Ex came back around. Sadly, not the ex I want

[scorpio1978]

Good night Scorpio, and sleep well with a clear mind...

 

 

Past, you have been on this site and posted enough to be able to receive private messages. Try to change your settings, that way you can send me a message if you would like. You can of course continue to post and let others chime in, but for our own conversations, feel free to send me a message if you need

[pasteurization]

Hi Scorpio--

 

I tried to set up a private message, but it said that I still don't have enough time / posts on the site... I would love to communicate directly though. I can set up a single use gmail account so we can exchange emails if you'd be OK with that. Just let me know.

 

In a worse place today. I have a single mutual friend of hers on Facebook, and I saw she was posting comments all day (I wasn't searching, it just came up in News Feed), so she clearly is completely fine / oblivious, and has plenty of time on her hands. It felt like ice going through me when I saw that, and I blocked the friend immediately.

 

I feel like just writing her and telling her to please just say its over and put me out of my misery. Is this complete lack of contact just intentional cruelty on her part? I'm finding it hard to see any other way.

[aloneinaz]

Hi Scorpio--

 

I tried to set up a private message, but it said that I still don't have enough time / posts on the site... I would love to communicate directly though. I can set up a single use gmail account so we can exchange emails if you'd be OK with that. Just let me know.

 

In a worse place today. I have a single mutual friend of hers on Facebook, and I saw she was posting comments all day (I wasn't searching, it just came up in News Feed), so she clearly is completely fine / oblivious, and has plenty of time on her hands. It felt like ice going through me when I saw that, and I blocked the friend immediately.

 

I feel like just writing her and telling her to please just say its over and put me out of my misery. Is this complete lack of contact just intentional cruelty on her part? I'm finding it hard to see any other way.

 

Most people are not going to post that they are miserable in their lives on Facebook. They are going to put on a show about how great thier lives are, how happy they are in their new freedom, etc.. Maybe you should stay off facebook or block anyone that has any contact with her so you don't get knocked off your feet.

 

She's not ignoring to be cruel. She's probably just trying to move on with her life right now. You should be doing the same. GO full NC unless she contacts with the "I made a mistake and want you back"... email or text..

[pasteurization]

Scorpio--

 

you can reach me at adxev234 at gmail dot com. I'll delete this account if / when we're in contact.

[pasteurization]

Most people are not going to post that they are miserable in their lives on Facebook. They are going to put on a show about how great thier lives are, how happy they are in their new freedom, etc.. Maybe you should stay off facebook or block anyone that has any contact with her so you don't get knocked off your feet.

 

She's not ignoring to be cruel. She's probably just trying to move on with her life right now. You should be doing the same. GO full NC unless she contacts with the "I made a mistake and want you back"... email or text..

 

Thanks Aloneinaz--

 

There are some complicating factors that make this difficult to move on right now. I told her before she left on her 3 week trip (around 2 weeks ago) that I was going to cancel all dating that I had going on, because I didn't want to mess up even the possibility of us being back together. She told me then that she couldn't guarantee we'd be together, but I wanted to prove myself, and she accepted that.

 

I'm not exactly ready to jump into dating right now anyway, but she has just been completely silent. No acknowledgement that I should drop my hopes and that she has changed her mind. I would think she'd at least have sent me a note to say that I shouldn't wait up for her. She has left me emotionally twisting in the wind. That's why I just want an answer...

[scorpio1978]

Scorpio--

 

you can reach me at adxev234 at gmail dot com. I'll delete this account if / when we're in contact.

 

I just sent you something

[scorpio1978]

Hey all,

 

 

I've had some ex girlfriends return when I had gone NC

 

One returned after 3 months by sending an apology email, asking me back.

Another returned every 1-2 months asking me back, (this lasted a year almost, crazy)

 

My recent ex, I think it's been a month and a half now since our breakup. I was thinking about her the other day, I gave her a lot of love, something I know she wouldn't easily find in somebody else, so this breakup I had, I'm thinking is it my fault? There wasn't really anything else I could have done for her..so why would she end the relationship..? (Over a few stupid arguments?) Just don't understand the logic, but meh, whatever. I should kill myself for just bringing up my ex lol.

 

I must say that I am a lot better as I posted here a few weeks back, I don't check my phone anymore hoping she will text, nor am I counting the days I've been in NC. Her loss in the end, but sometimes relationships just confused me to hell.

 

Good luck scorpio, it's a good feeling when your ex who screwed you over comes back isnt it? the shift in power changes.

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Kris, I am so sorry that I am only just now seeing this. I am glad you are doing better and are able to see that it's her loss indeed that she isn't with you. That's the right attitude to have. It's when people start beating themselves up and feeling badly about themselves over a break-up where things get scary.

 

It certainly is a good feeling when that person you wanted for so long to come back around finally does, but can I tell you the truth? By the time they do that, there is almost no satisfaction in it because enough time has passed where I almost don't care anymore. It's just amazing. Are you still doing well with the NC?