thats how it was for us. Then one day things changed and its kicking my ass because I cant comprehend how we went from that to this. Thank you guys all for the continued support I am really trying not to have nervous breakdowns daily and this is helping vent on here. Link to post Share on other sites
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