Mixed Feelings

[lovetrance]

Hello Guys,

 

I met this lady some weeks back and we have gone out on three dates already.

 

The thing is, she's from another country and she told me she found my country boring and that she wants to go back to her country. So I asked what she finds boring over here and she said she does the same things and goes to the same places every time: beaches, restaurants, nightclubs, bars, etc.

 

My friend was organizing an art exhibition so I asked her to go with me and she said she didn't like art so I asked her if she liked stories and she said yes and I told her that she should go with me to listen to the stories the artworks tell...and I'll enjoy looking at the paintings. So she accepted and we went together.

 

After that, we went out for the second time and then we didn't see each other for 2 weeks but we were texting each other almost every day. I asked her out again and we went on a third date. I actually wasn't expecting her to go on a date with me anymore because I thought I had disappointed her. She asked me for financial help I told her I wasn't comfortable with the situation so I couldn't really help her and she said she understood.

 

On the third date, we were cool for the first hr or so until some other girl I work with came along. We were at a concert and my colleague asked if she could join us and I said sure, why not? We were already sandwiched between other people and I thought it was fine but my date gave was just plain cold when I introduced them. I was embarrassed. I talked to them both but I gave my date more attention. I was sitting between them.

 

After about an hour, we decided to leave as the concert had started to get boring and just before we left, my cousin also showed up at the event. He actually recommended that I take the girl there and that he would also be coming there. I introduced them and again, she was very cold towards him. My cousin was disappointed and I was embarrassed. Actually, my cousin offered to shake her hand and he said "I've heard some good things about you"...I thought he shouldn't have said that because that was just our third date and it wasn't like we had started a deep relationship. She took her time to shake his hand and then we left. She never asked me what my cousin meant by that so I didn't try to explain. I had only told him that I liked the girl and that she was different from the other women I have dated.

 

On our way back, I noticed her mood had changed. I asked her about it and she said she was just tired and sleepy. We talked and maybe I said something that made confusion set in. She told me if she noticed me acting in a funny way, I'll not see her again. I also told her some very unpleasant things but we acted like we were all cool with ourselves and said our goodbyes when I dropped her off. I sent her a txt message when I got home and it's been 3 days and she hasn't sent one back. I am confused.

 

I don't understand why she chose to go out with me again after I disappointed her. Also, I don't understand why she said if I try any funny moves on her, she'll go away forever. What are her intentions? Does she like me? My friend said if she didn't like me she wouldn't go out with me after I disappointed her. I have already made it clear to her that I like her very much. I like her but I am not desperate for her yet. What should I do? Should I call her? Should I text her? Why hasn't she contacted me since we last went out 3 days ago? We had an argument for about 5 minutes but we talked normally after that until I dropped her off. I don't know what's up with her now.

 

Please help.