GuyInLimbo Posted June 28, 2013 Share Posted June 28, 2013 Also, he said it seems we heading to that direction (divorce), but it is early to tell. I aslo asked, to be honest if he gave up on our marriage, his response was, " not completely, but I am very close". And that is why he is asking now for space to evaluate what he wants. Looks like 6 months was not enough time for him to do that. In the name of what I should give him this time and space? Stop. Making. Excuses. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissMiss707 Posted June 28, 2013 Author Share Posted June 28, 2013 Stop. Making. Excuses. There is a lot of pain and anger on my end, but second time giving space will be the last one, and if a divorce it's inevitable, it will happen no matter what. I'm a forgiving person, because I believe in karma. I'm mad at myself a lot of times, but that's just me, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 If you want to know what Karma truly is - read the third link in my signature. And know that his actions have brought this consequence, on himself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissMiss707 Posted June 29, 2013 Author Share Posted June 29, 2013 If you want to know what Karma truly is - read the third link in my signature. And know that his actions have brought this consequence, on himself. I understand that he's getting hit by Krama, because from what his mom told me he treated the same his ex, girlfriends who has been with for 4 years, cheated on her, that's why she dumped him. And now insanity has the tendency to do the same. It's first marriage for both of us, that's why, even I'm running out of strength, I want to make sure I did everything I could to fix things. It's hard, nowadays people trow away something broken instead of fixing it. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 He may have an OW - and he may be waiting to see IF/WHEN she's free to see him. If/SINCE he's not making only YOU his priority - there's good reason to make the decision for yourself to end it - looks like he's never going to decide as long as you allow him to be a cake eater. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 29, 2013 Share Posted June 29, 2013 I understand that he's getting hit by Krama, because from what his mom told me he treated the same his ex, girlfriends who has been with for 4 years, cheated on her, that's why she dumped him. And now insanity has the tendency to do the same. It's first marriage for both of us, that's why, even I'm running out of strength, I want to make sure I did everything I could to fix things. It's hard, nowadays people trow away something broken instead of fixing it. You're both married, right? In the same marriage, right? Well, you both have 50/50 shares in this - and sadly, you can only be responsible for 50% of the input/effort. He is doing totally zero to make any headway. And you cannot make up his shortfall - neither should you have to, nor would you be expected to. If he won't do any of the work - and it's abundantly clear he has absolutely no intention of doing so - no matter what you might try to fix - it won't be fixed. You won't be throwing anything away. He's the one shoving it in the dumpster. You - are NOT trash. I'm sorry, but I really think you need to draw a line under this, and file. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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