Anela Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Bah, this only happened to me once, and it had nothing to do with the guy, and everything to do with the fear instilled in me in a specific way (he didn't just flake on me). I'm not going to talk more about it, I've had a ****ty enough day. That ******* temporarily had a girlfriend, but is now single again, and talking about/feeding conspiracy theories all day, by the way. He is nothing special. Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Won't matter, bro...those women only want the top 1% of the male population. You don't look like Ryan Gosling? Prepare to get friendzoned. Unless you ignore them...then they'll come running. /sarcasm Hahaha, I remember when I thought like that.. I was a very sad man back then. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Ryan Gosling isn't even good looking. Without fame, hes a nobody. Someone like Ricky Martin(if he was straight), Gabriel Aubry, or Channing Tatum would be fine even without fame. Oh, yes he is. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 I've seen this pop up a few times throughout this forum, and I've always wanted to try it. Specifically pertaining to OLD because that's the way I meet most of the women I date or try to date. It seems like the idea is to plan a first date with a girl, and then flake at the last minute without being super apologetic or genuine. Apparently the girl will almost definitely want to see you again soon and when you see her, she'll be more willing to hook up and stuff like that. I think I understand the theory. By ditching a girl, you're planting a seed of insecurity in her mind and she'll feel the need to justify herself to you. So she'll be even more willing to see you and want to impress you, which is prime for getting what you want. I have a major problem with this though. I get ditched on my first dates at an incredibly high rate. I'm usually very upfront with trying to meet someone within a couple days of talking to them. This is because I've spent weeks talking to girls and still had them flake on me, so it's all about maximizing the time I put into things. I'm at the point where I expect to get ditched. I expect to get that "I'm not usually like this but I'm really not feeling well today" text five minutes before leaving the house. Well, maybe I don't expect it, but it certainly doesn't catch me off guard! So because probably over 50% of my dates cancel on me for the first time, I'm hesitant to cancel on them. That first date is elusive, and I can't imagine turning it down. I may start trying it consistently to see if it works, but in the past it has just led to me getting shut out for good. I mean, women are already super sketchy about meeting a stranger who's outside of their comfort level... so ditching them is just doing them a favor and letting them off the hook so to speak. Any tips? Manipulative games = road to failure. That is all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Oh, yes he is. Fame makes anyone good looking. Prime example, Michael Phelps. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Fame makes anyone good looking. Prime example, Michael Phelps. He may not have the best face, but with his height and body, he would do just fine even if he wasnt famous. Link to post Share on other sites
Ripnet Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Fame makes anyone good looking. Prime example, Michael Phelps. You sure have a negative attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 You sure have a negative attitude. Being realistic isn't having a negative attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 Brad Pitt even said he couldn't get a date until he became famous. Yes, Brad Pitt. Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Brad Pitt even said he couldn't get a date until he became famous. Yes, Brad Pitt. Hey...I have this bridge for sale...you interested? Link to post Share on other sites
MomsSpaghetti Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Personally, if a guy flaked on me on the first date without a VERY solid, VERY good reason, I'd feel like I wasn't very important That's the point. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 That's the point. That, in turn, would make him unimportant. Because he feels the need to play with a woman's self-esteem. That would make him rather pathetic, too. No: really pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
loveunlimited Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Fame makes anyone good looking. Prime example, Michael Phelps. Yeah. Fame AND good looks, aced it. Are you famous....? Link to post Share on other sites
Author brandnew2 Posted June 23, 2013 Author Share Posted June 23, 2013 Any idea why this thread was banished from the Dating forum? Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Any idea why this thread was banished from the Dating forum? I'm surprised it wasn't banished, period. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 I rather stay a virgin and have morals/common sense than to be forced to use this crap of the strategy just to keep a woman's interest up. This tells me she isn't a woman worth keeping for the long haul. Link to post Share on other sites
vanek26 Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 I'm surprised it wasn't banished, period. What? It generated a lot of good discussion. I'm at a loss for why it was moved to a less active forum that it doesn't belong in to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
Suave Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 This has never once worked for anyone I have seen attempt it. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 I'm a female and yeah I'm sure it does work on some girls but there's a big risk... do it to the wrong girl and you will never hear from her again. so the question will become, are you prepared to lose your chance with a girl if that method doesn't work? Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 I've seen this pop up a few times throughout this forum, and I've always wanted to try it. Specifically pertaining to OLD because that's the way I meet most of the women I date or try to date. It seems like the idea is to plan a first date with a girl, and then flake at the last minute without being super apologetic or genuine. Apparently the girl will almost definitely want to see you again soon and when you see her, she'll be more willing to hook up and stuff like that. I think I understand the theory. By ditching a girl, you're planting a seed of insecurity in her mind and she'll feel the need to justify herself to you. So she'll be even more willing to see you and want to impress you, which is prime for getting what you want. I have a major problem with this though. I get ditched on my first dates at an incredibly high rate. I'm usually very upfront with trying to meet someone within a couple days of talking to them. This is because I've spent weeks talking to girls and still had them flake on me, so it's all about maximizing the time I put into things. I'm at the point where I expect to get ditched. I expect to get that "I'm not usually like this but I'm really not feeling well today" text five minutes before leaving the house. Well, maybe I don't expect it, but it certainly doesn't catch me off guard! So because probably over 50% of my dates cancel on me for the first time, I'm hesitant to cancel on them. That first date is elusive, and I can't imagine turning it down. I may start trying it consistently to see if it works, but in the past it has just led to me getting shut out for good. I mean, women are already super sketchy about meeting a stranger who's outside of their comfort level... so ditching them is just doing them a favor and letting them off the hook so to speak. Any tips? OP- By doing this...you would be attracting a very insecure person who has image and possibly emotional issues. I have noticed that most women who are secure, interesting and worth second dates won't go for this and you will have wasted both of your time. Also, would it matter to you that doing this to another human being would be exceedingly unkind? Grumps Link to post Share on other sites
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