umirano Posted July 8, 2013 Share Posted July 8, 2013 Keep no contact, it's decent to yourself. Don't worry about the social life. It's normal that texts come in smaller numbers now. I guess most people would have considerably smaller numbers of texts after BU. If you're fine with hanging out with your family that's good. Family ties are important. Your social life will build up slowly. I've never made a good experience when I started hanging out with people just for the sake of hanging out with someone, let alone participating in socially expected behavior like getting wasted just bc many others do (on a given occasion). Link to post Share on other sites
kiwildr Posted July 9, 2013 Share Posted July 9, 2013 (edited) Nothing wrong with hanging out with family, my life to seems to revolve around work and family i can't say I want to hang out with many people from my work either lol... The gym has been the big thing for me although it is really small but i have found a new way to vent boxing - best thing ever. I think the hardest part sometimes when meeting new people/ friends is you have to step outside your comfort zone which can be hard, I ski so I have met heaps of new friends skiing. Initially I am pretty shy until I get to know people, funny because people that know me describe me as bubbly and outgoing...So TK123 time to find something you like to do and join a club or a class that way you are exposed to meeting new people even if you sit back until you get to know them,anyway just a suggestion easier said than done i know.PS A huge thumbs up for staying strong ! Edited July 9, 2013 by kiwildr Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I only have the "gatsby girl" to hang out with which isn't a problem, but I feel like such a loser sometimes being around home a lot when it's summer time. I really wanted to make the most of this summer. ... Most my feeling down problems are with my social life status. I don't have many people to talk with ever since she has been gone, I get only a couple of texts throughout the day and other than that it's all silent. I don't like living like this, I want to change it. ... I'd try to hang out with coworkers if it seemed right but it doesn't. I do heavy road construction, and most the guys I work with are in their 30s-40s married with kids, and the other guys speak very broken English and not guys I can see myself hanging out with. I'm 20 years old, I want to hang out with people around my age. I want to go out and party, I want to have a good time. I'm tired of my parents thinking I stay home too much. I know I do, and I want to get out more. Too bad. I gave you a link to get to know single people locally. But I guess you were not interested. In NYC, this is not an issue. Single people probably outnumber any other category of people. So you just need to join those people and get social. If you don't, it's your decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tk123 Posted July 18, 2013 Author Share Posted July 18, 2013 Hey all sorry for going completely AWOL. I've been extremely busy with work and it's that time of the year where the work is endless. Just to give you guys an update for those of you wondering about my current status!: It is over a month of NC now and I still haven't contacted her. Her birthday has passed and I kept my hands off the phone. That was a big hurdle for me. About a week ago, I was fortunate enough to introduce myself to a girl that was originally met by my family. We have a our first date planned for Sunday and I'm extremely nervous! I made another post on the dating part of this forum for those interested in finding out more: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/409040-how-can-i-prepare-my-first-hangout-date Things have really turned around lately. I've been receiving a lot of compliments on my looks which has been a great motivation booster and I am a lot more confident when approaching woman, more than I've ever used to be. And sorry justwhoiam, I did not mean to ignore your message! I looked into it, and it just didn't seem like something for me. As I mentioned previously I ended up spending the 4th with the family instead which was alright I suppose! Basically that's where I'm at now and I'll be sure to update more when I can! I hope everything is well for all of you and I'll be checking in on some other threads to see how things are going! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SaltwaterHeart Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Yayyy Tk!! Looks like you pulled through the worst, hope things continue to go your way. I'm proud you didn't break NC for her birthday, I think you did the right thing! Link to post Share on other sites
kiwildr Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Way to go TK123 I was wondering about you the other day . Link to post Share on other sites
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