At a crossroad - Now it's my choice. He will see a therapist.

[hellischrome]

HI everyone,

I already wrote my story somewhere on the forum but things are constantly changing, so just to summarise: been together for 6 months after we both ended our very long distance relationships to stay with each other. We've been arguing for 6 months about pretty much everything: what to have for dinner and what movie to see, about feelings and serious relationship things or the color of my socks. We both went back to our Country for Easter and there we broke up - to get together again after 3 weeks, and found ourself together again on the other side of the world where we both live. In the last few weeks things got harsh, we had 7-hours discussions on our situation and our feelings until yesterday he clearly told me that:

 

- He is going to see a therapist because he is not happy and feels incredibly stressed, especially for his job which he is going to change in 3 weeks time, luckily.

 

- He cannot get over the fact that his ex of 9 years now hates him, and he is also suffering for this reason

 

- He doesn't know if I am the right person, not talking about family and children but just in everyday life.

 

After all of this, he never managed to leave me as he is scared to let me go and to lose me.

 

On the other side, I know my behaviour didn't make things easier but it was a reflection of his behaviour - if I feel the other person distant and unsure about everything, I just go crazy.

 

Now, he is going to see a therapist and said he is scared cause after the therapy he may realise he doens't wanna be with me.

 

At this point, he said is my choice if I want to keep the thing alive trying to give him some tranquillity and realising that in the end he may find out he just want to end things.

Or, I could just end it myself now.

 

Never until now I realised that losing him will make me suffer, because I am suffering already.

 

 

Opinions, anyone?

Edited June 24, 2013 by hellischrome