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[Lauren]

here goes, I have been in a relationship with a man that I care very deeply about and love very much. we have been dating for almost 6 month's and we are ready to have sex. I really want to make love with him, as he does with me. The problem is I am very VERY nervous. He has had other partner's. I know what to do per say, but the act of actually doing it has me scared to death. Can anyone lend some advice on how thing's unfold, or how not to be so darn nervous. Isn't this suppose to be enjoyable?

[Tony T]

It's as simple as shaking hands, except much more enjoyable. Just think, with the exception of a few test tube babies, artificial insemination and some emryo implants, every person you see represents two people who made love about nine months before they were born.

 

If you look at how many people are in the world at this very minute, over 6 billion, you know something about the act must be very pleasurable.

 

Yes, for most people it is scarry to some extent but for many it is something looked forward to with great anticipation. Making love is meant to be a natural and pleasant experience. Your first experience may start out a little awkward but before you know it, you'll be with it 100 percent...and you may not even want to stop.

 

So tell your partner to take it slow and easy the first few times. Start thinking about the experience with joyous anticipation rather than with thoughts of anxiety. There's good reason why sex is the most popular and thought about subject in the minds of almost every human being in the world.

 

You can do like you do at the dentist. If things become too unpleasant, raise your hand and stop the action. When you're relaxed again, you can resume.

 

Have fun!!!

[Nic]

everyone's first time is very nervewracking. no one ever knows what to expect, but that's probably better than having high expectations of it.

 

there's no guidebook or rules to follow when making love, but when it's your first time, the best thing is to take it slow - kissing, touching etc. the more time you spend on foreplay, the less nervous you may feel. sure, you may still feel nervous, but you will be a little more relaxed if you take it slowly. a lot of people, even those who have lost their virginity, still feel nervous with someone new.

 

i remember my first time - i was terrified. i'd heard so many things from so many people and was so confused about what it would be like. but it's different for everyone, so don't listen to what anyone says about, "it feels like this...it was uncomfortable....it was fantastic...". they're all other peoples experiences and yours will be your own and something different to hold on to.

 

try not to worry too much. as long as you feel it's the right thing for you, it will all happen very naturally. and you're probably at an advantage with your boyfriend having had partners before - he'll be aware of how to relax you and make you feel comfortable. even if you don't 'enjoy' it as such the first time, don't worry. with more time spent together, and more experience, you will enjoy it if it feels right to be with him.

 

savour the moment. the first time is always a little strage because it's new territory, but making love is about exploring and sharing feelings and that is special.

 

you'll be fine. just take a deep breath and relax

here goes, I have been in a relationship with a man that I care very deeply about and love very much. we have been dating for almost 6 month's and we are ready to have sex. I really want to make love with him, as he does with me. The problem is I am very VERY nervous. He has had other partner's. I know what to do per say, but the act of actually doing it has me scared to death. Can anyone lend some advice on how thing's unfold, or how not to be so darn nervous. Isn't this suppose to be enjoyable?