Eggplant Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 "Women have to stick together, or we have nothing." When the BW of my "boyfriend" of 15 months called me to tell me he was actually married, she said that women have to stick together. She told me that he didn't want her; he wanted me. She had 3 children with him and had been with him since she was 15. She was 30. I was 25. If he left her for me, all her time and investment would be down the drain. I got the H*** away from the situation and cut all contact. But anyway, I want to discuss the sentiment. Do women not have a moral obligation towards each other to respect each other's relationships, regardless of what the men in the situation are doing? I personally feel that it isn't right for a younger woman to come along and take an older man away from his older wife and break up his family, even though that may be what the man may want. Of course that's what the man wants. But between women, isn't that a pretty low move? Or is all fair in love and war and it's the law of the jungle that rules? Opinions? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 People in general just need to be decent to each other. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) hey eggplant........ i agree with the sentiment..however..i dont think its a thing that should be "only for the sister hood" thing though.... i think the idea that people should respect people in a relationship thing... where the vows say ....“If anyone here can show just cause as to why these two may not be joined together, let him speak now - or forever hold his peace." In all weddings I have been to, this phrase is greeted by silence. thsi phrase is just and true......but....i feel it should say not only him hold his peace....but people hold your peace...... and just because you didnt attend that wedding or were part of the party ....doesnt mean that you shouldnt think of that phrase when you are looking at a married woman or man...you should hold your peace when it comes to expressing your desire or attraction for that person....is that too idealistic....i dont think so...i just think its the right thing to think of...when you see a tan line.......and an absent ring..or if you see a ring......you ask ...nice tan line there...or what a pretty ring.....and wish that person a happy marriage as you smile and hold your peace as you walk away....so sisters and brothers unite i reckon in protecting and understanding what marriage should be...in respecting what god has said is sanctified.....and ...sacred........what should not be disregarded by either man...or woman............deb Edited June 25, 2013 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
Ripnet Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 And this is why I get leery of women who stick together sort of thing right or wrong. It's women against women kind of stuff that really turns me off. Right or wrong it's women sticking together right or wrong. We are all connected. We are all brothers and sisters. We as a global society should help each other and be kind to each other because we are a global society as a whole one little impact affects the whole. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 The only thing I'm certain about is when people say that it's only the married couple who have a responsibility in an affair triangle. What an annoyingly selfish copout for crappy behaviour. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eggplant Posted June 25, 2013 Author Share Posted June 25, 2013 you should hold your peace when it comes to expressing your desire or attraction for that person.... Yes, it should be this simple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 "Women have to stick together, or we have nothing." When the BW of my "boyfriend" of 15 months called me to tell me he was actually married, she said that women have to stick together. She told me that he didn't want her; he wanted me. She had 3 children with him and had been with him since she was 15. She was 30. I was 25. If he left her for me, all her time and investment would be down the drain. I got the H*** away from the situation and cut all contact. But anyway, I want to discuss the sentiment. Do women not have a moral obligation towards each other to respect each other's relationships, regardless of what the men in the situation are doing? I personally feel that it isn't right for a younger woman to come along and take an older man away from his older wife and break up his family, even though that may be what the man may want. Of course that's what the man wants. But between women, isn't that a pretty low move? Or is all fair in love and war and it's the law of the jungle that rules? Opinions? Do men feel "they need to stick together or they have nothing"? I have never understood this sentiment as I don't see it transcend into other, equally important areas, like civil rights, equatable pay, upward mobility in the workplace, etc. Where is it for that? Where is it for women fully supporting other women in their right to choice, education, government assistance? I would assume, then, that all women are big proponents of all of this and are actively helping women of all socioeconomic groups? Right? We are all up there politically, socially, economically, and philosophically supporting our fellow sisters! Crickets. . . Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Do men feel "they need to stick together or they have nothing"? I have never understood this sentiment as I don't see it transcend into other, equally important areas, like civil rights, equatable pay, upward mobility in the workplace, etc. Crickets. . . what i have found is it is good to have support from the sisterhood a unified belief in nurturing the world along with family friends lovers brothers and perfect strangers .........but to truly make a change it needs to be people supporting each other regardless of gender...people unite with people..in regards to protecting relationships and or marriages it needs to be a people thing... and not segregation due to gender, or, any more responsibility placed on either sex , or any other characteristic....men and women are not the same, never will be the same but we can come together and when we do....change abounds......smilin....i love crickets by the way......they are just so chirpy.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eggplant Posted June 25, 2013 Author Share Posted June 25, 2013 Do men feel "they need to stick together or they have nothing"? I don't know. The BW in my case came from a conservative country where the women stay at home and are dependent on their husbands for income. This background might have influenced the view of the situation, with regards to what you have and don't have if you don't look out for each other. I have never understood this sentiment as I don't see it transcend into other, equally important areas, like civil rights, equatable pay, upward mobility in the workplace, etc. I'm asking about what should they do. And I do think women should support each other in the areas you mentioned. Your point, I think, seems to be that you do not have a moral obligation to look out for other people because other people do not look out for your interests, am I correct? Link to post Share on other sites
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