miserablemom Posted October 17, 2004 Share Posted October 17, 2004 I am married and have 2 small children. I was madly in love with a man a long time ago and my parents forced me to stop seeing him. We were so in love with each other and I have never had closure. I thought I was marrying a wonderful man who was fun to be with and would love me unconditionally and take care of me always. He has been a huge disappointment. He has a lot of problems and he and his family have caused me a great deal of problems. I have suffered through an affair, continuous problems from his ex-wife and children from that marriage, etc. We have been to counseling and you name it and he does not change. I am so confused. I think I would be better off emotionally out of the marriage but I don't know what to do or where to start. As for the other man, he eventually moved on, married and has a baby with his wife. I still think about him and know that I can't have him. He is taken. I am married. I wish I could stop thinking about him. I saw him recently and the "chemistry" was still very much there. He lives a long ways from here which is probably good. I keep telling myself that we are not the same 2 people anymore. I just can't seem to get him off of my mind and really never have. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Share Posted October 21, 2004 You are only thinking about him because you dont have anybody else to think about. I am sure your relationship was ideal as you said. But, you now have a void in your life and you cant fill it. So you reach back to your past. Yes I am also sure the chemistry is still there. But I am glad also that he lives far away. Why would you want to try to build happiness on someone else's misery. Its a hard lesson in life sometimes when we have to learn to never give up someone we love for our parents. Our parents will be buried and we will living with our mistakes. It wasn't a good idea. If you feel that you are better off out of the marriage then I suggest you take some steps to get out of your marriage. And then try to find the chemistry elsewhere. I am sure it will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
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