Am I doing too much too soon?

[Unluckyinlove5]

Hello. This is my first post, so here it goes. I have been in a long distance relationship for all ten months of the relationship. In two months, instead of being 8 hours away, we will be only 1 1/2 hours away because I will be in his state for graduate school. So, this past weekend, we were texting about where we see ourselves in 5 years. He said somewhere with me, out of school (he's still in college but 27...he just went back to school because he dropped out earlier), and making money. I said the same thing but i added, "with a ring on my finger". He said that he agreed on everything but the engagment part. So, the conversation blew up to where he became very defensive and refused to answer any of my questions such as: why cant he see me being engaged to him within 5 years and what makes him think I will stay around for 6 or so years waiting for a ring (because I think 4-5 years is the max that I should have to wait for a ring). Of course we ended the conversation angry and we hadn't talked in 4 days until I decided to call him (big mistake). He was still not ready to talk to me but I missed him and my mood and sleep had been effected by not knowing where we stood. We argued again and he said that he actually enjoyed his space away from me. I flipped out because being in a long distance relationship, we have to talk and to go 4 days without talking is unheard of for us. While on the phone I talked to him very calmly (which I usually don't do if I'm upset) but he was still very cold. I asked him again when he thought he would be ready to propose and he said I scared him, it was too early for any of that, and that he didn't know. Well I finally was able to get him to say an answer and boy oh boy did I not like it. He said he would probably propose after 6 years. 6 years or more!!! I'm 24, he's 27, and time waits for no one. I feel as though thats too long to be in a relationship with someone because I believe you know by the 3rd year whether you want to be with someone for the long haul or not. I just don't know if I should leave, stay and leave after 5 years, or just stay for the 6,7,8, 9, or 10 years. So tell me, am I doing too much too soon?

[lakeshore678]

I don't think you should call him again until he calls you. If he's just playing a game and trying to wait you out, he'll call eventually, and if doesn't care, you'll find that out too.