MrTurk Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 One thing I've noticed when reading the questions and answers here on this site...is that many women just dont understand what a single, honest, non game playing male has to go through when it comes to dating, or even making new friends. I've heard sooo many women tell me or other guys..."Just smile and be friendly...it works wonder for me" Well yea.. of course it works for you.. you are a female! Do they not understand how much different it is?? If a decent looking woman smiles and shows guys attention.....shes going to get attention back. If a decent looking guy tries to do the same thing...most women will blow him off, even if he's just being friendly, and not hitting on her. Especially if you approach women at the "wrong" time. Which seems to be about 23 hours and 45 mins out of every day. I've heard it directly from the mouths of women...."I hate when guys approach me at (insert pretty much any spot on planet earth). When in the hell IS it a good time and place to approach a woman?? I seriously think its never a good time....unless the guy is tall dark and handsome....then all of a sudden never a good time, becomes lets have a good time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 have you been on the site long? from your posting history you have six posts and yet you formulate a perception i gather your posts from a thread that is about having a big dick......now i dont know about other women on this site...but i dont go around talking about big dicks in real life.......it makes no difference to me....i do not ask a guy to show me his member so i can measure it and compare with my ex.....dick size ...height.....race culture doesnt matter to me......there are a lot fo women in real life who feel the same way....and it has been done to death and back again about height and dick size on this site.............. i think life is what you make it.....love is how you see yourself not others..a mirror if you like..dating is a minefield of uncertainty.......sort of like this site...people asking for advice because they are uncertain.......struggling posters who seek out like minded souls.......male or female.....most posters on this site are struggling or have struggled and then stick around to offer help to others...and some people are on here to simply try and help...this site like life....i swhat you make of it...you see what you want to see.....how blinkered that sight is...is up to you..best wishes.......deb 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted June 25, 2013 Author Share Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) have you been on the site long? from your posting history you have six posts and yet you formulate a perception FYI . . . Theres more to life and experiences than just this site. I know I have to add this disclaimer....because nowadays EVERYONE gets offended one way or another.... When I say women...I dont mean every woman on the entire planet....I know theres exceptions, and I know it doesnt fit each and every one. Edited June 25, 2013 by MrTurk Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 FYI . . . Theres more to life and experiences than just this site absolutely true mr turk........do you feel that in my post i said there wasnt more to life than this site.............. One thing I've noticed when reading the questions and answers here on this site...is that many women just dont understand what a single, honest, non game playing male has to go through when it comes to dating, or even making new friends. I seriously think its never a good time....unless the guy is tall dark and handsome....then all of a sudden never a good time, becomes lets have a good time. so lets take your fyi post to me( if a guy said to me fyi in real life i would smile and tell him to go jump)..but yet i have a strong desire to answer you on here.....go figure.........you are here for advice right.....but yet you dont believe the women on this site have a clue....so do you feel women should not post to you and it should be men who answer then because they know better what a woman thinks or wants....... women dont understand on here ....true that......that is why women along with men are also asking for advice.......i honestly think you dont understand women.......i dont think any man is meant to understand completely a woman..there needs to be an element of unpredictability. we are meant to think differently....or we would all be men or all women..we are meant to be a contrast and a complement to a man...thats my opinion....which aint worth much other than to me.....deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted June 25, 2013 Author Share Posted June 25, 2013 Yes I agree and understand that women and men think, act, and perceive differently. Thats why my post says I dont think women get it when us guys post things about not getting a date, or friends, etc.... Because women live in a world where they are accepted by the opposite sex, guys approach them, guys want to talk to them, guys like hanging out with them.....and most women really dont have to do much to garner that attention. Whereas most guys cant just walk in a place and get all kinds of attention like a woman can. Its a totally different world. Guys have to have that image, or looks to get attention....or a really good gift of gab. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 One thing I've noticed when reading the questions and answers here on this site...is that many women just dont understand what a single, honest, non game playing male has to go through when it comes to dating, or even making new friends. Tip: In general, they don't care. Harsh reality for many of us. That's alright. Not caring can be a two-way street. Good luck. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted June 26, 2013 Author Share Posted June 26, 2013 Tip: In general, they don't care. Harsh reality for many of us. That's alright. Not caring can be a two-way street. Good luck. That will always be my downfall...I do care. I care about women, and I care about myself. I'll never turn into one of those people that treats women like **** because they treated me like **** in the past. I may sound all tough and cold on here, but thats because I am blunt, and to the point. Sugar coating doesnt exist with me. But I always treat women with respect and have manners when I'm out with one on a date or something. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 That will always be my downfall...I do care. I care about women, and I care about myself. I'll never turn into one of those people that treats women like **** because they treated me like **** in the past. I may sound all tough and cold on here, but thats because I am blunt, and to the point. Sugar coating doesnt exist with me. But I always treat women with respect and have manners when I'm out with one on a date or something. Meh, I don't think you really care about our problems either. I mean you are already assuming that we just have men all over us and don't need to do anything to date or find a relationship which often times is far from truth for the average woman. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Yes I agree and understand that women and men think, act, and perceive differently. Thats why my post says I dont think women get it when us guys post things about not getting a date, or friends, etc.... Because women live in a world where they are accepted by the opposite sex, guys approach them, guys want to talk to them, guys like hanging out with them.....and most women really dont have to do much to garner that attention. Whereas most guys cant just walk in a place and get all kinds of attention like a woman can. Its a totally different world. Guys have to have that image, or looks to get attention....or a really good gift of gab. It really isn't a totally different world because we all live in it...perceptions differ......likes and dislikes differ......i dont know what it feels like to be a man who gets rejected but i do know what it feels like to be rejected as a woman....i do know what its like to feel discarded and over looked.......taken for granted........as a single mum i dont think i have it easy when considering dating....neither do i think anyone does have it easy when it comes to dating...as it always uncertain what the outcome may be........so... i do understand that its hard sometimes.....but i dont let it get me down to where i have no hope....i take the punches and i roll with hope i dont slam into a wall...have developed a really good rolling strategy....shoulder first always less pain.......and then I get back up again with good friends family and a belief i deserve to have someone special.....everyone should feel that they deserve that someone special when i am down i let myself feel down ...until i feel better........just take some time mr turk.....to feel better about everything before you take another roll in the dating pool.... and do know this.....there are women who care and respect men as much as you respect them and there are women also who find it hard to deal with rejection too...its disappointing.....and brings you down.....when all you want to do is be happy and up there.....i feel that.........sending you best wishes......from deb the roller.....:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 My GOD would you guys PLEASE stop complaining about this! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 That will always be my downfall...I do care. I care about women, and I care about myself. There is a difference between caring about fellow human beings as such, fellow human beings, and caring about the trials and tribulations of the minutiae of their lives. I was speaking to the latter. I'll never turn into one of those people that treats women like **** because they treated me like **** in the past. I think that's healthy. That's very different from 'not caring' as I described it. Not caring is neutrality. Indifference. It's neither good nor bad. It is nothing. I may sound all tough and cold on here, but thats because I am blunt, and to the point. Sugar coating doesnt exist with me. I think you'll find a lot of allies here. There's room for everyone. But I always treat women with respect and have manners when I'm out with one on a date or something. Me too. Again, that's different from caring. In my case, after a lot of life experience and being married, care, and love, are earned. Otherwise, it's onward, treating other human beings with respect and proceeding alone. It's a great place to be. No rewards at the end. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 I care to the extent that people care about others. If a woman complains that all men are shallow but then is even more shallow then she claims men are then cry me a river. The same goes for men. I don't feel bad for people being treated the way they treat others. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 I used to be a single, honest, non game playing male...and other than a bad time in my life when I was trying to get back with my ex, I had no issues with dating, etc. In fact, I would say, compared to most of my friends, I've had the easiest time. First one to get snapped up, first to get married, etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 I'm sure others have seen this before. The OP's basic point has been noticed and made fun of by others before. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Because women live in a world where they are accepted by the opposite sex, guys approach them, guys want to talk to them, guys like hanging out with them.....and most women really dont have to do much to garner that attention. Whereas most guys cant just walk in a place and get all kinds of attention like a woman can. Its a totally different world. Guys have to have that image, or looks to get attention....or a really good gift of gab. You are wrong. Most men live in a world where they are absolutely accepted by most women. Most men are capable to choose as many quality women as they want. Most men are effective in chasing women who are out of their league in terms of age and whatever. They can do it because they have a biological right to choose. But, you are complaining about the biological right to choose. Its a totally different world because women have to reject too many loosers who are not good enough for anything. It is about being a looser in terms of man's emotional intelligence but it is not about men's looks. Link to post Share on other sites
L1ght Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) Interesting thread and this topic definitely has relevance. Its so so true that women get way more attention from men than men do from women and because of this our approaches to getting new partners is completely different. Men are biologically designed to chase women and they simply aren't as picky as women because they are not the ones with so many members of the opposite sex propositioning them and giving them attention constantly. The fact is that even average looking women get endless amounts of guys drooling over them on a weekly basis and because of this there is an inverse and opposite reaction which is that average guys don't get as much attention since those women already have a dozen options to choose from so they don't ever feel the need to chase. This is also one of the reasons that any woman who is even slightly attractive often emits an aura of confidence, has an overbearing opinion of herself and is completely self obsessed. Its because guys that constantly give them attention just end up boosting their egos and self esteem while inadvertently making them feel like they are better than everyone else. Its just the way humans are designed and its never gonna change. Edited June 26, 2013 by L1ght 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 it's true... a woman can get any man she wants... as long as she's only after sex, if it's a relationship then very rare. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Introvert Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 (edited) You are wrong. Most men live in a world where they are absolutely accepted by most women. Most men are capable to choose as many quality women as they want. Most men are effective in chasing women who are out of their league in terms of age and whatever. They can do it because they have a biological right to choose. But, you are complaining about the biological right to choose. Its a totally different world because women have to reject too many loosers who are not good enough for anything. It is about being a looser in terms of man's emotional intelligence but it is not about men's looks. Applause!..... Edited June 26, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fixed quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted June 26, 2013 Author Share Posted June 26, 2013 Its a totally different world because women have to reject too many loosers who are not good enough for anything. Women as a whole, need to reject even more losers than they already do....because there are way too many cheaters, liars, and jerks that women still date for whatever unknown reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 i'm starting to learn to not have sympathy for any women anymore, no matter how harsh the things they are dealing with, even if it means they are victims of domestic violence or rape, they will not get any of my sympathy, no sympathy from me, because after all, since they don't owe me anything, they don't owe me jack****!, therefore, I won't owe them anything either, that will make it more fair, even, I think the only true sympathy a man will get from a woman in his life is from his mom and aunt, or other female relatives, but even if a man has a girlfriend/wife, and the woman has sympathy for him, I bet on a deep subconscious level, she is not feeling sympathy for him wow….just…wow! Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 -- a man would f*k a coffee table during a dry spell -- which also does nothing for the ego. oh cmon.... I'd only resort to that after somehow losing function of both of my hands Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 They don't realize the difference because, the men that they know (who are by far in the majority) don't experience the same problems that struggling men do. Believe it or not, if you are a man who struggles to get dates you are in the severe minority. Most men have no issues getting dates, and usually pretty decent women. We're all victims to our experiences. And for most women they see men going out and having a blast out in the dating world. They worry about trying to attract these men, etc. And they're totally dumbfounded when they hear about or meet a guy who struggles. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Women as a whole, need to reject even more losers than they already do....because there are way too many cheaters, liars, and jerks that women still date for whatever unknown reason. That's why the return on investment for dating older women gets smaller. You date women who are already jaded. They've seen it all. Games, lies, BS, manipulations, etc. Then when a good man comes along they believe that he is too good to be true. Too much to deal with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 They don't realize the difference because, the men that they know (who are by far in the majority) don't experience the same problems that struggling men do. Believe it or not, if you are a man who struggles to get dates you are in the severe minority. Most men have no issues getting dates, and usually pretty decent women. We're all victims to our experiences. And for most women they see men going out and having a blast out in the dating world. They worry about trying to attract these men, etc. And they're totally dumbfounded when they hear about or meet a guy who struggles. "Struggling guys" may be in the minority but its certainly a significant one. Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted June 27, 2013 Share Posted June 27, 2013 I guess that is karma for them I feel obligated to post this link : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/spirituality-religious-beliefs/390207-s-not-karma-karma Karma.... doesn't mean what we keep using it to mean Link to post Share on other sites
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