My ex cheated on me 5 times, but I still want to be with him? He has a gf though?

[Epileptic Techno]

So I recently broke up with my ex of two years, and we broke up because he cheated on me 5 times, and then a month after we broke up, he started dating one of the girls he cheated on me with. It's been two months since this has happened, and I recently started hanging out with him in private, because not many of our friends know we talk, but we both still in love with each other.

 

But we've had many talks about getting back together and such, he says he has realized his mistakes, how he couldn't believe what he had done, and he says how I am the one for him, and he can't see himself being with anyone else. The only thing is that the girl he's dating, he doesn't even love her, he just likes her from what he has told me. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but yet he's still dating her? On the other hand, I told him my trust level with him wouldn't be the best, and he told me point blank that he can't promise that he won't cheat on me again, or he can't trust himself to not doing again, or something similar.

 

He was also talking about marriage, and I was like woah there! On some of the occasions he said he really wanted to kiss me and I did too, but i told him no because he has a gf! He also proposed the idea of taking a shower together, and he assumes that "nothing will happen, it'll just be a shower with two ppl in it." But anyway, what should I do?

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[Opentruth]

Run the other direction really fast. He wants to take a shower with you? Really what for? "Oh nothing will happen, oops sorry"

 

Can't garrentee he won't cheat on you again? Really are you going to put yourself in the same situation. That is just license for him to cheat and say sorry.

 

Let me ask you something, what do you think he tells all the other girls? This guy sounds like a player to me.

 

I don't want to get down on women, but they so easily believe what a guy says. Look at his actions, you will see more there than anything else.

 

Save your heart for a guy who can tell the difference netween feelings coming from his penis and those from hismheart.

 

Tis guy siunds imature and probably doesn't know the difference

 

Sorry to be so harsh, but I just wouldn't want you to fall for it again.

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[Opentruth]

Sorry,for all my mispellings, I typed it qucik on my iPad and fingers don't work as well as when I am using a regular keyboard

Run the other direction really fast. He wants to take a shower with you? Really what for? "Oh nothing will happen, oops sorry"

 

Can't garrentee he won't cheat on you again? Really are you going to put yourself in the same situation. That is just license for him to cheat and say sorry.

 

Let me ask you something, what do you think he tells all the other girls? This guy sounds like a player to me.

 

I don't want to get down on women, but they so easily believe what a guy says. Look at his actions, you will see more there than anything else.

 

Save your heart for a guy who can tell the difference netween feelings coming from his penis and those from hismheart.

 

 

Tis guy siunds imature and probably doesn't know the difference

 

Sorry to be so harsh, but I just wouldn't want you to fall for it again.

[mammasita]

Ugh. Ditch him. Nobody who means well will sit there and profess their love for you while seeing someone else. He's trying to reel you in and make sure you're committed before he bails on this other chick. He obviously can't be alone. I would venture to say that he's a narcissist. Read about it and see if he has any of the traits.

 

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Treatment, Symptoms, Causes - MedicineNet

 

Anyway, narcissist or not......ditch him.

[mammasita]

You don't have to post this multiple times in different areas. Once is just fine.

[JustAReformedGirl]

I wouldn't engage in anything with him. If he breaks it off with her, I wouldn't go back to him. He's told you he can't promise to not be unfaithful again. If he really, really loved you, and really meant all that he said, he would reform from cheating.

 

I suggest backing away from him. Even if you don't give in to doing anything with him, he'll likely hurt you because of the proximity, and the b.s. he's been spoon-feeding you.

 

It's your choice to make, but I really do advise against trusting him.

[Lillyfree]

he's cheated on you 5 times. tells you he loves you but can't promise to be faithful... this guy doesn't even deserve your 'hello', let alone some quasi-friendship where he wants to shower with you.

 

cmon, think a little bit more of yourself. some people are cancer and need to be cut off - this guy surely qualifies!

[ForeverHopeful1]

So I recently broke up with my ex of two years, and we broke up because he cheated on me 5 times, and then a month after we broke up, he started dating one of the girls he cheated on me with. It's been two months since this has happened, and I recently started hanging out with him in private, because not many of our friends know we talk, but we both still in love with each other. But we've had many talks about getting back together and such, he says he has realized his mistakes, how he couldn't believe what he had done, and he says how I am the one for him, and he can't see himself being with anyone else. The only thing is that the girl he's dating, he doesn't even love her, he just likes her from what he has told me. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but yet he's still dating her? On the other hand, I told him my trust level with him wouldn't be the best, and he told me point blank that he can't promise that he won't cheat on me again, or he can't trust himself to not doing again, or something similar. He was also talking about marriage, and I was like woah there! On some of the occasions he said he really wanted to kiss me and I did too, but i told him no because he has a gf! He also proposed the idea of taking a shower together, and he assumes that "nothing will happen, it'll just be a shower with two ppl in it." But anyway, what should I do?

 

You should change your number, block his a$$ from you life and find someone who knows your worth. Ignore this loser. In my opinion, that is what you should do.

[The Way I Am]

Get as far away from him any way you can.

 

I usually try to give the cheater who's not here to represent themselves the benefit of the doubt that they're not just completely selfish, serial cheating scumbags. But in this case, there's little doubt. That's all you've got.

 

Why are you considering taking this guy back?

[aisuru]

He doesn't love you. He loves himself.

 

RUN!! Don't walk...

 

Why would you want to be with a cheater who basically said he will always cheat on you? Give that some thought...

 

He wants you to be available for sex. End of story.

 

You deserve better than that.

[Zahara]

He learned from his mistakes? Read below. WTF is wrong with you?

 

"he told me point blank that he can't promise that he won't cheat on me again, or he can't trust himself to not doing again, or something similar."

 

If he's cheating on his girlfriend with you, he's learned nothing. All he's learned is that cheating is acceptable to you. And he'll do it again.

 

There is no love.

[Pelaine]

When someone tells you, and shows you, how they are, believe them!

[georgia girl]

Techno,

 

Someone has cheated on you five times. He broke up with you to date another woman. He is now attempting to cheat on her with you. To top it all off, he is being very, very manipulative by telling you that yes, he'll come back but you'll have to put up with his cheating.

 

Why would you want this? If you can come up with a cogent argument about how this is satisfying, fulfilling and self-affirming for you, I'd love to hear it.

[crederer]

Are you cool with being in a polygamous relationship? If yes, then fine and dandy, if no, then this isn't the guy for you.

[TG1]

So I recently broke up with my ex of two years, and we broke up because he cheated on me 5 times, and then a month after we broke up, he started dating one of the girls he cheated on me with. It's been two months since this has happened, and I recently started hanging out with him in private, because not many of our friends know we talk, but we both still in love with each other.

 

But we've had many talks about getting back together and such, he says he has realized his mistakes, how he couldn't believe what he had done, and he says how I am the one for him, and he can't see himself being with anyone else. The only thing is that the girl he's dating, he doesn't even love her, he just likes her from what he has told me. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but yet he's still dating her? On the other hand, I told him my trust level with him wouldn't be the best, and he told me point blank that he can't promise that he won't cheat on me again, or he can't trust himself to not doing again, or something similar.

 

He was also talking about marriage, and I was like woah there! On some of the occasions he said he really wanted to kiss me and I did too, but i told him no because he has a gf! He also proposed the idea of taking a shower together, and he assumes that "nothing will happen, it'll just be a shower with two ppl in it." But anyway, what should I do?

 

 

If I were you, I would cut my losses and move on, because if he really wanted to be with you, don't you think that he would've been with you by now? Honestly ask yourself that before you go holding out hope for something that quite frankly is a waste of time and if anything I think he is only saying that because he wants you to be his "side girl" when he is obviously with this other girl that he cheated on you with, and do you honestly want that for yourself? If I were you, I would tell him that if he really wanted you, that he should break up with this other girl